parenting

I see why this world is so corrpt i see the child have all the right and the parent does not have any at all the only thing they can do is bring them, but they cannot raise them the way they want it is ok to do every thing as long as they do not get spanked that is nothing but craziness.

I don't believe in spanking. I think it teaches the child that aggression is ok. I have 3 children, and I may be a bit prejudiced, but I think my children are a lot better behaved than most of the children I know. I have never spanked them. There are other, more effective, in my opinion, sorts of discipline than spanking.

spanking is what a senior dose to a junior for correction ,its not as bully

Some times, the only way to get your child to listen is to spank them. I really believe that part of the reason our generation and earlier generations were better behaved as kids is because, while we loved our parents, we also feared them because, if we got out of line, they would spank us. If kids don't fear/respect their parents, they have no reason to listen to them.

I'm not against at all. I've used all different punishment techniques as well, time outs, loss of privledges, etc. Whatever I think is going to work the best is what I use. Kids/teens/young adults, not all but a lot, are so disrespectful these days. I firmly believe it's because of a lack of discipline. Remember hearing from your grandparents or even parents-my dad made me go out and cut my own branch(swtich) for a whooping lol. I have a half brother who's 16 now, and my ex-step mom(his mom) was one of those ohhh don't do this or that type of mother when he was younger. Well, that kid is so undisciplined, is a little punk, she can't even control him. I remember once too, my oldest is now 15. She did something, and I threatened to spank her(she was a bit younger at the time). She must've been talking with some kids at school or something, she came back with the-well you know, I could call children services if you hit me. I said oh really? Let me tell you this, I AM allowed to spank you, but hey, you want to go live in a foster home? That's fine, let me get you the phone and let me get you the phone book to get the number. Don't bother packing a bag, because everything of yours, I bought, so it's mine. Ready to go, because I'll be more then happy to drop you off at their office? LOL her mouth just dropped. Guess she expected me to get scared or something. Funny, the words children services never popped out of her mouth again :)

CHildren are different, and therefore need different types of discipline. Time outs may work for some, but spankings definately are needed for others. Once they are a bit older, taking about priveledges obviously work better. This is always a debated topic in my circles, but, give me a break. Most parents don't discipline enough. Reality Discipline by Kevin Leman is a great book on this topic. Having the punishment fit the crime. (IE..someone spills something, THEY clean it up).

I'm 18, and I've never in my whole life got a spanking from my parents, and here I am, loving them, trusting them, etc... I was a very quiet baby, but still, I think spanking is wrong. You need to use words with babies, no matter how young they are, they can still understand. A parent spaking his or her own child just seems so unnatural to me...

I don't spank, I don't believe in it, my husband believes in it but I tell him not to touch my children when they act up, just put them in timeout, it works every time. I don't want to spank because eventually it will become a routine hitting and they will just ignore it, it will not be a real punishment. That's just the way I look at it.

I also agree with spanking, but, as of right now, my daughter is only 19 months old and I don't feel that its right yet. I believe the child should be at least 2 years old and able to understand and comprehend what they are doing wrong. I believe that sometimes, spanking is necessary. I agree with you 100%

I am a spanker. It is the only way that I can get my two year old to listen to me. Time outs, corners none of that has worked for us. He thinks it is a game when i sit him in his time out chair facing the wall...he starts talking to himself and singing, and then when I ask him to bequiet he just laughs. Then when his time is up he will get up and go right back to what he was doing. So I have found in most cases spanking works the best.

I do believe it depends on the child. Children respond differently to different punishments. My oldest is extremly strong willed and when he was younger spanking was the only thing that got to him occasionally. My middle son however I could just raise my voice and he got the point. My youngest daughter is about the same as the middle where if she even thinks I'm upset with her shes crying her eyes out. It all depends on the crime and the child. My oldest now is 10 and taking something prized from him does the trick easily now.

I have spanked my kids & feel in most cases it is no one elses business. Most forms of punishment do not work really well. My girls are at the point where they are to old for time outs. Taking things away does not always work either. They are not old enough where they have big priviliges like regular phone use, weekends out & such.

no physical abuse please

hi there, i read your post today.. well,i'am also a parent like you and i know exactly how you feel about that article.. all i can is that continue to discipline your child together with your husband with love and gentleness but tough outside as long as he or she is still a kid, let everything be explain to your kid properly to avoid confusions,you and your husband should agree about anything when it comes to discipline, as what the bible says: spare the rode and spoil the child, meaning in the absence of spanking and discipline your child will be a headache, so while your child is young and tender, and you love them so much, so go ahead you are on a right track and in the near future you will be proud of him or her without regretting anything......

I was spanked whan i was a child, i feared/respect my parents and don't dare to do 'bad' things.now I have a son and I rarely spank him,because nowadays pepole changed their mind to teach their kids,when i span my son he reminded me it is illegal.

I don't believe in physical abuse. But sometimes kids do try to test how far they can go to get their way. I try to be firm then and sometimes I do spank when everything else fails. Earlier I would spank when my anger got the better of me. But now I've stopped that and spank only when I need their attention.

yes ,condemed everything the spanking parents said

I believe in limited spanking and only to a certian age. When the child is older they feel ashamed or embarrased when they are spanked and that is not the point of spanking. I also get really mad when parents spank their kids in public or infront of their friends, I think it is something that should not be done in a shopping center. EERG. I get so mad!

Spanking is becoming a hot topic at the moment. Another discussion about the topic is at http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/403226.aspx Most parents do the best they can raising their kids and not everybody has the same ideas. I don't know anyone who is traumatised by a spanking as a child. Beating yes but not spanking.

I don't see anything wrong with it if it is done right. You are always going to have people who take things too far, they would do that regardless of the law for or against spanking. But most people don't. I think that if more parents disiplined their children, really disciplined their children we wouldn't have nearly as many problems with society today that we do.