Anybody dislike nativity scenes?
By sylviekitty
@sylviekitty (2083)
United States
December 9, 2006 9:43pm CST
Many may find this really weird. My dad was raise in a very catholic family, and so his parents had a nativity scene out every year for Christmas. However, when I was 5, my mom and dad joined a religion that was completely against the celebration of Christmas- so we never had a tree or anything. And we definitely did not believe that Jesus was born on December 25th. I am no longer part of that religion, and am married to somebody who always celebrated Christmas (so we have a tree and do the whole bit), but I just cannot bring anything having to do with Jesus into the celebration of the holiday. (I also feel similarly with Easter, and crosses, etc..). People think I'm weird or bad because I don't want a nativity scene in my house. I believe in God, and I believe in Jesus. But I would prefer to keep religion out of the celebration of Christmas. I can teach my children to appreciate the spirit of giving and of spending time with their families and so on, but that's about it.
27 responses
@kesfylstra (1868)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I'm sorry, I don't entirely understand why you want to take religion out of Christmas. Obviously, Christ was not actually born on December 25, but since we don't know the actual day, this is a date that, yes was chosen by some Emperor, but it is a day we accept as the celebration of Christ's birth.
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I grew up in a religion that many consider to have been a cult. I was in their private school from 1st to 10th grade, and was taught by fear and that's about it. It didn't take me long after I reached the age of 16 to realize that organized religion isn't for me. Perhaps that's why I feel the way I do. I have faith, and believe in God, and pray, but do not feel the need to hear overly religious sentiment. I don't like hearing people preach about religion, and so on. As for religion and the holidays, I can't pass on beliefs that I don't have (if that makes sense). So the best I can do is teach my children to appreciate that Christmas is about spending time with loved ones. It's about the joy of giving. It's not about how many gifts they have under the tree. :)
@kesfylstra (1868)
• United States
10 Dec 06
That I have to agree with. I think I understand better. I really was just confused, but what you say makes sense.
@samm20065 (11)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I still don't understand. It's "christ" mas...how can you possibly take him out of it? You certainly don't have to be involved in 'organized religion" to celebrate the birth of Christ. I can certainly understand you not wanting that. But if you truly belive as you say you do, then forgo organized religion and live and celebrate in your heart with your faith alone! Stay close to your Bible and continue to read and grow. What you've been through will take a lot of recovery, but don't shut the door on learning and growing through reading the Bible. It sounds like you are going through the motions now (praying etc.) but be open to the possibilites that are born of faith!! It's a wonderful thing and will lead you where you want to be...Merry Christmas!
@Krisss (1231)
• Australia
11 Dec 06
Christmas can be as uncommercialised as you personally want it to be. A few years ago we decided in our family to have a totally gift free christmas because of the stress it causes. It was by far the best christmas we have had. We have slowly introduced the gift giving again, but on a much smaller scale. For my family it is all about spending time together and having quality family time.
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I'm not (or was not) a Jehovah's Witness, but the religion was very similar in a lot of ways (I have an aunt who is one). :) We did attend church on Saturdays, though. And the only real holiday we ever celebrated (which I believe JW's don't) was Thanksgiving .
@Sunset50 (1397)
• United States
10 Dec 06
My cousins were raised in a church who did not believe in christmas. Every year my parents bought them gifts and we would go to their home and give them presents. They weren't christmas presents, if we called them that, they would not be allowed to accept. They were not wrapped in christmas paper, most times just in the sack from the store. It was just a way to show my cousins some love and caring.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting a nativity scene. There is nothing wrong with not wanting a tree, santa, or any other thing that commercialism pushes on us this time of the year.
Enjoy the time of the year that has been chosen to reflect on the sharing of love not only to our children and family but to all those around you who need a little cheering or help.
