Fighting with Spouse

Oh Dear! Absolutely its normal. I am a husband and from last 20 years we continuously loving and fighting each other and it always for the same old reasons. Nothing much changed, even repetitive terrible fighting we still cant able to come with the terms of those reasons, which you mentioned as topic.

One of the top things couples fight about is money. Also it's better to fight than bottle it all in and just go completely whacko one day. Read some of Dr. Laura's books, they are very helpful. Also if I may recommend Barbara DeAngelis. She has some excellent thoughts, even though she was married briefly to another relationship expert and they split up.

i think it's entirely normal. fighting and marriage goes hand in hand

Ithink that it is normal. i also think that it might be that tou really haven´t worked through and solved the 2-3 issues that you keep returning to.Me and my bf does the same thing. We have tried tyo worked them out but just had to agree to disagree and these few small things usually comes back whenever we are fighting =(

Yes, its normal. Usually, recurring arguments occur when two persons' values differ on th specific points. It is very difficult for people to change their values and that's way they keep on defending their position.

this is perfectly normal, i often hear about my close friend fighting with h spouse. Every relationship has its ups and downs but its when we come out of these fights which makes us stronger.

When most people fight they bring up the past and that's why the fights seem the same, u have to learn to let the past go.

My other half & me fight over the same things as well a lot of the time.. I think it's because when you are fighting with the person whom you love you sometimes will bring up other things.. Since they are hurting you, you will bring up things to hurt them as well.. It's sad that we do this when we are fighting with our beloved, but it tends to happen a lot I have noticed. Fights (arguments) are not always a bad thing.. They only are if that's what you do all of the time.. That can't be healthy for any relationship in all honesty.. I know sometimes in a relationship one needs to let go of the past though, & focus just on the problem that started the fight. That's difficult to do, as I know we all have a hard time doing this sometimes.. But I think it's best NOT to avoid things.. It's much better to get things out in the open.. I mean fighting may not always be the best thing, but it's better than holding something within for a few months, or even a year.. And then breaking up in the end because of the fact that there was no communication through out the relationship.. I find the best thing to do when me & my other half fight.. Is to just leave the room or leave the house.. Going for a walk sometimes helps to clear one's mind.. Getting away from the person for a bit gives them time to think as well.. I think then a couple should try to compromise in the end, as this helps to make a marriage, or a relationship so much stronger if this is done.. If a couple just goes for a walk & then comes back & tries to forget something never happened.. Or there was no fight.. Then that becomes a problem because of the fact then what the two of you fought about lingers in the background.. Until the two of you have another fight all over again.. About the same thing.. It just tends to become a cycle after a while then.. At least this is what I have found from my personal experience! . . I've learned a long the way that a good relationship is one that consists of a loving relationship.. One where both partners have security, friendship, support, companionship, & a deep love for each other.. But in all honesty none of these things can be achieved without a lot of hard work, but also sacrifice in which I am sure you know this already. I hope you & your husband are able to stop fighting over the same things over & over again. But I also think it's normal like I had stated above.. The only thing is if you two are fighting all the time.. Then that is when it starts to become unhealthy.. I wish you all the best.. You & your husband look to adorable together! . .

I think, unfortunately, it is pretty normal. I find that the things that we fight about are the things that never change, and that's why the topics are so repetative. I don't know how long you and your husband have been married, but I'm going to assume, though I may be wrong, that it is similar. So, the little things that change are probably part of the bigger issue that hasn't changed. I don't know what good fighting about them will do (I'm also speaking for myself here, haha), so maybe coming up with a plan of action. Or discussing them, calmly, what those things are, and how they could be changed, or if they should be changed, or how to compromise. It's hard. Marriage ISN'T EASY. That's what I was always told before getting married, and I didn't believe it until afterward. But even though it's hard, doesn't mean your marriage is bad. So don't lose hope (as I'm sure you won't)! Peace!

YES! My hubby and I just had an ordeal a few days ago. It's ridiculous and I just want those few things that keep coming up to get fixed! Once and for all!