Dr Phil's Parenting Test

For one thing dr phil is not an accredited dr in my book he's a big phony trying to impress his personal ideas on society. I did just fine with my kids with no help what so ever from him!!!!

I don't agree with some of Dr. Phil's methods, but I like this test. According to this test, my mom was a good parent, but my dad was a destructive parent. I hated my father until just recently, and we are now just like two strangers.

Some of them....ok....most of them, yes I do them. And now that I have read that and taken the test, I feel awful! I have always thought myself to be a good mom, and now, Im having second thoughts about my parenting...but, thank you, it was helpful, it makes you open your eyes and think...

I think I'm pretty good when it comes to my daughter, but according to this, I am a really bad parent to my dog! But that's no suprise to me.

my god, you can't tell me that there isn't a parent out there that hasn't blown up at your child for no reason. if you say you haven't, then i would think you are lying. because children will test your last nerve to no end.

1)Do you react to your child out of anger? - yes sometimes 2)After an intense interaction, do you experience guilt? - yes 3)Do you vent frustrations over situations where your child has no control? - no 4)Do you expect perfection from your child? - no 5)Are you impatient and/or judgmental? - no 6)Would you behave differently if someone were watching? - absolutely not 7)Is there constructive value to what you're saying to your child, or is it just negative criticism? - definately constructive 8)Do you have frequent interactions that leave your child feeling unloved or undervalued? - never

well i guess i will be the first to be judged lol..some of them i do..and i relize afterwards what i have done..and i immediately talk to my son, appologize like when i expect too much from him hes soo smart..i forget hes only 4..and im very impatient sometimes..i try soo hard to fight this..if i spazz out over something stupid i tell him i was wrong and sorry and that no one os perfect..and then i will halp him..i know im not perfect in parentiing hell if u knew my parents and what i learned lol..youd undertsand..but..i watch alot of talk shows and they realy help me..because what they say in in the back of my brain.. other than those my answers were no..what about you?

No one is going to be the perfect parent. i don't think that just because you answer yes, or sometimes to a few of these, that you are a distructive parent. I know that there are things that I could do better in parenting. But if I yell at my daughter for doing something wrong, that doesn't make me distructive.

no, i don't think so. i did say yes to 2, but who doesn't, and i said yes to 5, i'm very impatient not really judgemental tho, i tell my kids after i may yell, sorry i yelled at u but... otherwise 1 was sometimes and the rest were no's. i don't think u can tell whether u're going to be a bad parent or not! i just wish i knew the right ways to being a good parent!

i just had three yes out of eight, do you think that is something to worry. its anyway below fifty percent, still i think i need to watch out some of my ways. thanks for the eyeopener

1)Do you react to your child out of anger? No, when my children misbehave they get soap or a spanken ...to do so in anger is abuse 2)After an intense interaction, do you experience guilt? intense interaction is what? a parent out of control while the child throws a fit...if my child throws a fit ..Im the adult they are the child ...swift discipline is taken and the child is will learn quickly. 3)Do you vent frustrations over situations where your child has no control? DOnt get to that point 4)Do you expect perfection from your child? HA ha a child perfect .. dont think so they are kids its a learning process that is why they call it raising them. 5)Are you impatient and/or judgmental? Sometimes when they do the same thing over and over again, Not listening after being told numerous times... so it is a yes and no, grace is given 6)Would you behave differently if someone were watching? Not in the least bit..if half the parents whatched me raise the kids the way i do then there would be alot more respect in the world and less spinless parents. 7)Is there constructive value to what you're saying to your child, or is it just negative criticism? we always explain ourselves and make sure they understand in a positive way. 8)Do you have frequent interactions that leave your child feeling unloved or undervalued? Hardly, we embrace our kids with love and support.

Some of the questions, my answer is yes... I'm a first time parent, our baby was born when I was 20, I'm very clueless on how to handle him if he's being too naughty. Most of the time I try to understand his view of things, I know kids are very curious and they do not know right from wrong that is why as much as possible I don't raise my voice when I'm upset. Normally I give ourselves a time-out, we sit 3-feet apart facing each other, this gives me enough space & time to calm down, then if he's ready he usually walks up to me and hug me tight. Afterwards I try to explain what was wrong with his behavior, I hope he understood though. I do wish parenting will be easier, but in reality nothing in this world is easy.

Umm..I can't say that I am destructive parent ! Because ,I veery rarely react to my child out of anger, that too after having failed to convince him with my patient talks with him, I personally feel that, being elder we have seen much more life than our kids and for sure we know certain things are not good for their age. And then it becomes necessary for us to explain them why it is so ? Inspite of patience explanation if your kid is not listening to you, then , I think there is no other way left except reacting out of anger ! Can you allow your 12 year Kid to drive a Motor cycle on busy road for his school ? What would you do if he doen't listen to you ? I normally don't react intensely, so that I may feel bad afterwards.I never vent frustration through my child or for that matter through any one of the family member. I never wanted my child to be a Mr.Perfect, as I know that no body can be perfect in this world and I myself know that there are several areas where I am very poor. But I expect him to be atleast bit above average as I know that he is an intelligent boy and he has got the capability to so.I am normally not impatient. As far as judgemental part is concern, we know the beahvoiur of the kid anf from the past experience of mine I can judge what he is feeling, I judge for positive intension. I never imapart anything on him o the basis of my judgement. I critise him some times but after attaining certain age I am always constructive in my approach and advicing him ! I have frequent interaction with my son and that interaction is not to make him feel that he is notbeing loved or he is degraded and undervalued. These are my honest feedback and now you judge your self if I am destructive parent or not ! Any ways I am lucky that my son and they love me a lot ! And obviously I too love them !

You can always trust Dr. Phil :)

Those are great ways of determining whether you are a destructive parent or not. I admit that I started out, as a first time parent, with a lot less patience and understanding. I read lots and learned to parent more efficiently, only through trials and tribulation. Now, I can proudly say, it's a "NO TO ALL". I would have loved to have had Dr. Phil around when I had my first child. (20 years old)

Dr. Phil is a charleton.(sp?) He is nothing special as far as "doctors" go. His test, while perhaps accurate, is so basic he should be ashamed for taking credit for it. Anyone who is has any pride would answer no to these questions. Even if the real answer is "yes" These types of parents are too close to the situation to believe they could be destructive. They won't admit to themselves they are abusive, over-bearing, or expecting too much from their children. These points make the test useless. Force

Well I answered yes to most of the questions. I know I need to change a few things, it is hard with the busy schedule in todays society.

well i have raised my kids the best was i saw fit to they don`t come with instructions and more importantly an OFF button .We as parents can only do what we see fit it works for some children not others we need to cater for their different needs . I loose my temper as does the next person and through this we alll learn even the child life is by no means perfect it never will be

im a parent and im not sure if the answers to these questions could make you a destructive parent i know i do not do these things i do not believe in expecting your child to be perfect and im deffinatly not inpatient you need alot of patience when it comes to children i would also never criticise my children i believe as aparent we should never critisice our kids we should always be positive and be there for our kids and it is also very important to never loose control and to always make sure our kids know that we love them no matter what nobody is perfect and we should always be very patience when it comes to our kids

I answered yes on one. I do tend to over react. I will work much harder on this because I want to be the best possible mom I can be. I don't want to be a destructive parent. That makes me sad! My little boy is such an angel!