Love or Friendship!!

India
September 20, 2006 10:32am CST
i had this crush on a girl in junior school..but i never had the courage to tell her...now after amny years my best friend is planning to propose her...what should i do??
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19 responses
• India
20 Sep 06
love is concerned to personal life and friendship is concerned to public life if u love the girl then dont think of what ur friend thinks on her coz its his personal life.... after marriage or before marraige the relationship u share with ur life partner is different from that of a realtionship that u share with ur friends... in the course of time u friendship relationship between u and ur friend may be good or it may breakdown some time point of life but a marriage relationship must not at any point of time coz [in my view we must have only one personal realtionship untill ur parner is alive and healthy , and also u must share a happy life with ur parner else the rule may be broken...as per me i do it according to my instincts and expect the same from my partner] friends play a main role in ur life but u dont share each and every personal feelings with friends as u do with ur partner and life parner has his/her own siginficance in ur life with whome u cannot discuss all the things that u discuss with friends..and this relationship makes ur personal life happy.. i hope i'm correct...:)
@cooltj89 (387)
• India
20 Sep 06
i think you should make a quick move by proposing her as soon as possible rather then grumbling in future for not doing so atleast there would be 1%chance of her saying yes......
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@Sandy85 (473)
• India
25 Sep 06
I am feeling pity on you.
@jaytin (74)
• India
25 Sep 06
love
@gimil007 (389)
• India
25 Sep 06
friendship is the best relationship..... nothin can go over it as of me
• Indonesia
25 Sep 06
I think, this is the last chance for you to show that you do love the girl and your friend. If you do love that girl, you must tell her that you love her. Don't affraid to be not accepted. It doesn't matter. But, perhaps he loves you too, who knows? You and the girl can decide something new in one or another time. I beleive that your friend is ready to accept what decision is.
@KHyuga (1694)
• Singapore
21 Sep 06
Well, it may just be a crush after all. And since it's just a crush, I guess you can just tell her in a casual way, now that she is getting married? At least you won't regret it later in your life.
@van123 (1287)
• India
24 Sep 06
both
@van123 (1287)
• India
22 Sep 06
Proposing her as soon
21 Sep 06
use ur brain.. do the needful as early as possible.. go n tell ur gf about the crush.. watever b the result.. itz ur duty.. but tell her aeap
@nextgen (1888)
• India
22 Sep 06
u need to resolve the issue very softly.. u also speak out the issue with ur frnd.. since he is ur best frnd, he may be bale to understand u
@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
25 Sep 06
You had your chances. If she is in love with your best friend there is not much you can do. If you try to profess your love now you may cause drama. If you feel like you can not keep it in. After he propses I woul make a light joke of it.. Say something like " I can' belive it I had a crush on you for so long but I guess my friend bet me to it" it would get your feelings out there without the drama. Thing is if you really wnated to be with her you would have made it happen. Just fell happy for the two of them nand get out there and find your own spechial someone.. She is out their waiting for you.
@mjtenorio (237)
• United States
21 Sep 06
Did you ever have a relationship with her? There is a big difference between a crush(you) and love(your bestfriend). If your best-friend is proposing he more than likely loves her very much. So you should just let it be. You had your chance and you let it pass you by.
@jacobi (12)
• United States
22 Sep 06
You had a crush on that girl. As you kept that in your mind...none other than you knew it. It is very normal and happens most of us. Now you have grown up and need to behave like that. Your friend is marrying your old crush. Keep the past in your mind and let the past be past. If you say something now with regard to it, you will lose your friendship (as your friend will always doubt that you have other intentions to his wife)and also you will never achieve love from that girl. Mostly whe will feel embarassed to come before you after the marriage. Go and enjoy your friend's day...it belongs to them
• India
21 Sep 06
ofcourse will go with friendship
@mayshoe (606)
• India
20 Sep 06
let it be man it is a part of life let him enjoy why u should come in between them....
• Japan
21 Sep 06
Tell her about your feelings. You may not be able to have her, but she would at least know your feelings for her. And I am sure she will show her appreciate in other ways.
@kesav010 (1684)
• India
21 Sep 06
dat depends on whether u still have feelings for her...tell it 2 ur best friend..if he's ur best friend den he'll find whether da girl has feelings 4 u b4 he propose..
21 Sep 06
What should you do? This crush was years ago? You don’t love her. You don’t ‘know’ her, so what are you going to do? Announce to the girl that you had a crush on her back in high school which is what… how many years ago? The couple are perfectly happy, they’re in love, they’re getting married. Let them have their moment.