Maid of Honor drama

ookay miss. i use my boyfriend being away and poor marissa all the effing time. as far as the day i dyed my hair, i was working a 12 HOUR NIGHTSHIFT something you wouldnt know about. also docters dont watch the patients I DO. So yes I SAVE THE Lives, who the hell do u think cals the docters, God?

again I say youre not mother theresa, you dont save people doctors do. you sit there watching a screen. as for spending time with my family. please explain to me why its okay for you to pass on going out to stay home and... what was it... oh yeah dye your hair but its wrong for me to spend a few hours with my family. so what if it snowed its not like it was a freakin blizzard. lay off that overdramatics and take some responsibility. stop using your job to try to get people to feel sorry for you.

what she failed to explain was that when i tried to be their for her it wasnt convienient for her. and when we made plans shed never call, or shed be out ding things LIKE EATING with her family... if it was sooo important why did she spend the whole morning we planned together stuffing her face? Also I work full time at a HOSPITAL as an EKG CARDIAC HEART TECHNICIAN, would you want your family or anyone you know have the chance of dying all because the person making sure theyre heart doesnt die has to get a dress? well thats exactly what she wanted me to do.

twice for him yes but he didnt get to have a wedding before. this is my first and will be my only wedding. You should have been a part of that but obviously I dont mean as much to you as I thought. another thing... you dont know a damn thing about his first marriage so you just need to leave that alone. Dont talk about something you dont know the first thing about. It is not nor was it your place to even mention that. but then again you have made a habit of saying and doing things that arent your place to say or do havent you...

hmmm shouldnt get involved i believe when you create a blog about me in slander i have every right too.

Her fiance has been married before... so no it will be twice.

yep. right. atleast, the bride to be should stand for what she believes will be better for the wedding.

well I dont want to lose her as a friend. nothing is worth losing a close friend of almost 7 years.

your the one who decided to drop the friend... all because of a snow storm, and you screaming at me on the phone, i wasnt screaming at you why were you screaming at me for weather i CANT control?

what about when I told you a month in advance we were looking at trying to go with all of you girls but you could never tell me when youd have time. and please explain to me why your family is allowed to be a priority for you but not for me. My parents decided to do something nice for me and plans were made the night before with them. it was not pouring down snow it had just started. If you were risking your life driving to woodbridge to get fitted for your dress am i mistaken or is driving to fairfax which is further than woodbridge by the way not risking your life as well... hmm theres a concept. as far as you being at the doctor I called you THREE HOURS before hand and just asked if you could go. you could have said no but you didnt so dont even blame me for that and then you waited until 30minutes before i had to be there to tell me you couldnt go. oh yeah and the only times I have ever screamed at you on the phone were the two times when you were telling me what a bad person I am and how im making things difficult for you and whatever other rediculous stuff you were able to come up with. Sorry if being my best friend is so difficult for you, no one else has had any problems participating.

wait let me think about this..... WE MADE PLANS FOR THAT DAY A WEEK EARLY AND I TOLD YOU IT HAD TO BE IN THE MORNING. I waited until 1230, it started snowing, i toold you id leave then if you came back still because the snow wouldnt be too deep yet and not far from fairfax. I drive to fairfax so that if it does snow, yet we would still have school (WHICH WE DID) i wouldnt have todrive in WORSE conditions. duh.... im sure nerissa is laughing her butt off at you for that one... how did she die? thats right driving in snow!

when she was given days i could go, she would scream at me over the phone or tell me she would call and never did. and when she did decide to d things she would simply call me and want me to drop everything on the spot, including my job, is that fiar. Once i was in the docters office and she called telling me she made an appointment to be 40 miles away in 30 minutes so me and her had to go leave. I WAS AT THE DOCTERS? then the day we finally got to plan she decided to go have breakfast with her family and then after it started pouring down the snow wanted me to wait so we culd leave in HORRIBLE weather. I value my life waaaaay more than that.

