Things Have to Change
By Jordan Lader
@JordanLader (5482)
Sparta, Tennessee
February 19, 2025 9:43am CST
So when we moved down here about 13 years ago, the idea was that we would live with my parents until we got on our feet.
It was a great plan until it wasn't.
We got on our feet then my dad's health began to decline.
Then we got swept off our feet with the declining economy and higher cost of living.
Then dad's health again.
My mom is capable but she is so used to having me around, that she isn't used to doing much work...at least that's what I'm guessing.
It's just getting to the point that it's hard to have both households living under one roof.
Most of the house is mine if you look at material things. The shop takes up the dining room. Then there's our bedroom and I take the extra bedroom with the bearded dragon and containers of books. I have half of the computer room with my computer and CDs. The kitchen is about a quarter mine because I buy different gadgets and ingredients that I use to cook and bake with.
I love my family. I truly do. However living with them is becoming very hard.
I push the shop to save as much as I can. I work the hours for Chris to try and save. I work the computer to try and save. My husband works a full time job and works over when he can to save.
Bills take over sometimes though and lets face it, we're still trying to catch up from when he didn't work in December.
We have a long road ahead of us but something has to give...right?
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@lilacskies (4616)
• United States
19 Feb
I think it's time for you to move since living with them is becoming very hard. It will only get more difficult from here on out.
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@JordanLader (5482)
• Sparta, Tennessee
19 Feb
We're working on it. Houses went through the roof. The cheapest one we've found is like 250K and the mortgage on them are about 16-1800 a month which is hard when you also add in monthly bills and necessities.
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@lilacskies (4616)
• United States
19 Feb
@JordanLader I know. Real estate is really expensive and has been for years. Is rent any cheaper or are you trying to buy a place?
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@JordanLader (5482)
• Sparta, Tennessee
19 Feb
@lilacskies We would take either right now but the rent for places around here are just as bad. It's just bad all around right now. Nothing under 1200 a month and that does not include utilities.
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@Dreamerby (6549)
• Calcutta, India
19 Feb
Yeah our life is filled with these battles. I hope you overcome them. However, all that matters is a loving family and a supporting partner. You have got both. Lots of love and good wishes for your upcoming days.
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@JordanLader (5482)
• Sparta, Tennessee
19 Feb
Thank you. I think we all butt heads because we're so alike but yes we do all love each other.
@snowy22315 (185420)
• United States
19 Feb
You both seem to be working a lot, not sure why you aren't getting ahead. Do you pay your parents anything for living there?
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@JordanLader (5482)
• Sparta, Tennessee
19 Feb
No, we got into a lot of debt so now one of his checks goes to Wentworth every month. With him getting paid every two weeks, it's a lot. My hours vary. Plus insurance comes out of his check and that about $300.
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@JordanLader (5482)
• Sparta, Tennessee
19 Feb
Oh I know they would. I just don't know if anyone would survive if we do.
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@RevivedWarrior (3594)
• India
19 Feb
Sounds like a tough scenario You did everything you could, but still, it looks like uphill task. You love your family and you are working hard to balance everything. However, it is also understandable it is becoming difficult to live under one roof. You are putting lot of effort to save and move forward, although it is a long road. Perhaps things take time. Meantime please do take care of yourself. I guess you need to sit down with family and have a deep conversation. Perhaps setting boundaries and making some comprises could help lessen the tension. Good Luck!
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@JordanLader (5482)
• Sparta, Tennessee
19 Feb
We tried that at one point and it didn't work. I think it's because it's hard to not see me as their baby and as the adult that I am.
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