Do you agree with/accept bi-racial relationships?

@Ambur25 (1006)
United States
December 7, 2006 4:02pm CST
To what degree of bi-racial relationships is "okay?" Please do not use unappropriate terms here. We are all adults. Do you think it's "okay" for a mexican man and white woman? But not okay for a black man and white woman? Asian woman, black man? Do you think it's ALL unacceptable or are there certain degrees?
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@jamiesmom (240)
• United States
7 Dec 06
There is nothing wrong with people of different races being together in love relationships. We are all the human race after all
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
7 Dec 06
That we are. =) Thank you for your response!
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• United States
7 Dec 06
Hmmm... Well, people always have choices. Whether they fall or not, really isn't a choice. It just happens. I'm not against it, but I'm not exactly for it. Each race is different, each has it's own culture that they were raised in. Luckily the racial bonds are falling away (somewhat) Not fully. We will always have issues. I think people should just be more aware of what the other's culture is like before they step off into a relationship, children, marriage. I have 2 sisters. 1 is married to a man 33 yrs older then her,and the other married a man a bit younger but of another race/culture. Of the two. My youngest sister who married a man 33 yrs older is happier then my other sister. and that's just a glance over of it. My sister that married a man of another culture had to learn to cook his ethinic foods, deal with things like racism from his family, ect.
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I [kind of] agree. Lol. People can't pick and choose who they fall in love with. Just as I couldn't. But being "me" I guess, and I've said... it's just not for me. I wouldn't even have my mind set for that. Does that make sense? Lol. People agrue the same with homosexuality. You can't choose who you fall in love with. And some women fall in love with other women. True? But if you're not "into" homosexuality, your mind OR your heart wouldn't even go there. Please don't think I'm trying to be all racial. Lol. My aunt was married to a black man, and I have 3 "half" cousins. Btw, I hate the term "half-breed." African American or caucasian, are not "breeds." Breeds are for animals. Anyways. It's just not for me personally...
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• United States
8 Dec 06
lol, Wasn't saying it was bad darln, was just saying it's "different" I've dated outside the white race. I've had a hispanic boyfriend. It's just different doesn't mean its bad. LOL.. and I understand what u mean =o)
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• United States
6 Mar 07
I have to comment on the term African American. If you are not from Africa then you are not that you are American. and on bi-racial issue there is nothing wrong with that I have a son that is bi-racial. We are all the same just com in different shades
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7 Dec 06
Personally i think what's the difference with people? We are all the same just in a different colour skin!! I am a black girl in a very happy rleationship with a white man, and my two sisters are married to white men and my brother is engaged to a white woman!!!!! Now i personally don't see the difference with people of different races dating each other compaared to dating someone in their racial group!!! I don't see why any one should be offended by it, if they are they shouldn't look, whylook at something that upsets you!!! By the way my grand mother iis Indian form my mom's side, she married a black man andd my uncle had a hjapanese wife!!! So I guess i know this foorm experience. Hope this is osmething a lot of people will agree with. They say that with the mixing of races it is rare to find pure breed people in this day in age and that in the future we will all end up being one race because people will inter date so much and the children will also date interracially, thank god for that!!!!
@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Many many people agree with you. I think it's great that you're happy! Good luck with everything. Thanks for the response. =)
@jmcafam (2890)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I believe it is all acceptable.We do not choose who we fall for.It should not matter the nationality of the person.
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Many many people agree with you. Thank you for your response. =)
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8 Dec 06
Love is love is love, and who you choose to have a relationship with is nobody else's business. We're living in the 21st century, and the kind of dinosaur who still thinks people can be defined according to their colour MUST be starting to die out by now! I'm actually kind of shocked that you felt you had to ask the question.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
8 Dec 06
You'd be surprised at how much racism is passed on...its not that shocking at all of a question really...Ppl arent as verbally open about it as back when I was a kid and before that but its still out there....you should see the looks my husband and I get wehn we go into Rochester or Buffalo NY from the black community...its ridiculous! I really find it a trip cause I'm from Canada and its never been an issue really in my life..after moving here, its nuts
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
8 Dec 06
It's not that I "felt I had to." So don't go there. Like I've said in MANY of the comments before, my aunt is married to a black man! I'm not racist, nor do I think it's "wrong" of someone to date/marry outside their race. I have simply stated it's not my preference.
@Caponis (206)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I have no problem with any bi-racial relationships. I think its all acceptable.
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@prue187 (517)
• United States
8 Dec 06
If your a racist, I believe you'll be bothered by that thought. But if your a broad mindedn person you wouldn't be disturebed seeing them together. I'm married to a black man and I'm have mixed ethnicity, I'm proud to say that we have beautiful children, If people hates to see us, I wouldn't care.
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I know there are some people that are "bothered" by that thought. I'm not bothered by it. It's just not my preference. As I've said, my aunt was married to a black man, and they had 3 boys. That's fine, [for her] Lol. I'm just not attracted to men outside my race. I think there are many many successful, heroic, and admirable black men. I am proud to say that this country has been run (or helped) by an amazing black man.
• United States
8 Dec 06
love is love
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• Romania
8 Dec 06
love???! - should be love so strong like this animal?i think, yes!!!
you are si right!!!i agree with you!!!
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• India
8 Dec 06
i don think racism matter s in a relationshp if they are compatibale wid each other !
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• United States
8 Dec 06
I am in a bi-racial relationship and i love my girlfriend very much...people who think that they shoulden't date someone because of race is wrong because when you love someone you don't love them because there white?black?brown? you love them for who they are and what they give to you.