How is it rude of me when she is the one who never makes time, she cant come out with me to do anything wedding related and the one time she did it was a huge ordeal. She waited until we got to the store that was an hour away to tell my mother and I that she had to get back to have her little brother home in an hour to get him on the treadmill and make him dinner and stuff. Her little brother was at my house, my sister could have made him dinner and and he could have used our XL Glider. She didnt put in much of an opinion about anything unless it was something SHE wanted regardless of my wishes like she said I HAVE TO have a bachelorette party with strippers and things like that even though I specifically expressed that I do not want that kind of thing anywhere near my party and I dont even want a bachelorette party. Its like it wasnt even about me. She was very quiet minus the complaints about having to go home... I only got to try on ONE dress because we had to rush her home for things she knew about and said nothing of until we got there,and just sat there while my mother helped me. So at what point does any of that make me rude.

clearly youre not the friend I thought you were because quite frankly you dont have a clue. really all I can say about that is for one thing my mother made the decision that since we both had some time it would be a good idea to go out. Just like you cant tell your mom no, I cant really do that either. as for coming over... you could have said no but you didnt. you could have said you couldnt go out to the mall... but you didnt. you could have said AJ had to go with us... but you didnt. You could have said no to a lot but you didnt so dont even think to blame me for that. You need to step up and take responsibilty for your own actions and stop trying to blame everyone else.

Marissa my parents kept calling me telling me i HAD to get him home, WHY because I WAS THE ONE WATCHING HIM MY RESPONISIBILITY. i know you dont give a damn about your siblings but i care about mine, and he wasnt even at your house when i got their you guys had him at a STRANGERS house! we had also planned that you were coming to my house buuuuut noooooo you called late and said i had to go over their. and like a friend i did i didnt plan to stay 8 HOURS, i have a dog i needed to let out! he had been left alone for EIGHT hours!!!! Also when we did go out you said it wouldnt take that long and we would just run up their check some things out and come back.... HAHAHAHAHA! LIKE THAT HAPPEND! maybe if youd stop being bridezilla for a moment and actually open your eyes youd see the real picture.

theres nothing exciting about any drama but thanks

because clearly you are the only one who works in that hospital... As much as youd like to believe you are far from mother theresa. You dont save them, doctors do. you just watch the machine...

Hun, im not flaky its called i work in a hospital, would you like to die because someones dress was more important? i gave her plenty opportunitys (which she failed to mention) in which SHE was the one with other plans. It spins both ways.

I guess some people may think she means well by trying to do telling me things she thinks should be at the bachelorette party(even though i dont want one and she knows that but she says there will be one regardless) she wants strippers and other such related thing even though I have specifically expressed my dislike for them and that I do not want them. Her response to that was "well there has to be one because I want one" That is one reason I think she needs to be spoken to.

umm yeah marissa real nice... i was playing with you thats NOT what i had said, and i loooove how you use mylot to solve your problems.. Oh shame the virgin was joking about a stripper.... lets not even go into your personal life....

thats exactly what you said. you got pissed off because I wouldnt make my wedding all about you. When you get married your wedding can be all about you. Until then mine will continue to be all about Brandon and I.

um we planned one thing together and you were the one who bailed not me. dont blame me for you not doing something. i tried to plan in advance but that was too difficult for you because you had to make sure other plans didnt come up. thats not really how planning works. how many times did you go out with other people but you could never make time for me because you were so tired from work which makes sense until you say you went out with people after work...

she was the one blowing me off on our days we had planned in advance, all other days she called on the spot and expected me to jump.

well she can never have time because shes either with her family(whos known me for years and would be quite understanding if she was doing MOH things), or shes hanging out with other people, or shes working(which i do understand). I just feel like she doesnt try to make time for my wedding stuff.

well your mom should not have gotten involved after she told my mother two of them needed to stay out of it. Oh yeah and she also told my mom that she never told you that you had to ask her to go out. I believe it was that she didnt even know you needed to. SO you cant blame that on me. and if it wasnt snowing too bad at that point it clearly it wasnt snowing too bad in the beginning when you sent me a text message instead of having the decency to actually call me. one would think a friend deserves a little more than a text message.

