Who Feels It More.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (55977)
March 27, 2025 8:14am CST
Widowed or divorced in your sixties or older -- who feels it more?
I would say women in most cases simply because it is harder for women in that age bracket to find a suitable partner. Men of her age or older usually go for younger women, or are already married.
Then if the older woman decides to have a relationship with a younger man she can face a lot of backlash because society finds it easier to accept young/old relationships if it is the other way around.
What are your thoughts - who feels it more?
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@snowy22315 (186815)
• United States
27 Mar
Women tend to lose a lot of income when they endure a "gray divorce" as they are called. Also, there is the difficulty in finding a new partner. Luckily not all men are after a younger partner. I know someone who is older who is in a relationship with a woman his own age. They found each other on eharmony and they like the compatability they share.
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@Tampa_girl7 (52186)
• United States
27 Mar
I think it depends on the individual. We have known a few men who married again in less than a year of their wives passing. Personally I don’t think that I would ever marry again if I outlived my husband. He feels the same. I pray that we have each other for as long as possible.
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@allknowing (142980)
• India
28 Mar
It is not necessary that every widow or divorcee should remarry or take a partner
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@allknowing (142980)
• India
28 Mar
@Kandae11 Living with someone who kind of gets time to adjust to each other is not the same as living with someone aged who has fixed ways.
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@Juliaacv (52693)
• Canada
27 Mar
That is a very interesting question.
I have a brother-in-law who lost his wife, as well as a sister-in-law who lost her husband.
Both were close couples.
The brother-in-law and his wife were such a couple's couple, you know the kind, you always see together and smiling and laughing.
The other couple, was more independent, always smiling and laughing.
I feel that the brother-in-law is much much more broken hearted than the sister-in-law who lost her husband is.
The brother-in-law, lost his wife, Anne, to cancer. She fought bravely, with him at her side the entire time, which was for several years.
The sister-in-law, helped her husband, Rick, who had suffered from strokes over the course of a few years, which left him unable to care for himself, or even for her to care for him. In his last 6 months of life he had to go to a nursing home, where she was at his side daily for hours on end.
I believe that my brother-in-law, Bob, had totally devoted his life to his late wife, Anne.
I felt that way from when I met them back in the early '80's.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
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27 Mar
I can understand why your brother- in - law would be more broken hearted. It would be really hard watching someone you love suffer with that illness - and knowing that there isn't much you can do to save her except giving your complete support.
Of course your sister- in - law's situation would have been difficult as well , especially wher husband reached the stage where he could no longer help himself....

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@DaddyEvil (144474)
• United States
27 Mar
I don't know, honestly... I'm quite happy not being married anymore. Both my marriages failed due to infidelity and I just don't want to live through that again. Twice was more than enough for me.
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@DaddyEvil (144474)
• United States
27 Mar
@Kandae11 My first wife was abusive.
My brother told me I was crazy not to want to try again... I told him I'm just not interested.
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@Beestring (15097)
• Hong Kong
27 Mar
Live for yourself, not others. Just do what you enjoy. Do not care what others think.
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@innertalks (22500)
• Australia
Just now
I think in past times, the man finding himself alone has a harder time of it in some ways, as many men are more helpless on their own, but the same can go for a women, whose husband has paid all of the bills; she might feel equally lost, when he goes first.
So, it usually more boils down to the individual circumstances of each case, I think.
