Why some people are so hard to mend?
By Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (42011)
Delhi, India
February 24, 2025 6:53am CST
I have a friend who is charming and easily gets along with the girls, and he thinks this is his strength. He uses them for his physical needs and thinks he is right. He may be right if he is not married, in my opinion, but as he is married, I think having a relationship with another person is not right. What's your opinion?
I have talked to him several times on this, but he is adamant and hard to make him understand. I have left it for now on him.
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@allknowing (144289)
• India
24 Feb
He is an adult and surely knows what is right and and what is wrong I would not interfere.
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@sjvg1976 (42011)
• Delhi, India
27 Feb
@allknowing Yes I didn't that's why I have restricted myself now.
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@RebeccasFarm (93928)
• United States
24 Feb
Oh he seems to be lacking in the brain department but well endowed in the reflex department.
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@sjvg1976 (42011)
• Delhi, India
24 Feb
@RebeccasFarm Yes he is. I am not going to say anything to him because now he thinks me to his enemy.
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@RebeccasFarm (93928)
• United States
24 Feb
@sjvg1976 He is doomed to being ruled by his reflexes.
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@wolfgirl569 (114860)
• Marion, Ohio
24 Feb
His wife will leave him someday and then he might think about it
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@Dreamerby (7894)
• Calcutta, India
27 Feb
@sjvg1976 I don't know if I had such a friend, I would block him from my life.
@RevivedWarrior (3730)
• India
24 Feb
Sounds like you are in a rough spot with your friend. He is not seeing any issue with his antics. People may have different boundaries in relationships. Once married, crossing certain lines does impact the trust and commitment they made. I agree with you using others for any needs while in a committed relationship is never right. Its admirable you spoke to him about his. It is unfortunate he is unwilling to hear you or change his ways. Perhaps time or experience will be necessary to change his mindset. I can understand why you left it now. There is less you can do when one does not listen to. I think you supported him as a good and supportive friend, but then there are times we are helpless. Take care!
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@DaddyEvil (146211)
• United States
24 Feb
Honestly? After mentioning it to him once, I wouldn't consider it my business after that. You aren't going to change the way he thinks or acts so either leave him alone and let him be him or stay away from him completely if you can't let him be himself... It will eventually catch up with him in some way and you don't want to be caught up in his problems when it does.
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@sjvg1976 (42011)
• Delhi, India
26 Feb
@DaddyEvil absolutely, he is a toxic person and I have almost cut him off from my life from few days.
@DaddyEvil (146211)
• United States
24 Feb
@sjvg1976 That's true. I'm glad you realize he has to mend himself, you can't do it for him.
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@Dreamerby (7894)
• Calcutta, India
26 Feb
Oh my God!!! So, he is a serial cheater. He will pay back for this...if not in this life, in next life. Karma never misses an address.
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@Dreamerby (7894)
• Calcutta, India
27 Feb
@sjvg1976 Things don't work like that. But the karmic baggage will be there for the soul in next life.