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
21 Dec 06
thank you for your comments. You seem to understand somewhat where I'm coming from, being that I grew up in a house where we did not celebrate it. Christmas was considered a pagan holiday, and a nativity scene would surely have been considered worshiping idols (which is against the 10 commandments). I'm no longer in that church, but it's hard to just jump from one belief to the next, and suddenly want nativity scenes in your house. LOL
@kakuemmom (859)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
This is only my opinion but why would you celebrate at all. I find this hard to understand because Christmas is about Christ not santa or elves it's Christ's birth why have so many ppl forgot this. I would not celebrate kwanza(sp) hannaka(sp) because they are not my religion and i would not understand why the reason for it. I celebrate christmas becasue its christs birth. We still have santa for the kids but the story about santa is that he wanted to bring gifts to all the good children of the world and what better day to do it than on Christmas which is the season for celebrating and giving. Jesus is the reason for the season
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
13 Dec 06
You said you don't celebrate the others because they are not your reglion. What is your religion. Are you a Christian? Are you a Catholic? There are people who consider themselves "Christians" who are not Catholic and who do not attend church. How/why? Because being a Christian is for a lot of people simply a way of being- it's not about how you act in a church. It's about how you treat others, etc. Is that not correct? :)
Nativity scenes are not in my house (for another reason...) because they are images/statues/idols/figurines of Jesus and his family. I grew up reading a bible (your typical King James) that clearly states in the 10 commandments that you are not to worship anything of the like. And IMO, this is really no different from a cross, or my grandpa's old saint with the wolf (the name of which escapes me at the moment). Or his picture of Mary. The Catholic bible leaves out this commandment, so that it can then justify the use of the cross, and all of the other idols you see in church or in a devout Catholic's home. I'm not going to tell anybody who or what they can or cannot worship. It's not my place. I grew up in a wacked out religion, to be sure. But be it good or bad, some of it did stick with me, and I may have faith in God, and appreciate that He's in my life, but I choose not to bring "graven images" or "idols", etc, into my home. :)
@purplenatti (27)
• Australia
11 Dec 06
I 'm not sure whether I like or dislike nativity scenes, but I do find it all a bit corny...
Afterall the woman has just given birth unaided, where was the placenta?
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I think it's quite unusual. Of course it is your right to celebrate Christmas without a nativity scene, or without a Christmas tree or whatever else you have a problem with, but I personally have a real problem with instances in which people have been forced to remove nativity scenes from public places so as not to give offense. We are as free to use nativty scenes as you are NOT to use them.
@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I think it's totally up to you whether you have a nativity scene or not. I don't think that you are weird or bad, it's just the way you were raised. i do not have a nativity scene in my house. I have one but it stays in the attic. It's just not something I want in my house.
@chance00 (3331)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I do not dis like it but when I see it sometimes I am like wow.I do not celebrate Christmas at all but if you want to display the lights and scenes more power to you.I do not think jesus was born in the cold because sheperds were out at the time of his birth but I do not make a big deal out of nayones beliefs
@magnet (2087)
• United States
21 Dec 06
I have a letter that I would like to share with you:
My Birthday is coming soon. Will you join me?
Dear loved ones,
As you well know, we are getting closer to my birthday.
Every year there is a celebration in my honor and I think that this year the celebration will be repeated. During this time there are many people shopping for gifts, there are many radio announcements, TV commercials, and in every part of the world everyone is talking that my birthday is getting closer and closer.
It is really very nice to know, that at least once a year, some people think of me. As you know, the celebration of my birthday began many years ago. At first people seemed to understand and be thankful of all that I did for them, but in these times, no one seems to know the reason for the celebration. Family and friends get together and have a lot of fun, but they don't know the meaning of the celebration.
I remember that last year there was a great feast in my honor. The dinner table was full of delicious foods, pastries, fruits, assorted nuts and chocolates. The decorations were exquisite and there were many, many beautifully wrapped gifts. But, do you want to know something? I wasn't invited. I was the guest of honor and they didn't remember to send me an invitation. The party was for me, but when that great day came, I was left outside, they closed the door in my face .... and I wanted to be with them and share their table.
In truth, that didn't surprise me because in the last few years all close their doors to me. Since I wasn't invited, I decided to enter the party without making any noise. I went in and stood in a corner. They were all drinking; there were some who were drunk and telling jokes and laughing at everything. They were having a grand time. To top it all, this big fat man all dressed in red wearing a long white beard entered the room yelling Ho-Ho-Ho! He seemed drunk. He sat on the sofa and all the children ran to him, saying: "Santa Claus, Santa Claus" as if the party were in his honor!
