Have you ever met a child who could not be controlled?

I believe toddlers can be energized beyond our imagination. Is he hyper-active or is this the normal toddler energy? Best wishes to you and your little nephew!+

I am consoled at hearing your story; since I had my niece with me a short time .. I have never had to deal with children that age in my home; or have I had any troubled children there. It was so very hard ..I could tell she was hurting but I was unable to reach her . Please pray for her. Thanks Joy

what do you do with the children who are hyperactive?

"Hyperactive" is thrown around WAY too frequently. Children have energy! It's NORMAL! Hooray for them! We should all be so lucky as to have that amount of energy still!! Give them ample room to run, play, explore, and LIVE. They're children.. it's an innate characteristic.

Two years old and already defiant..is there more chance for her though?I know children can change more easily at at certain age. What does your sister do to keep her in line and have her mind her?

I think you are completely unaware of the violent nature of this child..and I am sure if she was with you ..all the hurrays would become worries.. ITs so easy to say that give them room..when there is no more room to give .when the last dollar is spent and the child is demanding more and more. Perhaps your idea of energy is much different than violent actions.. take in a hyperactive overbearing child for a week..then please come back to this forum and tell me your advice.

so who keeps them safe while you ignore the problem?

I think she meant ignore the behavior rather than ignore the child themselves. :) I"m hoping anyways. Ignoring bad behavior is one way they say to handle behavior issues. Children that act out are typically in need of a lot of love and attention. That's all. It may sound like a cop out, or cliche.. or whatever. I've worked with a lot of special needs kids.. special needs as coming from abusive homes, broken homes, and homes of all circumstances. Kids need love and attention. Give them what the NEED, what they DESIRE in a healthy, caring way.. and you should see their attitude change. Try many things. Try, try, try again! Give children outlets. Show them that no matter what they do or say, that you WILL be there for them as a guiding hand, and as someone they can trust. All children are really great, just be open minded and try to remember.. they ARE just little people.. with TONS of energy!

I think she went "through the village" before I got her and they were hoping I would be the one to help her. Why they are upset that I havent succeeded when no one else has..leaves me clueless.

Other people have tried so I am wondering why they are so upset with me..no one else was able to tame her down.. She is out of control and hateful ..no respect or she hasnt learn how to respect anyone.. My heart bleeds for her but that is all I can do.

I would have paid the trip back if I could..but I paid the trip up..over 600 dollars went toward the child this past week and 3 days..not only for the hotel stays to and from picking her up but also her food, clothing and school supplies.. She had all she wanted..even got her a puppy that she kept for 3 days..Not even a thank you from the family..they make me out to be the villian and no longer talk to me or communicate with me..I just dont understand..No one else succeeded..I can't perform miracles..Miracles require cooperation and faith.

I dont think this child was ignored she carried with her a key board, a guitar, an ipod. etc. she had so much when she came and My job just didnt permit me to give 24 hours unlimitied attention..Her actions moreoever were uncontrollable and violent.

So how do you handle it..I really can sympathize with you..After 10 days..which is a tad over a week..I was shaking and nervous and hurting for her..I wanted to help her but knew that it could never be since she refused to take help or accept any correction.

Yes, children these days have such a different language then what we ourselves would use and so much aggression!

I believe she understood what she was doing..many times I cried in front of her.. She had so much anger in her words and actions ..she frightened me. and moreover never any respect.

but for some best is not enough if the girl returned home..they expected what I could not give..I tried ..since that is what they asked..Now they dont even talk to me.

since custody was not handed over to me..I could not do anything without the fathers permission..There was over 600 miles between me and the child's parents. Therapy was not an option

I was the last resort they were saying as she had already been with my mom, her mom, and grandmom the other side into mental hospital a couple times.. I simply felt sorry for her and drove miles to get her so they wouldnt put her on the bus and simply ship her to me.. There were moments she was nice; but mostly it was violence and nervous energy she put off to me..

She is 13 but tries to be the "adult" Instead of listening she likes to control and call the shots. She didnt particulary want anyone to tell her what to do..she was over agressive and very unreasonable..and moreover didnt want to go to school

Punishment and discipline was not permissable..I couldnt really do anything against her without escalating the already volatable scenario.