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• United States
8 Dec 06
I personally do not see the problem...I guess in a sense you can say my girls are bi-racial...their dad is part filapino. Yet after we split up their dad had a problem with me dating a black man, but no problem if I dated a mexican, or a white man. To me this made no sense! Personally I see no problem with interracial dating or marriage. As long as you love the person you are with and they love you back and treat you with the utmost respect and love you deserve..no one should care!Now my husband of course has a different opinion, but knows that I do not and therefore my girls are raised knowing they can date and fall in love with any color of skin that they want to as long as that man treats them right and respects them. Now I do understand people stating that not everyone accepts it. My hometown is one that is starting to, but 20 years ago when my bi-racial cousin and I were kids...All darkskinned people had to be out of town before sundown. My cousin was badly mistreated in school and by the local police as we got older...just because he was black he had to have done it. Thats what you call stereotyping! I will be happy when they day comes that no one will ever go through such things! Like I said I personally do not think there is anything wrong with inter-racial relationships...we are all human and have a right to fall in love with any race we choose!
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I agree. Thank you for your response. =)
• United States
8 Dec 06
personally i do not think there are any "degrees." we're all humans, right? race shouldn't matter. ever.
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Thank you for your response. =)
@MissM25 (37)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Well I'm biased because I'm asian and married to a caucasian so of course I think it's all acceptable. I can't see how there could be varying degrees of acceptability because I think the basis of people's judgements as to whether it's wrong or right is based pretty much on desire for racial purity. Personally I haven't run into any people who have a problem with my relationship. But then I live in California, the land of anything goes, lol.
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Lol. Thank you for sharing. =)
@FrancyDafne (2047)
• Italy
14 Mar 07
Excuse me Ambur25, but I'm not sure to have understand the problem. Is it "okay" a relation between a Mexican man and a white woman? Or a black man and an Asian woman? We are speaking about PERSONS, can you understand the meaning of this word? You speak about degrees.... as if you were speaking about animals. To me there is nothing strange if a person is white and the other is black, or yellow or green. The only important things are love and respect.
@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
11 Apr 07
You see... the only thing that was needed in your response was the last sentence. I was simply asking a question, not implying any DEGREE of racism, not to mention talk of animals. If you'd read previous responses, I said exactly that. My aunt was married to a black man and I have two bi-racial cousins. I also said I hate the term people use these days "half-breed." The word breed is for animals. Those questions are for people of Mylot to share their opinions. Not to express my own personal opinion. You should realize that just because someone asks a question, that doesn't mean that it's the way they feel. If I were to start a discussion on Mylot and ask you, "Do you like Chinese food better than Mexican food?" Would you automatically assume that I'm making a racial comment towards the Chinese culture? I would hope not. It's simply a question to get minds working, fingers typing and opinions flowing. Nothing more.
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Sure it's okay. Everyone has their own tastes and preferences and it's really no one's business except for the people in that relationship. If they are happy thats great and all that matters!
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Great post! Thanks for your response. =)
@chalmette69 (3007)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I have no problem with it, my newphew are half black, half white and I love them very much, my best friend is also married to a black man, I think as long as you are happy it is your own business.
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Sounds like a great family. =) Thank you for your response.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
7 Dec 06
Of course it is acceptable. It is a simple matter of choice, and the only 2 opinions that would matter in any relationship are the opinions of the 2 involved. Those who do not approve of such a relationship are free to choose their own, but it would be wrong for them to critise others.
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Thank you for your response. =)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I don't think there's anything wrong with them, but it's just not my personal preference. Some guy I used to work with called me racist cause I wouldn't date black guys. I had to tell him if I was racist, I wouldn't even engage in conversation with black people, but I do. I've had friends who were other races. What is all comes down to is I'm not personally attracted to other races, really. And I'm not going to try and date someone I'm not attracted to.
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I agree. I'm not attracted to different races either. Doesn't mean I'm racist. ;/
• South Africa
7 Dec 06
I feel that love is love - whether it is between black, brown, purple or pink people it is all the same. They call it "falling" in love for a reason. People don't fall on purpose, nobody falls on purpose. People cannot choose who they fall in love with. I think it's something really special if two people find love together - it doesn't matter what colour they are!
@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Thank you for your response. =)
@nebulla (127)
• India
15 Dec 06
Why not? Today the world is a much smaller place.We must not really think of races,caste and creed instead we should think how much love is there in a relationship. You decide to meet a person because you feel you want to give a chance to yourself in love. The powerful word. LOVE. If you first understand what it is then you go for a date your mind will be clearer. This is what I found out. I shall share it with you. Love entices you into its arms but it is enough to hold you there for only so long. You may grow restless with reality, with the day to day tedium of work. You may itch long to have the carefree delights of passion again...to fall in love all over again just for the feeling. If you fall for that, you will find yourself moving from relationship to relationship always in search of what you only find in the beginning. Love, true long-term love requires more than just being there. It requires that you invest in your relationship; that you work with your partner to succeed. You must create a new love that is deeper and stronger than the fleeting thrill of passion. Together you can build a bond that no one or no thing can break. You can be comfortable in the safety of your relationship. And you can grow in your shared understanding. You can achieve your dreams with your loving partner by your side. Then you are truly in love. This is the opportunity and challenge of love.
@nhtpscd (1416)
• Australia
18 Dec 06
I have no problem at all with it. It is the type of love between the person that counts. If they are compatible on all levels I say be happy. To many people look at the outside not what the whole relationship
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