I was never hanging out with other people when you asked me on days, i hung out with people on days YOU were working. and my family were the ones who told me i couldnt in the snow, and i couldnt for the mall, so dont go there. Also, if you would have quit your yelling that whole time me and mom were telling you if you had come back then, we could have still gone because the snow wouldnt have been too bad yet, and i woouldnt be as far from campus, but you were too busy screaming.

shes 19, single, no kids, she works part time, and no one is sick...

Well I work and am a full time student as well. My parents are very supportive as is Brandon and I dont regret that at all. Believe it or not I do understand priorities though. I used thought my wedding would be one of yours. Dont blame me for how my parents and my fiance take care of me. That shouldnt have anything to do with why being my maid of honor was so difficult and essentially impossible for you.

I work full time at a hospital as an ekg heart technician, I also go to school full time AND have to pay for it. Unlike Marissa I dont have a fiance and parents to support everything i do.

well clearly trying to ruin my entire relationship didnt solve anything for you now did it... sorry love he didnt fall for any of your rediculous line of BS you tried to give him. He knows me better than that and did you forget he trusts me while you were trying to ruin that too?

thanks. Thats good advice. I really appreciate it and I intend to talk to her.

No... you didnt talk you SCREAMED, thats an awesome way of solving things.

And she knew the responsibilities of being an MOH before she accepted. Shes never acted this way before. I have known her for 7 years and this isnt like her. If this is the way she was planning on acting she should have said no instead of telling me how much she wanted to be there for me as my MOH...

Hallejuha!

You have no business talking about how my parents feel when you dont have a clue. Your assumptions are based off of the ONE and ONLY night you did come out with me. Things have changed dramatically since then. but youd know that if youd been around. Guess it was too much to miss coloring your hair to be a part of my wedding. but thats ok things moved on rather smoothly since then.

right i get the feeling she is more interested in the title than the responsibilities. however the bridesmaid that is being so helpful says she doesnt care one way or the other and is glad to help either way.

I never asked for it, and never bothered flinging the title around anyway. Everyone is tired of you being bridezilla including your parents. all yu do is complain and complain when things dnt go your way, we try to make other options but theyre never good enough, which is why i stoped caring about your wedding at all anyways. I was tired of you yelling and screaming all the time, wasnt fair to me. You couldnt drop things when i was free, i cant drop things when you call me at that moment. when u call out someone misses a hair appointment, i call out and peoples lives depend on it, what if your mom was in the hospital would u want the chance of her dying all for a dress?

You dont have half a clue what the other girls have on their plate so you have no business even mentioning that. They just dont have a problem making time for their friends is all. Jennie is a full time student and holds a job among other responsibilities. Amy has a full time job to which she devotes a great deal of her time and the rest pretty much goes to church.Bailey and Emily are out of state and therefor it is far more difficult to participate than for you. Its real mature of you to blame them for being to step up just because you wouldnt

i told her numerous times that if she didnt feel i fit the "shoes" then to just pick someone else, because with everything i do i dont have time to devote every waking moment (which is what she expects) to do, the girl who does help her doesnt have half as much as i do on my plate, but each time she would get angry with me for telling her.

Thank you I appreciate the response. I really need someone who wants to help me and support me ya know.

i have known her for 7 years and she has never acted this way before. Its not me that needs to get over myself thank you. I dont think you quite understand this. Before my engagement she always promised to make time for planning.

sorry it's you that is getting married not your daughter. I re read your post and realised I got it wrong.

yes. match the right person to what she does best. through that, she'll be more useful and she'll even feel better about it.

Its nice to know im not the only one. I definitely will talk to her. I need to figure out how to bring it up to her

unfortunatley she decided to move on to all out trying to ruin my relationship by telling my fiance im cheating on him and hanging out with all my exs and a bunch of other crap that is so not true and caused a few arguements that got resolved when my fiance realized she was behind it all and i had no idea she was doing all this. it was horrible at first but we got it taken care of. thank you for sharing your story.