My wife says I should ignore my mother

That's a tough one lol. Seems to be a problem for a lot of people. Mom's got experience, she worries about you(both), and she's just looking out for you. Maybe just try listening to her and saying yes mom-thank you, and just keep it to yourself. And when/if you decide to tell your wife, don't tell her your mom said it lol. That'll be an instant NO response. You could try talking to your mom about it, but my bet is it'll just cause more friction between your mom & wife. Your wife is having a problem whether justified or not in trying to be independent from your mother. She may be feeling your mom interferes too much in your lives, and I'm betting you side with your mom more then you do your wife.

Oh dear, Mothers and their sons. What a mine feild. Some mothers never let go of their little boys and the lady in his life can never be good enough in her eyes. If you want to stay with your wife you must take your wife's side and tell your mum to back off. She is the woman you married not your mum. You chose her above all others including your mum otherwise you would still be at home with mum. My grandmother was the same and my parents moved 1000 miles from her to solve the problem. It is felt in the family that she was instrumental in breaking up my Uncle's two marriages becasue of her interferance. Mum never really enjoyed spending time with her and it took a long time for my mum to gain her respect and for her to but out. Both of you have to learn to let go. This will just continue to be an issue in your marriage if you don't break away from your mum. Otherwise your wife may be sending you back to her.

This is so tough. Women go thru the same thing, but they seem to be able to balance it better. When I first got married I had a hard time realizing that my husband was now my immediate family. It took me a while, but we have three kids now and this is where I side. I stand beside my husband in everything he does and he would not let his mom or anyone else run our lives or put me or the way I run our house or raise our children down. You don't have to ignore you mom or disrespect her. I would just tell her that your wife does things differently than she does and there is nothing wrong with that.

You tell your mother that while you are glad that she cares about you and worries about you, you are an adult and need to make your own decisions. You have no problem listening to her if she has some advice, but you are in no way obligated to take it. If she keeps on, put a stop to it right away. Tell her that you would like to think that she raised you well enough to be able to make decisions on your own and while you will always welcome suggestions, you have your own life and family to take care of now.

I think this would not be wise decision. I agree that there might be some differences between wife and your mom. Every wife faces this type of difficulties. My mom has faced, my wife is facing and daughter in law will face this problem but it is not a perfect solution that we should ignore out mom and dad. After all they spent lot of time for us may be 25 or above. They had given so many sacrifices of us and we are doing the same thing. If we do today this thing tomorrow our children will do for us then what would be our fillings. Every thing has solution, try to solve the situation wisely, find the middle way. I don’t recommend at least ignore your mom. You are enough intelligent to handle the situation properly and appropriately. Thanks.

If you feel good to ignore your mother, do it.If you feel good to ignore your wife, do it.If you do not, do not think about it.Yes- Try not to talk with your wife for long period like from Morning till Night.Go to Temple/Church/Maschid Some times. Depending on the work you do(Religion).

I am only 27. Some may consider me to be a young person but in all the bad relationships I have gone through my mom has always been right. I did not listen at first to her so I had to go through all the drama of the breakups and pain and all of it. From now on I listen to my mom. I think at childbirth the mothers intution just kicks in and they seem to know the best things for their children. Mothers can be overbearing at times and there are going to be times when you know they are butting in. But they only want what is best for you.

You first ask to her that whether she can ignore her mother. Advise is necessary as she has got a lot of experience from her life. So it is never possible.

i think you should listen to your mom, afterall it is was your mom who gave birth to you and there no one love you more then your mom, i guess.

you just have to balance the two and keep to yourself whatever each one of them says to you and put your foot down whenever such situations arise wherein either of them try to trample you based on the other. You need to understand that both of them are equally important to you. So dont hurt one just trying to p[lease the other one. Remember at times IGNORANCE IS BLISS!

