Scared to drive..
By remaster74
@remaster74 (4064)
Greece
December 2, 2006 2:57pm CST
A friend asked me why I don't drive anymore. I replied that I don't have a car yet and that if I had I would be too scared to drive. She thinks that all is a matter of the mind. I never had this problem till one day while driving I had to pull aside in order for a "racing" car to pass. I was so furious about that, that I instantly gave up driving. Do you think it's the matter of the mind? What do you think I should do?
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17 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Dec 06
remaster I have been involved in several accidents that where not caused by me one of them I was very lucky I was not killed I am still driving
You need to overcome your Fear and get in a car and drive
Yes you will be nervous but overcome that I have, I also love driving, so maybe that is why I was determent to keep on the Road but try it I do not believe it is in the mind you had a bad experience and that can scare you
But please try it
@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
7 Dec 06
For the time being I have no car to experiment on. My father certainly doesn't let me to drive his car. He is scared I might get it crushed or abandoned somewhere. When I will find a "hero" I will make the effort. Thank you for the support.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
2 Dec 06
With all the experiences I have had in my years of driving, it makes me more determined to keep driving. When you do get your car, start driving around short trips with not much traffic around and just ease back into it! You'll soon get your confidence back and will hopefully be able to tolerate all types of drivers! Good luck!
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
7 Dec 06
I will try my best. Thank you for the support, my friend!
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@kylesmiles (1910)
• United States
3 Dec 06
Hey there. I am scared to drive! My husband does all the driving. When we were dating it didn't bother him because he said he loved to drive... But now that we are married and have a son, he wants me to start driving! It's just so scary for me. :(
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@vicii3000 (773)
• Romania
3 Dec 06
i've never been scared to drive just today i was very very very close to have an accident it's a good thing i have good brakes on my car, i was rolling with 140km/h and a car apeared in front of mine, the mark of my brakes was 20m! Just another episode from my life!
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@Crystalwatson345 (441)
• United States
31 Dec 06
well i dont know if its a matter of the mind as much as why are you scared? scared to get in a wreck? well when someone drives you that could happen too right? and you must leave your house so I am assuming you ride in a car so to me its the same. Also you got to ask your self what is safe anymore.
Is it the Grocery store? is it your house? is it your car? is it a park? ok is it etc? on and on and on you see nothing is safe so why not just live your life and hope for the best otherwise you arent living!
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
3 Dec 06
You'll do it when you're ready. Try to push yourself and see if it works and if it doesn't give yourself more time to heal and then try driving again.
@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
10 Dec 06
Thank you dear for your support. I think you are right as most of my friends are. But it will take time, a lots of it!
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
16 Jan 07
Well I really need to drive in order to find a job long distance from home. They ask me all the time if I have a way to transport myself at work I answer no and they turn me down.
@jricbt (1454)
• Brazil
3 Dec 06
I was scared to drive, by my father, until I was 19. Do not be scared to drive. Relax, drive with responsability. Problems when driving, bad drivers, this happen to everyone, not only you. Yes , your friend is, in my opinion, right, is a matter of the mind.
@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
16 Jan 07
I will try again very soon. And I will let you all know the results.
@blossomingflower (636)
• India
3 Dec 06
I suggest you don't drive at all. If you do, you might be endangering your life plus other innocent lives. Confidence is the most essential for driving.
@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
16 Jan 07
I was told that many times and I believe that too. But my brother says that driving will come easy to me if I make some lessons with him.
@gorgeousdreamer (1034)
• Philippines
3 Dec 06
i think you should be confident and brave enough when driving, i was also afraid to drive before
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
10 Dec 06
I know I have to feel that way in order to overcome it! But I can't help it you know!
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@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I understand how you feel. I suffer from anxiety and in heavy traffic I panic. When I was in a car accident I was scared everytime I got into the car for awhile. The only way to get over it is to get out there and drive. It will go away after awhile.
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
10 Dec 06
I tried many times. But I was always feeling sick when I started the car. So I gave up!
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
10 Dec 06
Thank you dear! I feel like I have somewhere to understand me!
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@dnatureofdtrain (5273)
• Janesville, Wisconsin
29 Dec 06
I do think it is all in the mind.. But I hate driving too. I space out alot, or get distracted, and overwhelmed by the motion, and sounds, and stuff. When I took drivers ed my instructor told me whatever I do make sure I have music playing when I drive, because he notices I am distracted less by the road and wind on the vehicle sounds. I found if I can feel the road I get less sick and do better. So I can't stand these cars that I can not feel the road bumps on, it throws me off..... If you do not want to drive and can get around find without then do that, but if you want to drive and overcome with the fear then try practicing for short periods at a time, and add time to the periods over time, this should help you. My problem is I do not get out to practice enough, but I go into highway hypnosis to easily, or just end up gone into another world. So I really hate driving. I wanted to drive for years for one reason only so I could get a job as a brakeman... on the railroad.. But heck I still dream that but what makes me think I'll be comfortable with a train when I am not with cars... oh well... In whatever you decide to do I hope it is your best, and that you are able to still enjoy life with or without driving, take care - DNatureofDTrain
@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
16 Jan 07
I think you are lucky to find what distructs you and "cured" it! Good luck!