Kids acting and dressing older than they are

I feel the same way. I don't understand why we need the teens in this day and age wear skin tight clothes. It's really sad.

Alot of the excuses I hear ae that these "newage" arents let their children express themselves how they want to. I am so glad I dont have girls. I have 2 boys and I believe that if I did have a 10 year old girl instead of my 10 year old son, there woud be toe-toe arguments about how she is going to dress until I say she is old enough to be a little britney spears. It doesnt help that these "teen idols" dress like this. But sadly it is the parents that need some waking up. They would be the first to say why if thier little "angel" was raped or sexually assaulted.

Tell me about it. And, it doesn't stop at the tight clothes and makeup. Many of them have thongs sticking out of the back of their pants. I can only hope that, by the time my daughter is that age, clothing styles will be much more conservative.

Blame it on generation gap.Our parents used to say that too....oh we never did that when we were that young....their parent did the same.With each generations there has been this problem of non-confoormity and kids will be kids.the way you describe those girls,I can really picture few stupid girls sneaking behind their parent's back in order to look older and get attention.This will be something they will remember when they will be old like you and me.I know a person who actually had stuffed oranges in her bra and went to the night club and pointing at them with her finger told the bouncer that she is eighteen.Now the story seems funny but if you see from her mother's point of view its horrifying too.The girl turned out all right and is a sensible career girl -was excellent in her studies too. I think we should not blow our tops off at every turn a teenager makes/They are little kids trying to act as grown ups.Its a very confusding junction of life.You need to understand that.We need not make an issue out of everything.they are entitled to color their hair experiment with makeup,styles and fashion-this is just a normal way of trying to find their identity by hit and trial method.we can act as advisorsif they want us to and allow us to.SOme leeway,some ground rules mix of these will help your daughter see direction.No rigidity and no dictatorship but be flexible is right approach.

Yes Kids are older for their Age I was lucky with my Daughter who now is 19 She like me doesn't like Skirts lol I love high heels always have but my daughter prefers low heels lol It always depends to how they see their Mum acting dressing and things like that and of course what crowd they hang out with It is not easy but point in the right direction and it should be ok

I agree with you. And children that are dressed like that are disturbing to say the least. My 11 year old uses play make-up sometimes at home, but never at school or while we are out in public. I know what you mean about wanting your child to fit in, but I've found with my own kids they made friends with other kids who had similar rules at their homes.

I know, at the present, children are going to become bigger before the time, and this is not always a good thing. Expecially for the girls, they want to seem like a woman when they are very small. They want to use make-up and dirty clothes, but they don't know that it's too early. I think that parents should educate them to respect the age they have, or they will become men and women at 10 years old!

that is way out of hand. a 10 year old should not be dressing like that. were these girls by their selfs at the mall? i agree that kids are TRYING to grow up to fast nowadays.

yes the parents are pampering the kids a lot now a days! in the name of love the are doing foolish things.i mean they are not consious about it.i think,a kid's styles are more encouraged by the movie stars and music artists.these people have grate attraction amoung the public .kids see these people and try to immitate them or try to feel as if they are one. the solution could be that kids should not be allow to see such A movies and albums, though there is a rule at the theaters,nobody can restrict them at house. ultimately the parents are the one who can find solution for this.they have to realise and concentrate on their kids behavious and attitude.

Well my "opinion" is that it is disgusting for anyone of any age to dress that way and just plain irresponsible parenting to allow your child to do so!

kids are growing up a lot faster now days. i have a 2 month old and she is not going to be dressing like that

well, i think it starts from when they're young and the impressons girls get from the media. now i'm not saying don't blame the parents, they should. when i got into HS i did dress slightly older then i was, but a 10yr old shouldn't be worrying about these type of things. they don't need attention from the boys yet. some parents buy these type of clothes because they think its cute, or the don't want to restrict the child from wearing what they want OR they dress that way themselves, i've seen this happen plenty of time. my sister has a god daughter and they let her wear (she was only 5 or 6) a pink halter top with hot pants and little platform shoes...to CHURCH! no i was only a child (13) but i still thought that was a little wrong. Parent who do this: your child is not a little dress up doll...try to fight the urge to do this to them. we're parents we have to draw lines somewhere to help our child grow up nicely in todays society.

yes, you are right. kids think they are grown up and start dressing up like that.. parents are also allowing then since they think they are getting modernised.. it willlead to a big cultural loss..

