My baby daddy told me today that he wants to see my son this saturday...........

from what I have read in this post and prior posts of your I would not trust your son's dad as far as I could throw him. I would tell him that if he wants to see his son they he can see him in your home and make sure your current BF is there also. or meet him in the park, or someplace else that is a public place. I know your separated and he left you and your son, is there a visitation court order? there should be one if there isnt, so that it protects you and your son.

do you have soul custody of your son if you don't get it now. Be careful because now that he is older he might take your son and not bring him back so maybe you should go someplace with officers around.Does he have any other children? do you trust the mom? You need to ask yourself these questions

I would make him come to my house and have someone with me, or a very public place and still have someone with me. Did you call the cops when he refused to bring the child home before? Good Luck

First off...I would of been on the phone with the cops. Second of all, I would of files a protection order or restrictive visitation on the father. I advised to meet in a public place. Take someone else with you. Do not do it alone. Make sure you have a cell phone. Just in case he tries something stupid. Trust me...I had to take my ex to court to restrict his visitation after threatening to take my child after not seeing him for a few years. My ex can now not take my son out of the couty we live. Even thou he lived in a different state at the time.

My best friend went through this and she did not trust her baby's daddy either because she was afraid that he would take off with him if he had the opportunity. she finally had to take court measures. My advice would be to be with your child at all times around him wiether you go to a publc place or not. I you feel your safety is threatened by him that I would say a public place would be best.

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I think you should go along...or he should meet you somewhere....That's so messed up that on his b-day he didn't bring your son back til late.... But If I were in your situation I would let him see my son! First...because he doesn't pay child support!(I'm assuming because he seems like an a*& Hole(sorry!). Second because he doesn't see my son all the time...he's not really there for you when you really need him! and third...because you have been raising the kid alone! He has no rights! he was just a sperm donor! anyway I hope I didn't offend you but that's what I would do If I were in your shoes...good luck and hope everything works out!

Cant he be visited at your home. I wouldnt trust him also, and all those hours that my son would be alone with him it would be a pain for me. You dont own him nothing and he has nothing to do with you anymore, dont be scare to say no, its your right.

I would not allow him to see your son without you being there. Do you both have joint custody? There are too many things happening to children who are in between custody battles- don't risk it!

First off you need to establish your legal rights with custody of your child if you haven't done so. Next, don't take you child to his father, make his father come to you. People can change, but they often don't. Establish your ground rules and let him know that they are to be respected or he can't be trusted.

Go to a public place and before taking any decison try to talk with your son if he can understand what u are trying to say and let him decide and if u are going to a public place then u can also join them.

Can you speak with his mother? It seems to me that his mother would be willing to asure that the child is safe and that he would be returned at a reasonable time. As for letting the father take this child alone, history has a habit of repeating itself, while it is possible there has been a change, I think proof of that would be permissible for you to require. Actions always speak louder than words. If his mother proves uncooperative, then opt for a public place with you in attendence.

My advice is you should call him at public place. Don’t go to his house at any cost. The person’s basic nature has never changed. As per your statement you should not trust on him much. Though you can’t refuse to meet him with your child because this is his write but be careful. It is better to escort some one with you at that time.

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I wont trust him again.Rather go to a public place with him.

well, if i am you, i will not let my son to be with him in his house... it is hard to trust a man like what have you described in your post... i will suggest you and your son meet him in a public place... that's it...

I know EXACTLY what your going through!! My problem is my son's father is now dating a girl thats a lot younger than he is ( he's 25 and she is 18) and this new girl is kind of bringing out a party side of him and because shes young and has no worries, thats now how hes acting. At first I wouldnt even consider letting my son go and see him. We never had an formal custody hearing but especially after he got together with her and had nothing better to do than drink all day, I refused to let my son there and told him he has to come to my house if he wants to see our son. But the thing you have to think about is the father really going to hurt your son in any way? Yes he wasnt to responciable and brought him back late but everyone makes mistakes and your son came back to you probably happy since he got to hang out with dad for the day, lol. So what Ive learned is aslong as my son isnt getting anyharm brought to him, then he can go with his dad, but his father and I do comprimise on times to bring him home! Good luck

have trust on him once again because h will never do any harm to ur son

seeing your dad in a public place would be alot better then hanging out at the house.

I recommend you to go to a public place like the mall because there you will feel secure and if he tries to act smart or something then people are all around you to help you out.............