How do you make them STOP????

Those are 4 beautiful reasons not to have an addiction. I don't really know why some people have a harder time than others. Of course genetics play a part in addiction, but you're a part of the same gene pool. All you can do is pray for them. I don't see any way you can make them stop. I do worry about the 15 y/o that is still at home. Have you thought about contacting social services?

i am not understadin your problem so sorry to say that but what are you doing? if you want good life in future do some work.

sorry about that. she need to get some kind of help even if she have to go into one of those aa places were they help i hope you try to do what you can i will pray for you for everly thing get better

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They will never stop their addiction unless you would send to Pscyhologist for serious consultation. Or call 911 to bring them to rehabilitation center. This is the only way to help them to break off their insane obsession.

they can stop it, if they really want to do it for herselves. i know what i say, cause i have had the same problems and stopped it 10 years ago. but, i did it for myself, not to my family, not in cause of money, the only reason has been: i wanted to live!!!

Have you tried an intervention? I have seen that work before. You should get your brother to come live with you and just let your mom hit rock bottom. Sometimes that is what has to happen for them to realize and seek help.

just go to pray

You can't make them stop, but you should absolutly help your brother. Please go to social services for him, see what they can help with. Maybe they would put your mom in a program.

Does your 15 year old brother, have a problem too? If not, then why not buy him a Christmas gift. It does not have to be expensive. Or better yet, why not bring him to live with you, since you say your mother is a drunk. I would take him away from that lifestyle and maybe he wont get involved also. Good luck

just go to pray

It sounds like they have no reason to stop, or at least feel as though they have no reason. When the hope has gone, people feel as though everything they do is justified as it makes them feel better - I'd say counselling is the way to go to find the underlying problems, but even then , they won't do that unless they really want help.

just pray for them. it's really hard to get out when they're hooked on it. all you can do is to show your love for them and wait till they come to their senses. may ur prayers be granted.

I am sorry to hear about your family.. and i can understand how difficult it must be for you to see them waste their lives like this. but all you can do is counsel them or get some professional help. In such matters, only the person who have a WILL to stop will stop.. Just keep yourself so strong willed that you never give in to this temptation. I am proud of you..

Seen these situations before and living through them, one thing to remember about addiction is that the individuals thoughts aren't focused on anything but that addiction. It isn't until they are totally taken away from it and start to sober that they think straight

i cant stop my addiction

((hug)) Im sorry whats going on. The problem is they don't see they have a problems and they need to also see it then want to stop. If its hurting you i would suggest since you tried everything else. Cut your mom out of your life till she feels the need to clean up her act and get help. Sometimes tuff love is the only thing that helps. As or your 15 year old brother he is being abused maybe not physically but in this situation. She cannot possibly take care of him and he getting the idea that drinking is ok. Not having food is huge as well. Do you think you can take him in your house? Things might be tight but maybe he can become like you and stay that way. Not that he isn't but you know what i mean. He doesn't need to see that stuff while growing up and if you can prevent it and also give tuff love to your mom. Maybe there is a chance?

First I feel for you in this situation. You have some tough choices to make. You are not responsible for your mother in this situation. If you take her in she will continue to drink and cause you problems. Taking her in would get her off the hook so she doesn't have to be responsible for bills or anything else. You don't want to do that. However your brother is another story. If they have been without electricity for weeks then he is not in a good situation at all. You need to do one of two things, either call DCF (or whatever child services is called there) or get an attorney and have your mother declared unfit and get custody of your brother. If you go through DCF they will most likely place him with you. They'd rather put a child with a family member instead of trying to find a foster home for him. It's a lot easier on them and a lot less work over all. If you go into their office, more so then call, you'll get things done faster and smoother. They will see that you are really serious about the situation. If you go with a lawyer it could take longer and it would cost money to do so. However it would keep the state agency out of your life. Which ever route you do go I would suggest once you have custody of your brother you get a restraining order against your mother. That way she cannot continue to harass you or your family afterwards. Either way you need to get your brother out of there as soon as possible. This is not a situation you want him to be in. Perhaps once your mother has hit rock bottom she will seek help to stop drinking but that has to be her choice. You cannot force it upon her. It won't be easy but far too often things we have to do aren't.

Hey it's really heart-breaking to know what you're going through in life. I think you should help make you mom feel loved and try to keep her happy as much as possible. Maybe all your mom needs is reassurance that there are people who love her and for whom she has to live her life to the fullest. I just hope that it gets better for you. My prayers are with you. TC Cheers

Hoenstly living without power in a house with a child is not only a bad thing its bad parenting regardless of her addiction. her moving in is a bad, bad idea, letting your brother move in is fine i think since he is only a victim in this...