Did you ever lend somebody something and it was returned in terrible condition?

If that happens they can keep it.

Yes, I have lent clothes in the past and some would come back stained. I just threw them out because the stains wouldn't wash off no matter how much I tried.

That is why I hate lending thing people don’t have the same respect for things that I do and it’s really upsetting getting things back ruined or not getting them back at all. I was thinking of you on my travels just now. I know you live somewhere in Virginia. We stopped in one town for a diaper change and again in Ashland at Wawa for yet another diaper change and to try out their mocha mint iced coffee a friend recommended. Driving through Richmond on the highway I pointed out a mural and my little one said it should be her picture on the mural .

We had the first grandchild on my side of the family. We were the first to buy a crib, mattress, change table and so on. Everything else we pretty much got as shower gifts, actually the change table was a shower gift too. I told my brothers that I would like share the crib when they needed it. I lent it to my brother, who after his son was out of it my other brother borrowed it and the change table. When the first brother went to have their second baby, they went to my other brother's place, and took the furniture, even though their second was still using it, and they took it for their second one. When I got it back, 7 years after that one was out of the crib, it was dropped off when we were at work and our teenage son was home alone. The crib was broken and the mattress was not returned. And they wouldn't answer me when I asked them about it.

We lent a trailer once and it came back with a broken tail-light. It was never mentioned. I would have been devastated if I'd done it.

I had a nice collection of books and a few were missing. Later I visited my friend, who had stayed with me for a couple of days, and I found them in his shelf! I wished he had at least asked me before taking it. I left it at that.

My friends treated my books so poorly it wasn’t funny. My books would look pristine, like they’d never been read. My friends would give my books back torn up, bent, and dog eared. Even my sister would have the cover bent back; I couldn’t get it to lay flat no matter what heavy object I put on it. You got me there, girl. Too many friends who assured me THEY would return my books just how they got them. Still makes me feel a bit sick. I thought of this the other day when I came across a book series I had lended to a friend 25 years ago. So beat up.

In my life I am sure there must have such instances but I cannot recall at the moment.

Did they buy you a new one? I have lent people money and never received it back.