Really Age differances have problem?
By king_asad
@king_asad (53)
Pakistan
December 5, 2006 5:53am CST
Hey there.
OK so i am a 20 year old male and i like this girl. Infact we both like eacthother but the only problem is the age gap. Ok like I said I am 20 but the thing is she is only 15. I was just wondering what people thought about this? We both like eacthother a lot and if we did go out there wouldn't be anything going on seriously as she's only a 15 year old so if you could let me know what you all think? Say what you feel. thanks
5 years of an age difference? That's of course not a problem...
But well, you do nevertheless have to be prepared that at her present age, she can just be more on the playful side and that she might tend to be relying on you at times... But then again, I should believe you are more than willing to be loving and taking care of her, aren't you?
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@mfrancq (1806)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I am three years older then my husband. I know it is not much of a difference, but when he is 17 and I am 20...it was a big difference. We both decided to seperate ways and see what a year would do. When he reached 18 we decided to get together and have been that way since. Be patient. If you REALLY like her, then you just need to wait. Things have a way of working out. And remember, if you ever want the respect of her parents, waiting is also the best way to go.
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I think this is great advice from someone who obviously has been there. I'm not sure what a 15 year old and a 20 year old would have in common ... are you planning on going to prom? I think that if you really love her you will walk away and if in three years you reconnect that will be a great story to tell your grandchildren!
@bonnielass (484)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Going out with a 15 year old is illegal and you can get in alot of trouble. What a 20 years old ends up wanting in a relationship and a 15 year old should not be doing is stepping on a scary line. Friends is ok. Dating is not. Please respect her enough to wait if you really do like her.
@drrahul44 (1152)
• India
5 Dec 06
doesn't make any difference until the understanding between you is rite..
@Genie123 (59)
• India
6 Dec 06
It's not age that matters but the compatability that goes a long way. U may of the same age who just cant stand each other's face! Then what do u do?
So get thing of age difference out of your mind and concentrate on giving shape to ur relation!!
U r too small though! But thats a different debate all together!
But as far as age goes, Dont bother at all!
In fact, me and my hubby are 12 years apart and beleive me, none of us could have asked for anything better!!!
So Cheers!
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
i dont think age is a problem as 7 years is between me and my boyfriend, but as long as you realise that you love each other and thats the only thing that matters
from mel
@saks_sweetie (861)
• India
6 Dec 06
a difference of 5 years hardly matters. but her present age does. she's a minor, almost still a child. but if u still really like her, just give her time to grow up. wait for her till she's atleast 18. till then just be a good friend to her whom she can rely on
@Genie123 (59)
• India
6 Dec 06
tis not the age that matters but the compatability that goes a long way. U may of the same age who just cant stand each other's face! Then what do u do?
So get thing of age difference out of your mind and concentrate on giving shape to ur relation!!
U r too small though! But thats a different debate all together!
But as far as age goes, Dont bother at all!
In fact, me and my hubby are 12 years apart and beleive me, none of us could have asked for anything better!!!
@adolph1111 (167)
• India
6 Dec 06
HI ASAD IAM SAHIL I THINK ITS NOT BAD U CAN LOVE HER UR 20 AND SHE IS 15 U CAN MAN BUT U HAVE TO WAIT FOR 3 MORE YEAR TO MARY HER IF UR SERIOUS OK BYE BYE SEEEYA
@noyleticia (21)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 06
I think that age differences is not a problem..as you say she is just 15 but the most important is let time do it job.
If she really love you then you must guide her to love you in the right way.Just count it to tle LORD..
@harshvyas (3)
• India
6 Dec 06
age diff is not the prob .right now she is a child so it is not possible that she can understand wat is true love it can b infatuation.so u should allow her to get matured enough to say i luv u properly and then ask her whether she can live with u or not
@rikpallav (1242)
• India
6 Dec 06
I do not think so... as you have saied there is only 5 years of age diffrence.. that is okay untill the understaing between you two are nice and you can communicate with each other okay the age diffrence should not come in the of your relationship
@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
6 Dec 06
Pay attention only on becoming self dependant. Your friendship will go side by side. Do not think much about future. Good present will bring best future.
@MissGia (955)
• United States
6 Dec 06
I am a 21 year old female and i date a 33 year old, so just by that alone i apparently dont have a problem with age gaps in relationships. But there is a problem with relationship ages gaps when one of the two isnt even of age..heck shes not even old enough to drive. I see nothing wrong with you liking her or even talking to her..but buddy if i was you i wouldnt do anything with her ie: dates, any romantic sentiments until she is of age.
doing otherwise is going to put you into a world of trouble.