At 12 Midnight all the people began to hug each other; I extended my arms waiting for someone to hug me and ... do you know .. no one hugged me. Suddenly they all began to share gifts. They opened them one by one with great expectation. When all had been opened, I looked to see if, maybe, there was one for me.
What would you feel if on your birthday everybody shared gifts and you did not get one? I then understood that I was unwanted at that party and quietly left.
Every year it gets worse. People only remember to eat and drink, the gifts, the parties and nobody remembers me. I would like this Christmas that you allow me to enter into your life. I would like that you recognize the fact that almost two thousand years ago I came to this world to give my life for you, on the cross, to save you. Today, I only want that you believe this with all your heart.
I want to share something with you. As many didn't invite me to their party, I will have my own celebration, a grandiose party that no one has ever imagined, a spectacular party.
I'm still making the final arrangements. Today I am sending out many invitations and there is an invitation for you. I want to know if you wish to attend and I will make a reservation for you and write your name with golden letters in my great guest book. Only those on the guest list will be invited to the party. Those who don't answer the invite, will be left outside.
Be prepared because when all is ready you will be part of my great party.
See you soon.
I Love you!
Jesus
P.S. Please share this message with your loved ones, before Christmas.
Love You, Jesus
@magnet (2087)
• United States
11 Dec 06
I love the nativity scene. It is a Christian representation of what Christmas is all about.
@kawillow74 (1416)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I don't understand if you believe then ant does it hurt. Even if I didn't believe which I do If I had all the pc. I would put one out I think you are making to big of a deal out of this.
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
21 Dec 06
I'm not making a big deal out of it. I'm just asking if others dislike nativity scenes in general.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
10 Dec 06
I think people should celebrate their Christmas as they themselves see fit and not as others think they should celebrate. As a catholic, I always make sure to have a nativity set on display just to remind the younger children that we are celebrating the birth of Jesus.
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Personally to me Christmas is what you make it. I get tired of people try to force Jesus on others at this time of year. It should be a time of happiess & good will. That means to each his own. Everyone has the right to celebrate in whatever way they see fit. To me it is more about happiness & being with my family. I do not bring Jesus into it at all & that is my right.
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Thank you. I agree with you, and have to disagree with those who suggest that if I don't bring Jesus into the celebration, that I shouldn't celebrate, period! Growing up, my family didn't celebrate it as it was against our religion. In fact, my mom's mom threatened to disown her if she didn't at least let her give us kids presents, even if we didn't celebrate in our own house. So as you can see, religion had NOTHING to do with it. It was strictly about being with family. That's what made it a happy holiday for my grandma and for my mom's sisters. That's what makes it special to this day- being with family, period. :)
Thank you for your thoughts!
@smalltowngal (247)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Christmas is the time to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. Its not about giving presents, putting up a tree, hanging up mistletoe. Its for all Christians to celebrate the birth of our Saviour. Christianity is not a religion, its a faith in Jesus Christ. Catholicism, Baptist, etc are religions. Religion is how you worship. Christianity is the faith in Jesus Christ. You dont have to have the nativity displayed or anything else for that matter to celebrate Christmas. Its about remember that Jesus was born to save us sinners. Just remember dont focus on presents. that can be given during the year if that is a teaching you want to give your children and spending time with families. Because that is what being a christian is. Christmas time is celebrating the birth of Jesus.+
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Yes, I do like Nativity scenes. More importantly I like the story relayed by the Nativity scene, which is the birth of Jesus Christ. In the USA we have to keep fighting for the right to display them. The libral Democrats try to block such religious expressions.
As far as the date of Christmas, I'm not going to dispute that. Tradition says December 25. I know there are many that believe history shows otherwise. Even so, it is hard to know for sure. The Bible never says Dec. 25, so I'm not so concerned about that.
@heathertruett (478)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Approach it doing what feels right between you, your family and God. I would probably suggest explaining to them why other people use this date to celebraate the birth of Christ.
@paul8675 (750)
• Australia
10 Dec 06
The bad thing about Christmas is the crowds in the shops and the coomercialism. The good thing is the Christmas carols and nativity scenes that remind us of the reason for the season.