Once a cheater always a cheater?

Why stress over something that hasn't happen. Enjoy your life one dat at a time. If or when this happens you'll no the way to handle it. ENJOY THE WEDDING stop making problems for yourself.

i can't forgive someone who cheats on me because for one if they felt that they wanted to mess with someone else they should have ended it with me first so i could have moved on and been doing my own thing.

this is deficult question, but i think human can change any time by the situations, so i will give chance to change , and give more love, i think love can do any thing, and if u give some one love it i will come to as double

Some people can change but you have to know a person well enough to be able to judge their character and know if they shoud be trusted again. We all make mistakes but some mistakes are unforgivable.

It's a hard call to make when it hasn't happened to you. We watch women on talk shows take their husbands back after they've cheated and we think they are crazy, but we are not in their shoes. If my husband cheated I would never be able to trust him again. I would be snooping around constantly. That's no way to live. But then, I lived with an abuser and I put up with it until HE made the decision to leave. I kept thinking he would change. All you can do is hope and pray you're marrying a good man. I will pray for you too.

Gotta let go of the past and move forward. Maybe you shouldn't marry him if you are already worried about this.

People do change.... If your getting married soon, and thinking about this, then how much do you both talk, ? Seems you don't trust him...? Maybe you should post pone the marriage if your worrying about such things... If you both are in love, you should trust one another... be best friends... and talk about such thoughts and concerns... Good luck

I would def not forgive him!! I would be soo mad and soo upset! I think that when a man says I do to a woman that means they would never do anything to hurt them! They should be there for there girl! If they say "I LOVE YOU" to a girl they should def. mean it! They shouldnt betray her.

en......that is really a difficult dicision. I am a man and I think trust and loyalty is really important for a marriage. Once you give your promise to your beloved one, you should undersand that is the commitment you give her/him and means that you should never break it. I know life is full of temptation. But you should always keep the promise you give.

I would not forgive a husband that betrays the bond of love. How could I know or trust that when he looks at me, he isnt thinking of someone else? Or, that he doesnt care enough for my health or welfare? Maybe he kissed anothers before kissing me or the kids goodnight? But, thats just me and a cheater has no place in my heart.

I am of the opinion that infidelity is unforgivable. I would divorce immediately. I would not be able to trust the person again afterwards.

I can never think about infidelity...it is a very difficult decision to make. on one side you have a person whom you love so dearly and on the other hand you have the same person cheating on you which is unacceptable.... it can be a very hard....i myself dont know what i will do if i ever face this situation..... but think of this way....what if we cheat...will they be able to accept us and forgive us.....that's the question to be asked!!!

I am getting married in 2008 and things like this really worry me. Mostly because I've been cheated on before, and because my dad repeatedly cheated on my mother (and all his other girlfriends for that matter). I believe that cheating is grounds for divorce. I don't believe in staying together for kids, or for families.

I think you should forgive him for one or two times. For third time GOD too does not forgive just punish him.

Maybe I will forgive him but to forget what he's doing...absolutely no. I will remember it for the rest of my life.

If the man is cheating on you before you are married, I would not marry him. A person has character or not. If you are married, and he cheated, then you need to find out why. Everyone is entitled to at least one chance, but no more.

that would be a hasty generalization, if he commits mistake, perhaps I can forgive after awhile but if it's repeatedly committed, it's not right better leave each other's respect and go separate ways.

I'm not saying all men are cheating b@$T@rd$ but you have to be ready when and if it happens. We're naturally polygamous...it's only society's mores that keeps us in check. Once we let our guard down, that's it.

this is a difficult situation whether it's husband or boyfriend. i do believe that once you cheat eventually you'll do it again...more than likely. i do believe in letting people explain themselves and try to work it out. so the cheated should give the cheater a chance, after a few months, to make it up someway. but if you're still doubting and questioning. it's not worth it.

I think that I will never be able to forgive my husband if I ever found out that he was cheating on me. But I will give him a chance to try to redeem himself because we have been through so much together and have built this family from scratch. It will also be very painful for the kids if we ever got divorced. I suppose at the end of the day it is more important to try your best to get a faithful man from day one. If he has cheated before in the past then it is likely that he will not hesitate to cheat again if given a chance or if the "right" person came along. My friend had a boyfriend whom she was going to marry cheat on her 3 times before she decided to call it quits. By then she had wasted 10 years with him. So choose your husband/wife wisely.