Why some people are so hard to mend?
By Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41774)
Delhi, India
February 24, 2025 6:53am CST
I have a friend who is charming and easily gets along with the girls, and he thinks this is his strength. He uses them for his physical needs and thinks he is right. He may be right if he is not married, in my opinion, but as he is married, I think having a relationship with another person is not right. What's your opinion?
I have talked to him several times on this, but he is adamant and hard to make him understand. I have left it for now on him.
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@RebeccasFarm (92269)
• United States
23h
Oh he seems to be lacking in the brain department but well endowed in the reflex department.
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@sjvg1976 (41774)
• Delhi, India
22h
@RebeccasFarm Yes he is. I am not going to say anything to him because now he thinks me to his enemy.
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@RebeccasFarm (92269)
• United States
22h
@sjvg1976 He is doomed to being ruled by his reflexes.
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@wolfgirl569 (111929)
• Marion, Ohio
21h
His wife will leave him someday and then he might think about it
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@RevivedWarrior (3666)
• India
19h
Sounds like you are in a rough spot with your friend. He is not seeing any issue with his antics. People may have different boundaries in relationships. Once married, crossing certain lines does impact the trust and commitment they made. I agree with you using others for any needs while in a committed relationship is never right. Its admirable you spoke to him about his. It is unfortunate he is unwilling to hear you or change his ways. Perhaps time or experience will be necessary to change his mindset. I can understand why you left it now. There is less you can do when one does not listen to. I think you supported him as a good and supportive friend, but then there are times we are helpless. Take care!
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@lilacskies (5342)
• United States
17h
I feel sorry for his wife. I bet she has no idea and he has excuses for why he goes out sometimes and comes home late. How unfortunate. I suggest you cut this friend off. There is no need to be friends with a cheater even if he is a nice guy to you. He's definitely not a nice guy to his wife nor to the women he is using.
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@sjvg1976 (41774)
• Delhi, India
17h
@lilacskies I don't know if he uses it or not. But his wife should know what he is doing and breaking her trust.
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@lilacskies (5342)
• United States
17h
@sjvg1976 You should completely cut him out of your life. Also, his wife needs to be aware of this situation. Is he even using protection? What if he gives something to his poor wife and she gets sick and doesn't even know why? Well, she will find out eventually if she does get sick and goes to the hospital to get herself checked out.
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@allknowing (141244)
• India
13h
He is an adult and surely knows what is right and and what is wrong I would not interfere.
@DaddyEvil (142025)
• United States
18h
Honestly? After mentioning it to him once, I wouldn't consider it my business after that. You aren't going to change the way he thinks or acts so either leave him alone and let him be him or stay away from him completely if you can't let him be himself... It will eventually catch up with him in some way and you don't want to be caught up in his problems when it does.
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@DaddyEvil (142025)
• United States
16h
@sjvg1976 That's true. I'm glad you realize he has to mend himself, you can't do it for him.
