okay mylot friends i need your help

its three months now from that day now what happened can you tell us how is she now and how he is behaving these days

I would not let her stay on a permanet basis for sure if there is trouble ... Maybe a few days or something at the most

What does your husband think? If she does come to stay with you I would definately lay out some ground rules.

Why don't you talk with your husband about the issue and bring to his attention what you just said about his sister. 'cause if i were in your shoe i wouldn't want my children living with such charactered person, i don't mean to rude but hey they are my kids. greetings. : )

Sorry to be blunt but if you want peace of mind don't let her stay with you.

I had a niece come live with me when I had tow little ones home. She was a lot like your sister-in-law. She had boyfriend who was serving time in prison for stealing froma church, and she was a habitual liar. I had no idea she was also this way about the stealing. It was a horrible nightmare and I would never do it again if I had to. It was not good for me , her, or the boys. She moved out on her own and got pregnant and married. She never even talks to me anymore and I did a lot for her when she was here.

hell no, unless you have shares in superglue to stick your stuff down and plug your little ones ears. Talk calmly to your husband about how you feel and your reasons why. Acknowledge that she is his sister and you understand the position it puts him in. If he insists on her staying with you try and agree a trial period but never allow him to see you being less than reasonable. Set the home rules for her before she moves in and tell her you expect her to respect the rules because of your children. The rules may even put her off. Explain the trial period and have regular discussions to ensure everyone is happy and she is helping with household chores etc. If this works for 4 weeks then allow another 4 weeks with the rules revised to suit everyone again. Never say yes you can come live with us only say you can stay with us while you find somewhere of your own and always set review dates. Good luck.

as it is yours and your husbands home the bad behavior would have to be addressed before she came,,if she doesnt like the rules she can go back home,,what is acceptable there will not be elsewhere,,maybe she feels a different atmosphere would make her happier,,she will have seen how you do things and may infact want that life with you,,troubled children often just want bounderies and with them often comes a changed child,,she should react to you not you to her.

well....if ur husband agrees with u abt his sis.then its better she doesnt live with u..becoz u sure dont want to giv ur children a role model like her

i think the first thing you should do is talk to your husband..it is his sister..personally having a person around da home aint very nice for da kids..she can easily influence them..before you talk to da girl talk and ask your husband for advice..

I would really consider the risk here. If she is disrespectful and untrustworthy I would not allow her to be around my children. Would you let your child spend time with a friend who acted this way. If there is no other choice but to let her stay then for sure make some ground rules about what is and is not acceptable behavior including attitudes and STICK TO IT. If you let it slide once, she will have control of the situation. Really be careful about letting someone with a bad attitude be around your children. Attitudes spread like wildfire and can really define how well you do in life. Good luck to you.

sounds like she needs to keep her fast and "grown" behind wherever it is that she's living because you don't need that stress in your marriage or any tension in the home where you are trying to raise your babies.

there is no right or wrong answer to this. If you feel it would hurt what you have been raising your children to believe and do there is no reason for you to have her there. You need to worry about what your children will be learning from her, if your in-laws don't like the fact you decide she can not be there that is their problem, you worry about your family first. A friend of ours went through the same thing so the dad gave his child to a sister and the girl is even worse than before she left, but at least now the stepmom does not have to worry about the girl beating her half sister anymore. Trust in God and he will give you the answer you need!!!!!!

I don't think that it would be a good idea to let her stay with you because I think that it could cause problems.

if it doesn't have any problem you shoudn't.but if it have any u shoud late her live with you and tich her some thing she dont now. something cool.

thats a very tricky question right there, but it is a joint decision which has to be made. the first question is how old is she, are you sure that she can be trusted around the house with her boyfriend.

If she is like that I dont think I could with having my own kids. They might pick up on what she does and if there are young children I would just be scared to have to take that responibilty .. Is she like that b/c of the way things are at home if that is it , it may be good for her

You need to let your husband know first what your feelings are. If shes disrespectful then I dont think she needs to be around your children.

Charity starts at home... Your children should be priority. Remember that she will be influencing your kids. I am speaking from experience because I'm the nice Aunt that always has an open door & heart. I have one nephew that we allowed to stay with us. He had a reputation very much like your niece. He was okay with our house rules for the first couple of months, but after a while, he was back to his old ways... he ended up ripping off my best friend's son. This was a very embarassing situation. I made him return the item and apologize. I never took him to their house again. He is back with my sister now. I have another of my nephews living with me now. He is very respectful and helpful. He is also a working adult!

Always a hard situation. Family are family through whatever but sometimes that forces sacrifices to be made. However, at the end of the day, you have your own family to worry about, you don’t really want them put in dangers way, but the viewing of such terrible behaviour could compound their thoughts of never misbehaving and getting to that stage. It’s a shame for the girl.