Who Feels It More.

@Kandae11 (55977)
March 27, 2025 8:14am CST
Widowed or divorced in your sixties or older -- who feels it more? I would say women in most cases simply because it is harder for women in that age bracket to find a suitable partner. Men of her age or older usually go for younger women, or are already married. Then if the older woman decides to have a relationship with a younger man she can face a lot of backlash because society finds it easier to accept young/old relationships if it is the other way around. What are your thoughts - who feels it more?
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@snowy22315 (186815)
• United States
27 Mar
Women tend to lose a lot of income when they endure a "gray divorce" as they are called. Also, there is the difficulty in finding a new partner. Luckily not all men are after a younger partner. I know someone who is older who is in a relationship with a woman his own age. They found each other on eharmony and they like the compatability they share.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
27 Mar
Good for that couple. When you find someone in your own age group there is better compatability....
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@Tampa_girl7 (52186)
• United States
27 Mar
I think it depends on the individual. We have known a few men who married again in less than a year of their wives passing. Personally I don’t think that I would ever marry again if I outlived my husband. He feels the same. I pray that we have each other for as long as possible.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
27 Mar
When couples have been married happily for a long time it is difficult to move on when one passes. I hope you and your husband continue to live happily for a long time.
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@allknowing (142980)
• India
28 Mar
It is not necessary that every widow or divorcee should remarry or take a partner
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@allknowing (142980)
• India
28 Mar
@Kandae11 Living with someone who kind of gets time to adjust to each other is not the same as living with someone aged who has fixed ways.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
28 Mar
No it is not, but some do not like living alone.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
28 Mar
@allknowing You are right about that.
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@Juliaacv (52693)
• Canada
27 Mar
That is a very interesting question. I have a brother-in-law who lost his wife, as well as a sister-in-law who lost her husband. Both were close couples. The brother-in-law and his wife were such a couple's couple, you know the kind, you always see together and smiling and laughing. The other couple, was more independent, always smiling and laughing. I feel that the brother-in-law is much much more broken hearted than the sister-in-law who lost her husband is. The brother-in-law, lost his wife, Anne, to cancer. She fought bravely, with him at her side the entire time, which was for several years. The sister-in-law, helped her husband, Rick, who had suffered from strokes over the course of a few years, which left him unable to care for himself, or even for her to care for him. In his last 6 months of life he had to go to a nursing home, where she was at his side daily for hours on end. I believe that my brother-in-law, Bob, had totally devoted his life to his late wife, Anne. I felt that way from when I met them back in the early '80's.
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@Juliaacv (52693)
• Canada
27 Mar
@Kandae11 My sister-in-law told me, in tears, that she would miss him terribly, he was her shadow.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
27 Mar
I can understand why your brother- in - law would be more broken hearted. It would be really hard watching someone you love suffer with that illness - and knowing that there isn't much you can do to save her except giving your complete support. Of course your sister- in - law's situation would have been difficult as well , especially wher husband reached the stage where he could no longer help himself....
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@DaddyEvil (144474)
• United States
27 Mar
I don't know, honestly... I'm quite happy not being married anymore. Both my marriages failed due to infidelity and I just don't want to live through that again. Twice was more than enough for me.
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@DaddyEvil (144474)
• United States
27 Mar
@Kandae11 My first wife was abusive. My brother told me I was crazy not to want to try again... I told him I'm just not interested.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
28 Mar
@DaddyEvil Same here.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
27 Mar
Mine failed because of physical abuse which completely turned me off of trying again.
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@Beestring (15097)
• Hong Kong
27 Mar
Live for yourself, not others. Just do what you enjoy. Do not care what others think.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
27 Mar
It's definitely your life. You can choose to be happy or unhappy, to take chances or play it safe.
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@jstory07 (142731)
• Roseburg, Oregon
19h
As long as a couple are happy it does not matter what the age differences is.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
11h
I agree.
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@cacay1 (84452)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Mar
That is the usual reason for a woman marrying a young man. It seems unfair because men marry a young girl even 25 years younger than the man .
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@Kandae11 (55977)
20h
As much as 30 or 40 years younger too.
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@JudyEv (349294)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 Mar
I suppose you're right but I hadn't given much thought to it. There is less stigma now I think about age differences between partners.
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@Kandae11 (55977)
28 Mar
I agree, there is less stigma these days.
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@innertalks (22500)
• Australia
Just now
I think in past times, the man finding himself alone has a harder time of it in some ways, as many men are more helpless on their own, but the same can go for a women, whose husband has paid all of the bills; she might feel equally lost, when he goes first. So, it usually more boils down to the individual circumstances of each case, I think.