Writing your own eulogy?
@1creekgirl (43090)
United States
March 22, 2025 7:01pm CST
I read a suggestion for this on FB, I think. It says we should write our own eulogy before we die.
Well, it would be rather difficult after we die.
But I think it's a good idea. We can talk about people we love who made a difference in our lives. Things we accomplished, events that were important to us. Once we die, a loved one will have to try to write this in the middle of grieving our passing.
A long time ago I wrote down what personal items I want to leave to which kid or grandkid, and I update it every so often. Dale does the same.
But this is different. I started writing mine today and I'm sure I'll add and change it at times. But I really like the idea, it's not morbid to me at all.
What do you think about it?
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
23 Mar
That's a nice thing to call it. I know part of mine would just be for our children and not necessarily in an obituary.
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
24 Mar
@porwest To some it's not a comforting thought, but one that everyone has to face.
For me, the best part is even though I don't want to leave Dale and our kids, I know I'll be in heaven with Jesus.
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@porwest (98242)
• United States
24 Mar
@1creekgirl The one thing I know is, I'd rather not think about it even though we all have to leave this Earth one day.
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@rakski (135146)
• Philippines
23 Mar
@1creekgirl though some might think it is quite morbid to think of that already
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
23 Mar
@rakski I don't think we're ever really too young to think about our passing, because none of us are promised another day.
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@snowy22315 (186930)
• United States
23 Mar
I think if you are comfortable doing it you should
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
23 Mar
I've always kept journals, so I like doing this.
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@kaylachan (76398)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Mar
Off hand I'm not sure how I feel. On the one hand, I see the value in it but on the other I think personally, I might find it hard to do mentally and emotionally having to think about after I leave this Earth and those I will leave behind. Who will be responsible for seeing my final wishes are carried out as my family is not really an option. Those I have gotten along with, well I don't know anymore.
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@andriaperry (118552)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Mar
I need to do that.
Better than she was a nice b- itch.
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
24 Mar
Aw, I'm sure there would be people to say nice things about you. Your friends here certainly could.
@MarieCoyle (42052)
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23 Mar
I have had to write several over the years...my beloved aunt, my Dad, a grandmother, an uncle, and a good friend. It's hard. No matter what, I always ended up in tears over it all.
Recently, a friend passed away. She knew she was dying, and had written her own eulogy. I think she did it to spare her husband, as she knew he would be grieving too hard to write it. There is nothing wrong with writing your own, if that's what you feel is right for you.
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
24 Mar
@MarieCoyle True. I'd rather it be a personal goodbye to my loved ones than something that would be printed as an obit.
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@MarieCoyle (42052)
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24 Mar
@1creekgirl
I can definitely understand that, I feel the same way.
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@MarieCoyle (42052)
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23 Mar
@1creekgirl
Yes, I know I would no doubt write it from my heart and it could, as you said, get too personal for everyone. But it all depends on how much we want to say or share.
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@kareng (71241)
• United States
23 Mar
I like the idea. You are right that immediate family members are grieving and probably will not be thinking of everything that is important to mention.
I've done my share of writing Obits for both of my parents and my mother in law. I was shocked to be asked to write my mother in laws, but they all knew I was a freelance writer and elected me to do that chore. I had several nuns at the church tell me that it was beautiful and thanked me for writing it, as well as family members.
I am going to think about this or at least write a summary to make it easier for them!
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
24 Mar
At least you've had some practice which will help. I'm leaning towards maybe two messages. One as a standard obit and one more personal for my family.
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@kareng (71241)
• United States
24 Mar
@1creekgirl That would make sense! I need to do a list of what I would like each of my daughters to have. I don't want any fighting. Then they can trade if they want.
@LeaPea2417 (37679)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 Mar
I'm not sure what I would write about myself.
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
24 Mar
Just write what you want people to know about you. It can be life events, dates of jobs and education, accomplishments, family members or personal farewells to loved ones.
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@RasmaSandra (83435)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Mar
Not much at the moment. I have a bad cold and cough and I feel like I might just lay down and die but I keep on doing what I have to do. My cat Tish keeps lamenting her brother and she might go before me, What can I say life here at this moment is tough.
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@RasmaSandra (83435)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Mar
@1creekgirl to make things worse Tish is missing, She has never been let out and must have disappeared to lament alone and most likely follow her brother, If anything I am through with any animals,
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
24 Mar
@RasmaSandra Oh no, do you think she's trying to find her brother? Maybe she'll be back soon.
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
24 Mar
I'm so sorry. I know you and Tish are still mourning.
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@Deepizzaguy (108051)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
24 Mar
I would like to write my own eulogy by simply saying that I was misunderstood for being a positive person who enjoys the classic era of entertainment when cuss words would be not used on the television show.
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@1creekgirl (43090)
• United States
24 Mar
You are a good person, George and it shows through your kind posts.
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@Deepizzaguy (108051)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
24 Mar
@1creekgirl Thank you for your kind words.
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@grenery8 (15091)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Mar
@1creekgirl just, i think i will be rewriting my eulogy all the time.
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