If your wife says to ignore your mom,Trust me should ignore your wife at once. When a man grew older,He thinks that he know and understand the things very well,more then his parents.And a wife's role is always their in this regard.But the question is that why a man forgets it was his mom who decide each and everything for him when he was unable to decide or think even? She feed him,teach in the best school,always tried make you happy and as a result should we ignore her? There is only one example of pure love on the earth.And it is a love of Mother for her child.Mother is always mother,from any religion or species even.Animals even love their child so much. Wives can leave you for 100s of reasons,but a mother can't leave you on any corner of life even if you hurt so much. you can get another wife,but remember you have only 1 mother and you are so lucky that your mother is with you. I understand that sometimes it feels that what our mother is saying is not like modern age is or she don't understands what we want to do exactly.We must keep it in our mind,that when we are child,nobody can understand our language but still then a mother understands that her child now is asking for food,or have some pain anywhere.So its just our dull mind that we think Mother don't understands,she understand us more then anybody on earth. So what i suggest you is that don't argue with your mom what ever she is saying.her life experience is more then you,So listen carefully when she says anything.If you think you are getting a benefit by doing what she said to you then do it,if not simply do some other thing and tell your mom with ease and love that you were facing problems in that so you changed the way.But always listen to her,This will give her a lot of joy.Once just try this and you will also feel so good. I bet it:) best of luck

If your wife says to ignore your mom,Trust me should ignore your wife at once. When a man grew older,He thinks that he know and understand the things very well,more then his parents.And a wife's role is always their in this regard.But the question is that why a man forgets it was his mom who decide each and everything for him when he was unable to decide or think even ? She feed him,teach in the best school,always tried make you happy and as a result should we ignore her ? There is only one example of pure love on the earth.And it is a love of Mother for her child.Mother is always mother,from any religion or species even.Animals even love their child so much. Wives can leave you for 100s of reasons,but a mother can't leave you on any corner of life even if you hurt so much. you can get another wife,but remember you have only 1 mother and you are so lucky that your mother is with you. I understand that sometimes it feels that what our mother is saying is not like modern age is or she don't understands what we want to do exactly.We must keep it in our mind,that when we are child,nobody can understand our language but still then a mother understands that her child now is asking for food,or have some pain anywhere.So its just our dull mind that we think Mother don't understands,she understand us more then anybody on earth. So what i suggest you is that don't argue with your mom what ever she is saying.her life experience is more then you,So listen carefully when she says anything.If you think you are getting a benefit by doing what she said to you then do it ,if not simply do some other thing and tell your mom with ease and love that you were facing problems in that so you changed the way.But always listen to her,This will give her a lot of joy.Once just try this and you will also feel so good. I bet it :) best of luck

This is indeed a difficult situation. You cant ignore your mother - after all she is the one who gave birth to you and took care of you all your life. You also cant ignore your wife - after all you have to spend the rest of your life with her. You need to strike a balance between the two.Listen to suggestions from your mom but implement only those you think make sense and are necessary. Maybe you can plan some fun activity for your wife and mom so that they can get along with each other better. maybe let just the two of them go for a movie or give them a task they have to do together. it will be difficult at first but with more time spent with each other they may just get to like and respect each other.

i think that when you get married your first responsibility is to your spouse and their happiness. but i also think that if your spouse loves you they will understand your relationship with your mother and deal with it. lastly, maybe you should think about your relationship with your mother and see if she is overbearing and trying to run your life. that isn't healthy for you or for her.

I don't think you should have to ignore your mother. If your wife wants to ignore her, than ok. But she's YOUR mother and always will be. If it bothers you guys about how she gives advice, talk to your mom about that. It'd be a shame to lose your mother over something you could have worked out.

mother is the person who brought you up and the whole life she took care of you and today where every you are just because of your mothers efforts bought you here. don't forget your mother sacrified her everything just for your happiness, shes the one who wakes the whole night and lets her child sleep when he's sick. shes the one who lets her child eat and remain hungry if theres less food at home. mothers with expecting anything from child do everything for them, mothers deserve love, care, happiness and everything that you can give her to remain happy you should provide her. no matter if sometimes shes harsh with you, don't even say a hurting word to her, because shes the one who loves you more than every one. a thing i want to add here is, mother is a person which you get only once in your life, wife you can get many. take care of your mother, go and live with her, don't leave her alone.

Sometimes my mom gets into my nerve. I know she wanted the best for me but at times she's really annoying. I'm just blessed that my husband is very understanding and doesn't say or comment much about it. Just follow your instincts this always works for me.

u should have ur own point view.. just because ur wife is telling, u should not do that.. u try to make her convince that she ios ur mother.. its not possible for u leave ur mother...

dont ignore ur mother, pls think of a peace treaty between two of them

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