I think it is the same thing for people not just in your country. In ours, Kids, literally kids dress like they are all grown ups.. i mean, it is not bad actually it's just that these kids seem like they want to skip all the fun things of being one! I f you kno what I mean.. These children should be guided and not coerced to become adults at such a young age.

I think it's terrible that parents are allowing preteens to go around looking like hookers. These girls are showing a sexuality they don't have the maturity to handle. They are also inviting predators. Keep your daughter young as long as you can. Being a kid lasts such a short time compared to how long a person is an adult. Adulthood goes on forever. Teach her to play, give her lots of outside interests and activities, help her find the right friends. She'll be okay. I have 2 14-year-old step-granddaughters from different families. One has looked like she was 18 or 20 ever since she was 10. She is tall for her age and already looks older than she is and she plays it up with make-up and sexy clothes. She's been boy-crazy for several years now. She does poorly in school and will probably drop out before she graduates. Her mom was the same way as a girl, and even though she had her problems caused by her behavior, she's allowing her daughter to follow the same path. The other granddaughter has been carefully guided, and maybe even over-protected, throughout her life. She is in dance, bowling, tennis, and other activities. She has a ton of friends. However, she's small and still looks like a young girl. There's nothing sexy about her, and she isn't the least interested in boys. She's also a straight A student. I think most of your daughter's values will depend on what you are teaching her starting right now. You can help her form a lot of values even before she goes to school which can be firmly entrenched by the time she hits the preteen years.

I do agree to all of you, I really don't get it why do kids tend to act like these when they're not supposed to and besides as time goes by kids act more matured than any of other older people.

Completely agree with you.Kids nowadays are getting very fussy about their looks.The comparison is not between how well mannered or how good the other one is in studies but the comparison is am i looking better than her.This is a very serious issues...if not controlled than the kids my land up worrying about their looks alone.I have a 7years old daughter although she is good at studies but is very fussy about her looks.She keeps on making face in the mirror.Have to b very strict with the kids at times as they think that parents know nothing about it and they r the better judge themselves.

they don't only act like they're older, they sometimes even do things older women have never done.

Yes, certainly... I do agree with you... Kids can be wonderful, but let's face it, parenting is no easy task. Being a brand new mom or dad can feel overwhelming, too. Here are a few tips that would help you a long way... in parenting... * STEP 1: We focus on the positive, make sure everyone has a clear understanding of expectations, and established ground rules at a very early age. * STEP 2: Establish routines early in your child’s life for bedtime, meals, and playtime. I know it’s hard when asked ‘just a few more minutes’ but you must stand firm. It actually makes things easier for everyone. * STEP 3: Meet with their teachers at the beginning of the school year to understand their teaching styles and requirements. Again to set expectations for the kids. * STEP 4: Your kids are also aware of their responsibilities at home too because you have established ground rules. * STEP 5: The foundation has been set and you’ve begun notice a few infractions, its best to take action immediately before things escalate. * STEP 6: 1st time: Calmly discuss the infraction, find out what happened, and make sure the child agrees it won’t happen again. * STEP 7: 2nd time: Repeat previous discussion but also ask how the child intends to prevent this from occurring again. And what are the consequences if it happens again. * STEP 8: 3rd time: Now it’s time to step back and evaluate the situation closely. Is the child looking for attention and the only time it’s provided is when there’s a problem? Are there issues at home or school you’re not aware of? Are there physiological issues such as entering puberty? You want to eliminate all possibilities before you have this discussion. * STEP 9: If you’re mad don’t have the discussion. If you say something in anger, you can never take it back. ‘I’m sorry’ won’t erase it. Let the child know you’re aware of what happened, you will talk about it later and what the punishment will be. This will give you an opportunity to calm down and make the child worry. * STEP 10: If you’re married have a strategy meeting to discuss the game plan and punishment. Make sure you’re both in agreement before you meet with your child. You have to present a united front. * STEP 11: Don’t drag it out….both of you meet with the child to have this discussion within a day or two after the occurrence. Allow everyone an opportunity to speak without interruptions. The goal as parents is to truly understand what caused your child to do this. Make sure the punishment fits the crime and don’t give in once implemented. If no TV for 2 weeks, that means 2 weeks.

yes u shud giv e her a bit freedom n let her adjsut jerself