Support or Against Divorce

I agree that whats the point in marrying if it will end in divorce, but I am sure that most people when the marry believe it will be forever and not end in divorce one day. Sometimes people just grow apart for whatever reason, and I am sure it is better to get a divorce than stay in a loveless marriage and be miserable for the rest of their lives.

I've never been divorced and hope never am. But my husband was. His wife cheated on him and he decided maybe they can work through it and he gave it a shot...she walked out.

I support the right to get a divorce. I don't think anyone should be forced to stay in an unhappy marriage. People change with time, and sometimes people change in very different directions. I would never stay with an abusive man, just because we were married. Lots of men don't beat their women until AFTER they get married, and they feel like their wife is their property. Its just not right. Sometimes you just never know if the man you are in love with will eventually turn into a wife beater.

I believe in divorce. After several years of emotional abuse I decided that I had the right to pursue happiness and that there was no reason to live miserably for the rest of my life. I also realized that it damaged my children to be raised believing that women should be treated that way.

When my husband asked my dad if he could marry me my dad told him very clearly that our family does not believe in divorce so that he better be sure that he wanted to marry me. I think that marriage is sacred and too many people give up too easily. I believe that God hates divorce because it destroys lives, especially when children are involved. I wish more people would take care in choosing a spouse so that it wouldn't come to this.

I believe in fighting for your marriage. It's hard and too many people do give up to easily but sometimes it is in the best interest of everyone involved if two people who don't belong together get divorced. Sometimes forcing two people to stay married will cause more harm than good. Fight until you can fight no more. I've been with my husband for 13 years, married for 5 and it's the hardest thing I've ever done but I know that if things got really bad I would do what was in the best interest of my kids and if it included divorce then that is what I would do.

A friend and I were recently discussing this very thing.We decided there should be a test you have to take to see if you are ready and marrying for the right reasons.If you fail, no marriage license.If you pass,the marriage license should 3000.00$.If it were harder to get married, more people think more seriously about it,than maybe there wouldn't be so many divorces, or so many people making a joke of marriage.

in my opinion, people who get married are beacause they love each other. so if they still love each other,their marrige keep,if they dont,they divorce. well,diffrent people have diffrent ideas,there is no wrong or right.

I am against divorce, we got married not for a month, a year or a weeks, but for forever. Don't think like a stars in Hollywood, they did that only for popularity :). Love your spouse and your family.

I believe in fighting for your marriage or, as Dr. Phil says, you have to earn your way out of it. I have actually been divorced but I fought for my marriage - a marriage that should never have taken place. He was abusive before the marriage but I thought he would change. I never gave up. He was the one who walked away from the marriage - the best thing he ever did. I had a choice though. The police asked me if I would take him back and I said only if he got counselling. Fortunately I never had to make that decision. He never came back and when I heard from him years later he sounded even loonier than when we were married. There are days when I wonder about my current marriage. Did I make another mistake? No, I am not be abused this time but I put up with some crap. But I will fight for my marriage. Failing at one marriage was very shameful for me. I can't imagine failing at another. I believe God brought my husband into my life for a reason and He will bring us through it.

i wouldn't say that i am totally against it because if life becomes hell in a marriage from either side then its better to separate, that is, get divorced! its for the good of both husband and wife. again i would say it depends upon the situation!

"I have developed a safety plan for the kids in case he really loses" ... In my opinion, the fact that you make this statement indicates you feel the need to give forethought to the possibility of domestic violence. If this were just about you and your husband I would say one thing but it's not. That being the case coupled with your concerns of his reactions then I would suggest leaving based on a trial separation. While you may find this an inconvenience for you and the children to leave your home, the fact is you're making the decision to end the marriage so you will have to be willing to accept some initial inconvenience for the sake of the children and to promote less conflict through the divorce process. By filing for legal separation you can request a Temporary Restraining order (not a Protective Order), put some initial space between you to provide a 'cooling off' period on his part. I would suggest allowing this 'cooling off' period some amount of time before actually petitioning the courts for the final divorce. While this process will take more time and some additional costs it will also allow time for some acceptance of the situation on his part and, in my opinion, ultimately decrease his animosities over the break up by giving him time to let it all sink in. Best Wishes & Good Luck!!

I will support. If they are not interested to live with together how can they live each other. I support divorce.

I am against divorce. I mean seriously, you've spend your life to look for this person you truly care about and love. Why should you leave? That's the problem today, marriage is supposed to be a holy thing, of two persons to become a family, to love and care for each other. I guess people forgot about this already.

I believe in divorce as in some marriages it is necessary to get divorced because things do not alweays work out between the two or they find someone that makes them happier. Before I were to divorce someone, I would try and work things out and try and make it work. I would not want to stay married to someone that was physically or verbally abusive to me or my kids, if I had any.

it depend on your own situation really.after all divorce is not your target getting married,it would cause alot problem left you have to cope with.

I don't think anyone should go in with the thought that divorce is possible. People that should marry should have the same goals and values and work toward the same thing. People should not get married just because they are getting older or pregnant or figure divorce is an answer. If someone is being abused or has been cheated on than they should get a divorce.

hey friend,if marriage has been committed in mutual concerned then divorce by mutual concern is not needed..

I would say it has two faces ...one is considered good(support) when u are really abused my ur husband and by ur laws..which happens in many cases... Secondly bad (against)as it really ends up in messing ur life ur child's life(if any) and ur parents..After having such emotional bonding with each other and it end up in divorce then it is really bad...

Well, I agree, and most people before they get married would agree, which I think is an issue because, the divoorce rate is insane now-adays. It's at 66%! That's 2 out of every 3 people! I think that it is wrong, and it's a terrible sin.