middle child syndrome

i dont think thrs nething like this... its all relative...

I also belive in your statement.. even i felt the same in my childhood

I think it exists to some extent. I see it in my nephews, they have three children. The first received the most attention, and when at a learning age the then youngest was sort of… well not ignored, as that’s harsh, but less attention was given. Then when he reached that age he wasn’t interested at all in learning anything, but also at that point, another child was born, which brought more attention from him. He can have behavioural problems, he’s mischievous more than anything, although he doesn’t bother to think about situations. He’s the sweetest child you’ll ever meet with good values, he’ll always stand up for someone (even at 5!) he won’t accept people being mean to one another, though he has a terrible tendency to fight.

Middle child syndrome ??? It just an excuse for the middle child to get attention that they think that they are missing out on..I am a middle child, I was brought up just fine and no different to my brothers...I turned great..

I was a middle child for a long time. Until I was 15. I know the feeling. It's that there are times when I thought or asked myself if my parents loved me. I mean, they love my eldest brother because he was the first-born, they love my youngest brother because he was the youngest, but what about me? I had that struggle for a long time, but my parents showed me I was still special. That's why I was able to cope. I think this is usually worst when all the kids are of the same gender. The good thing in my position was that I'm the only daughter. So I have something to be 'at the edge' with compared to my brothers. Parents need to understand that children would want to be loved because of something. We don't want to think that we were 'an accident' we want to know that we were really planned and created out of love. I think that's the deal there. I was the middle child and was conscious because I was fat, and my brothers were lean. But my parents showed me that I don't need to be insecure. They love me just the way I was. =) Yeah, I think what you're feeling is actually a middle child syndrome. --- trivia --- The middle or second born child or children often have the sense of not belonging. They fight to receive attention from parents and others because they feel many times they are being ignored or dubbed off as being the same as another sibling. Being in the middle a child can feel insecure. The middle child often lacks drive and looks for direction from the first born child. Sometimes a middle child feels out of place because they are not over achievers and like to go with the flow of things. Being a middle child would mean they are loners. They really don’t like to latch on to a person in a relationship, there fore they have trouble keeping one due to lack of interest. Not liking to take the limelight for anything, they are not over achievers and just simply work enough work to get by, and typically that goes with school as well as a career. They are however very artistic and creative. If forced to use abilities they will work well, but do not work well under pressure. They often start several projects but rarely keep focused long enough to finish a project. The best career move for a middle child would be along the lines of using their creative. Going into a writing or journalism career, and into a career that they could freely express themselves would be good. Anything that would have hours that are flexible, and projects that frequently changed would be good for a middle born child. Since relationships are not of high importance to a middle child, often times they are alone. However, the best possible match for a middle child would be a last born.

I'm trying to figure the same thing out about my daughter who is 4. My oldest 7 and my youngest 2 and my daughter does anything for attention even if it means misbehaving and my mother keeps telling me she's doing it to get attention "even negative attention is better than no attention" and it's not that I don't give her attention but I think my little guy takes up most of my time. He was even born on her birthday (he was premature) so now she doesn't even have her own special day. Sometimes I think it's my fault because I had the baby when she was too young to get the attention she deserved...

itz only a misbelief... don worryy

I must say, I most definitely have middle child syndrome. My mom has admitted to me that she didn't give me as much attention when I was young as she did my siblings. She has four kids. My brother is the oldest, and then there are three girls. I'm the middle of the girls. My brother and older sister definitely got more positive attention than me and my little sister. My brother didn't go to college or anything. My older sister did, and didn't have to pay for it, because she got grants because with two younger siblings, she qualified for them. I didn't qualify for grants, and am paying my student loans now. My little sister is in college, and my parents are paying for it. My older sister also got a car from my aunt and uncle when she graduated high school. My parents are making payments on my little sister's car. I paid about 3/4 of my first car, and then my dad said he would buy it from me because I wanted one that got better gas mileage. All they did was pay it off, even though it was worth far more than that. Now I live 1000 miles away. I've lived here for 2 years, and I can count the number of times my dad has called me on one hand. He calls my older sister every week, and my little sister still lives at home so he talks to her everyday. My mom rarely calls me. I talk to her every once in a while when my little sister calls me (she calls me every day), but I no longer call my mom, because it really bugs me how she always complains that my older sister doesn't want to talk to her much anymore. How does she think that makes me feel, when she doesn't want to talk to me? Oh, and I'm the mother of their only grandson. They don't even care about him as much as my sister's dog. (I kid you not, they get upset and ask where he is, if Peanut isn't with her. But they don't call to see how my 14 month old human child is doing.) Sorry for the rant, but I think the middle child exists because parents let it. There is no way in the world that I am imagining being treated this way. Both my sisters say it's true, and my husband sees it, too. My mom admits that I never got as much attention as my siblings. But I don't think that it has made me act spoiled rotten or anything. I've never expected anything to be handed to me. My older sister is very selfish and thinks everything should always be all about her. My parents let her have it that way when she was young so she still expects it. My little sister also expects things to come her way for free, but not to the same extent. She was bullied and manipulated so much when she was little by my older sister that she knows things come with a price. I've always known that I have to work for things. I've always been the most outspoken in my family. I tell it how it is, and I'm not afraid of yelling it out if I need to to get attention.

I wasn't a middle child. But I have some questions for someone who is or thinks they have middle child syndrome. As an adult do you feel the need to get an enormous amounts of affection from you significant other? Do you constantly dwell on things from child hood that puts the oldest and youngest on a pedestool? Which in turn equals resentment? I'm asking because I have seen this behavior from cousins, friends, and now my fiance, and I'm just trying to see if it really is a middle child thing. But I did read and see a program some years ago that touched briefly on this, unfortunately I didn't get to finish watching it. But, I'm curious to know.

I agree. I do not feel this way anymore as an adult, but as a child I always felt that I got the least attention. Not sure if it was true now that I look back though.......

I think it can happen. There are four kids in my family and me and my little sister deifinatly get the msot attention, while my two brothers dont. Mom and dad let them do whatever they want (including going out, school work, ect) and they aren constantly involved with me and my sister. Its like I am the oldest so they have to keep me in line so I set a good example and she is the youngest so she is spoiled lol, and my brothers are just kinda in the middle of it all.