When does it become wrong?
By Adversa
@Adversa (406)
Australia
December 3, 2006 10:58am CST
Infedelity is against my nature. I would never cheat on any of my partners, nor would I want to. Not me. Well any way i was out and about the othe night and I was talking to this woman. we were getting along quite well, till I discovered that she was married. She said not to worry, that her and her husband (6 foot 2 mde of muscell - dont mess with him) have what they call an open relationship. I know its their choice what they do, but is it morrally wrong to sleep with another mans wife if they are "OK" with it?
I didnt do it. Hello - 6 foot 2. not risking that. But would it have been wrong to?
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32 responses
@blonde_3548 (36)
• United States
4 Dec 06
it is illegal in some states to cheat no matter what although prosecution rarely happens if at all.
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@Ghostvoice (105)
• United States
4 Dec 06
In what state is it illegal? I don't think that's true.
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@tashcat86 (91)
• Australia
3 Dec 06
I dont think i could do it. No matter how much i loved someone, i just couldnt. Marriage is sacred. If we were both in love and they separated/divorced then that is different but i couldnt come between a couple even if they have an agreement.
That person would always be special to me but i wouldnt take it any further. I would want to stay friends though
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@magikrose (5429)
• United States
4 Dec 06
In my opnion it is not considered cheating if both parties are willing. I have a very close friend who has an open relationship with his live in girlfriend and we want to get together. My husband is not like that tho. He believes in you sleep with who you are dating or married to. I respect that, and I wont break his trust. I have told him that if he found a women attractive and he had a chance with her to just tell me first and that I would like to meet her. But he wont go for it.
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@Ghostvoice (105)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Never monkey with another man's monkey.
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@BELMCstar (1341)
• Australia
3 Dec 06
What you would need to ask yourself is - do I believe that they have an 'open' relationship?
Some people say that they do, when in fact they do not, and you could find yourself the worse for wear when it happens.
You need to be wary of things like this, especially as you started another discussion about how you had recently broken up with your girlfriend.
Make sure that you do not jump into anything too quickly, or else you might find that you regret it in the future.
@Adversa (406)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
Well, as far as a rebound fling goes, it seems pretty valid, no strings attached. I think the hubby in the other side of the bar hitting on another chick kind of gave away that it was fairly open. But Oh, my life is full of stupid decisions, many of them I would gladly make again. this one I decided to shy away from.
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@ChewySpree (1832)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I think you did the right thing. Even if they do have an open relationship and you were uncomfortable with it, you might have ended up regretting it later. On the other hand, she may have just been telling you that and you could have ended up in a real sticky situation, which I'm sure you didn't want either.
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@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
If you have any doubts whatsoever - turn and run! Sounds good to me!
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@sassyces (1602)
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
They're married and yet they have this open relationship? What kind of marriage is that? Even if they decided to have that kind of set-up, I think its still not right to sleep with her. Hello? they're married!! Maybe when they're divorced or anulled then you can take her to bed anyday but not now, not till she's still his wife.
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@kyliepops (269)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
Hey i think that its never ok, some people say that there are lines and grey areas but i think that if you have to think twice then its wrong. As a newly married woman i just wouldnt put myself in a situation. I can tell you that there is no way in this world that my hubby would want or let me be with anyone else. We took vows and we hold them very strongly and it was a huge step and huge commitment to each other. We agreed to forsake all others for ever so that means no one else!!
Sorry but there is my opinion so thats never is ok!
@14missy (3183)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
I must admit it is very nice to have the attention of someone else when you are married and flirting is a different thing all together, but I think marriage is sacred and not something that you take lightly. I wouldn't like to share my partner with anyone else. (you don't know who that person has shared with... a bit of a dicey situation in this day and age)
@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
I seriously think it would depend on all the people involved! For some people the whole idea is black and white and others have shades of grey as well...there is nothing illegal with this theory so it would be up to the couple to decide whether this is ok and if so what rules they want to apply....
Just my 2 cents for the day!
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@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
Ok then - my little add in to a conversation for the day! And my first post to boot!
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@MsBond (45)
• Canada
4 Dec 06
Yes, it would be wrong. cheating is cheating it wouldn't be illegal in sports if it wasn't something wrong, right? I think it's sad that their marriage has come to that they should just get a divorce and stop wasting each others lives.
@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
4 Dec 06
adultery is adultery is adultery is adultery....get it?
It shouldn't matter if her husband is 6'2 or 2'6. Being beaten up by him should not be your concern, right and wrong should be seen clearly as right or wrong irrespective of the consequences that change with different scenarios.
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@tommy0099 (194)
• Indonesia
4 Dec 06
two choice
1. If you do it, you are taking a risk
2. if you do it, you are having fun and happy,so make you younger than ever
but if you do it it is wrong because they are married and married is sacred
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
• China
4 Dec 06
Marriage is marriage, enough said. If it were an "open" relationship they probably wouldn't be married. Still, perhaps she was telling the truth...even then the whole situations stinks. You are still helping a married woman break her marriage vows and that is probably not something you want to do. In my opinion, if they are married it is hands off.
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