Self centred friends!
By Silverchic
@Silverchic (396)
Australia
December 6, 2006 1:45am CST
Why do we put up with them??
I have a friend (most appropriate word I suppose) who is completely self obsessed. She truthfully believes everything revolves around her (and now that she is pregnant she is even worse!).
If you mention you have a slight problem she will immediately but in and tell you all about her when the same thing happened to her not long ago (that you never heard about at the time). She never used to be too bad but it has got to the point now where if you start talking about anything besides HER she will either butt in OR she will actually turn away from you and start playing with her phone or something! Grrr
She makes me extremely angry sometimes and I'm not keen on spending heaps of time with her but I just can't say anything hurtful to her! WHY NOT????? Oh I don't know..... Does anyone else have this sort of thing?
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@volschenkh (1043)
• South Africa
6 Dec 06
When she does it again. STOP the conversation and draw the boundaries very clearly to. That is, as politely as possible, that she is changing the topic and that you would appreciate it if she could now give you an opportunity. By ignoring her, will just aggrevate the situation.
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@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
I know that's exactly what I should do...just dragging my feet about actually doing it. I don't like hurting people's feelings and I know this will hurt hers.
@greengal (4286)
• United States
6 Dec 06
Oh my God, I've experienced absolutely the same thing! As you said if I mentioned sommething happening with me, she immediately starts off with something similar with hers..and it doesn't end there mind you..she rattles off till I somehow manage to cut in and end the conversation which is nothing about what we started off in the first place! So damn frustrating..I really did tolerate her in the beginning but now I hardly talk to her..in fact when she calls I sometimes avoid picking up..not a good thing to do..but I'm really at the end of my wits! Can't imagine how people can be so self-centered and inconsiderate. You shouldn't be putting up with your friend too..she really isn't being a good friend!
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@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
=) And with her story it's always a lot worse than yours isn't it?? Even if you break a leg she breaks a leg then there's "complications"! lol
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
6 Dec 06
I've had "friends" like this too.They are just plain selfish and think their life,dramas,whatever are more important than any crisis you may be going through.It sounds to me like she is just not worth your time.Perhaps if you put a bit of distance between you she may realise that she isn't the be all and end all.Oh and my "friend" is an ex friend too,I couldn't rely on her when I needed a friend.
@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
I've actually tried doing that - she doesn't quite get the picture. She just thinks I'm busy or forgetful...even when I haven't seen her for a couple of months she is never interested in finding out what I've been up to. =(
@chiquita1977 (1706)
• United States
7 Dec 06
no i do not have any friends like this but,if i did i would have a talk with them and tell them how i feel you dont have to be mean but just make her see your point that everything isnt about her.
@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
7 Dec 06
I will eventually - it's just one of those unpleasant things you just put off until it drives you completely insane! lol
@Adversa (406)
• Australia
9 Dec 06
That sounds terrible Silver, I couldnt put up with it myself. She sounds to ego-centric to make a worthwhile friend, so I think your right in cutting her lose. If she wont get the message then you have to play nasty and tell her why. No doubt it will help her in al;l of her other friendships. She sounds like she wouldnt have many.
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@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
10 Dec 06
That's about it - I'm really the only friend she has left...most other people can't be bothered with her...unfortunately she is together with another of my mates who I enjoy spending time with. So it's kinda complicated the whole issue...
@greenmango (1019)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
Egocentric people sucks sometimes, but oh well
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@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
7 Dec 06
It's just one of those things that you have to put up with in life...just a bit sad that this girl's parents don't even like talking to her for too long! =(
@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
Thankfully my MIL is nothing like that! I feel sorry for you - at least I can ignore my friend. It's a lot harder when it's family!
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Oh wow, that sounds like someone I know... I mean she has a heart of gold, would do just about anything for me (and HAS!) but when we hook up, which is rare lately, it's all about her. I mean, I have a life too, can we talk about that for a second? But, I pretty much let it happen too, I don't cut her off (like she does me), I'm just too polite!!!! It's frustrating, I agree...
@Silverchic (396)
• Australia
6 Dec 06
I take it by the "EX" part that you didn't put up with them! =)
