Can these two people keep their friendship?

I think it is possible to stay friends with the ex boyfriend but you have to respect your daughters wishes. It would be unfair to have him in the house for example if she was going to be there too. I think you need to sit down and have a talk with her and ask her straight what she would think of you staying in touch with the boyfriend. If she wasn't happy about it, I would suggest trying to reach some sort of agreement.

I think you have to explain to the exboyfriend that while you value his friendship that your loyalty, of course, is to your daughter. Tell him that you would like to remain his friend but that he's going to have to understand that your daughter, for now, does not want to be more than that.

If your daughter and ex had a good friendship before things went bad I think maybe one day they could be friends again depending on the circumstances of the breakup. Maybe you could explain to him that your daughter just needs time to find out what she wants and you will always be there for him as a friend also. But at least for a couple of weeks he needs to keep his distance so your daughter won't feel like you are taking his side. She will need your support as well. You are in a difficult situation and I hope it all works out for you.

If two people are not fully committed to a relation ship then time apart sounds very reasonable .If this relationship is meant to be then time apart will indeed make it stronger .MARRIAGE HAS TO BE A PARTENERSHIP OF BOTH PEOPLE TOTALLY INVOLVED IN MAKING IT WORK AND IT`S BETTER TO FIND OUT NOW BEFORE THEN TO SEE IF IT`S NOT GOING TO WORK

i have 2 people my friend one people is my sister and my friend i am very close to

yes they can keep their friend ship

I would stay out of it and let them figure it out for themselves.

I think they just have to let time take its course, if it is meant to be it will, just let them ride through it and you be there for both and don't take sides....

I see how this is,, I been there and its hard to do this eventually they will go thier seperate ways once they have closure with each other and just say good bye, i wish your daughter the best of luck these things can be very hard sometimes!

you only owe loyalty to your daughter, theres lots of nice guys out there

it can happen. might be hard to do, but it can happen :)

It would definately be up to them. And forcing her into remaining friends with him, will only cause her to pull away from you as well. That doesn't mean that you and your husband can't remain friends with him. But, don't try to pull your daughter along for the ride. If it makes her uncomfortable, explain to her that she doesn't have to be friends with him, but he has done nothing wrong to you. But be cautious. Because he "might" be simply staying friends with you and your husband to stay close to her. So don't let yourself be used.

let them sort things out on their own, try not to influence anyone's decision and when its all over and done with, you can still be friends with the guy and be a parent to your daughter, no matter what the outcome. your relationship with other people should not rely on someone else's relationship with them, i mean, if you want to remain friends with the guy then do so, don't let your daughter's decision to break away from the same person be a deciding factor. you are different individuals with different choices, feelings and priorities. as for you daughter's decision to pull away from her friend, respect her decision no matter how impractical or wrong they seem to be for you. we must let our children experience life on their own, allow them to make decisions by themselves and commit mistakes, life is a learning process and they will only acquire learning by making mistakes and making wrong decisions. as a parent though, you can only make suggestions and give good advice. in teh end, it is still your responsibility to support your child in her endeavors as well as it is your responsibility to help her stand up each time she falls.

I would give it some time. If you were to talk to him, it might steam up your daughter so that she won't want to talk to you. But i think that you and your daughter should sit down and talk. You are both adults, and you need to let her know that you are not taking sides you just enjoy his company. I would reframe from talking about the other when they are over though to avoid any problems between them. Good luck with this. This must be hard to deal with around the holidays.

I do not think so, it is very obvious that he wants to continue to be with her more than just a friend and they have shared an intimate relationship for a long time, so to try to continue on as two people who are just friends would be impossible. My sister and her ex went through this. they were together for 5 years and though their relationship was quite volatile (no abuse just arguing a lot) she really wanted to be with him but knew she just could not be...so, she broke it off after 5 years as she had a hunch he was gonig to propose and she was afraid of what her answer might be. which was going to be no...she did not want to break his heart that way. So instead what she did was she went ahead and broke it off and after a few months they tried to be friends. he basically told her that at anytime she wanted to get back together with him he would be there with open arms. that is when she knew that them being friends was not going to work out. they have mutual friends but they do not see eachother much. She moved down to CA and then he moved down there as well but they do not see eachother and hear about each other every once in awhile.

Sorry to hear that. Hopefully, they'll stay together after a time apart.

Yeah offcourse they can keep there friendship but he needs to stop bugging her for awhile.....

im sure if they want to keep their friendship then they can find a way to do it.i understand your daughter point on being on her own for a while to find herself.your daughter is your first priority so if she does not want to see her ex then i would not get in the middle of it because it could start issues for you and your daughter.i understand you enjoy his company but your daughter comes first

Seems to me that she has her head straight, if not her heart. He needs to do the same. Nothing says that you can't continue to be friends with the exboyfriend, you just need to make sure that your loyalty is always with your daughter, or else you will alienate her. If it's meant to be for them, then they will work things out. If it's not meant to be, then I'm sure that after the initial hurt and shock goes away that they will be able to be friends again.

IF THEY WERE TAHT MUCH CLOSE MEANS THERE WIL BE SOME LOVE IN THERE MIND FOR EACHOTHER. THEY MAY BE APART FOR SOME SILLY REASONS. I THINK U AND UR HUSBAND CAN DO SOMETHING