To spank or not to spank?

I think spanking is okay in the way you put it. My nephew is 5 and he gets a swat on the butt when he has gone way to far. He never gets bend over the knee and repeatedly swapped. When he gets yelled at, he just laughs, but a swat definitely gets his attention. 99% of the time he gets sent to the corner. He absolutely hates that, but it usually does the trick.

I have three children (son-19, daughter-15, and daughter-6), and I have always implemented communication and time out as the means of discipline. The key was to be consistent with the discipline, they could tantrum, scream, or laugh all they wanted, but they quickly learned what the consequences were, and sitting in time out was not something they wanted to do. If the improper behavior had to do with a toy, then the punishment fit the crime, and they learned that the toy would be taken away for a week. I never spanked or raised my hand to my children. My view on spanking, even a simple swat, is that it does teach impressionable young children that when we are angry with them, we can use violence to control the situation. To me, this is the wrong message to send to our children, as we are their first teachers in life, and it will teach them to enact the same violence when they are angry, leading to more bad behavior that you have to then try to correct--forms a cycle. For example, you swat lil' Johnny because he was jumping on the couch and screaming and you warned him three times and he still didn't listen; so, you swat him, or spank him. Then lil' Johnny's younger sister is annoying him by screaming and jumping all over the blocks he was building with, so, lil' Johnny smacks her. Why did lil' Johnny believe it was okay to smack his sister, because you the parent taught him that when someone does something wrong you hit them to gain control or correct the situation. You create a cycle, and then chances are you will discipline lil' Johnny for hitting his sister, but you've confused him because hitting (swatting) is acceptable for you to do. It also teaches a child to fear their parent, I would much rather have my children comfortable with me and not afraid of me.

I spank my daughter and son. They are 3 and 5. But I do realize that spanking does not work on every child. My daughter will straighten up at the threat of a spanking and with my son it depends, my husband can spank him and he will be good for about a month and then it is like he forgot about it and starts acting up again. With me I could spank him everyday but I don't because I know that it doesn't work. I learned from my parents that you cannot treat your children the same evry child has their own personality so what may work with another may not work with the other or others. So basically to answer it depends on your childs personality, so basically I do beleive in spanking children.

Studies show that mild spanking and lead to the child becoming an abusive individual. Even in it's most mild form. Spanking is only an excuse for lazy parenting. Face the facts that you have to be quick to take a firm stance and stick to it. Be consistent and firm with your decision and you will quickly start to see a transformation of your child. It takes a lot of work, but in the end it will pay off huge compared to spanking. Also kids that were spanked become much more rebellious as teenagers. Another study that was done. I will look for links, but I saw them in a medical journal. Only spank your lover if they ask you to.

u should spank ur child when he is young...that is the only means to get his attention and to make him respect...if u do not give him any punishment he will take things very lightly and finally iot will afeect him and maybe his career as he grows up... a good parent needs to always discipline his child...but if he obeys u then i think there is no need to punish him...u can just give him some few warnings... but if he gets out of hand then u better give him some punishment

spanking is wrong no matter what, try other methods. Spanks can lead to violence, if you get away with a spank what will you get away with next. A tap on the back on the hand usually works with toddlers.

when i was still little,i am really hard headed. i don't listen to what mum tells. instead, i go out and play with the kids in the neighborhood. i spent most of my time with them even to the point that i forget to go home at mealtime. sometimes, i forget to do chores because i love to play more than to do the chores i needed to accomplished. my mum spanks me whenever i commit mistake. the good thing is that she explains first her reason for spanking me. make me realize my mistakes and make me swear to try not to do it again. i grew up well knowing that mum needed to spank me because she loves me. what parents should do is to communicate to their children in any way possible. and oh, please spank when you're it's just proper.

no spanking the kids but girls u can

Spanking and making children feel guilty are risky practices. Different definitions of spanking cause confusion and misunderstanding. There is a huge difference between slapping a 2-year-old's child's hand and hitting her in the face; between swatting a 3-year-old's behind once and hitting him repeatedly on the back. Although we know chronic or severe physical punishment can have dramatic negative consequences for children, not all physical punishment is child abuse. Infrequent, mild physical punishment by parents may appear to be effective in stopping misbehavior in some young children. Although there continues to be some debate among professionals about the merits of its use, I am not familiar with any research showing that infrequent, mild physical punishment has clear long-term negative consequences for children. The use of this discipline choice will be further moderated by a relationship in which the child feels deeply loved and supported by the parent. Even mild physical punishment would be inappropriate, however, for children who have been abused in the past. These children would be better served by a completely nonviolent response. Any form of physical punishment could undermine their sense of safety in a relationship with a parent.

i don't like to spank my baby. but sometimes when it's like he is making me crazy and won't stop his crying i give him a not so like spank on his butt. but it's not even powerful that he doesn't even know the difference. so i just give him a time out, put him in a corner and lay his favorite toy near where he can see it. he would cry and ask for his toy to coddle but i won't let him. it is like my way to punish him. then i would tell him what he did wrong and after a minute or two, pick him up again and stop him from crying. he usually say sorry after i pick him up. so that would melt my heart and we will play again.

I dont believe in spanking children, i honestly think that spanking is part of the cause of kids isolating themself away from parents and having dark thoughts and the such, i believe yes it puts fear in the children, but is it really fear you want to install in your children? or do you want them to know that you are in control and they need to behave but that you are also their best friend? I believe in the ideas that the television show "super nanny" are the kind of things a child needs. Your child shouldnt be scared of you and i believe spanking does make a lot of children scared of their parents. Just my 2 cents

I was spanked as a child and I spank my 3 year old. I am a normal mom that has normal children (my youngest is one and "no no" still works for her). I give my son two to three warnings and I tell him he will get a spanking if he does it again. If I have to spank him, I let him get his cry out and then I sit down with him and let him know that his behavior is wrong that's why he got spanked. I always follow up with a hug, kiss, and an i love you!

I don't have a problem with others choosing to spank their children (and I mean a light swat, not a full out beating - some misinterpret this), but personally I won't spank mine. I honestly don't think it's necessary, when there are other and even more effective ways for discipline. At least that's what I believe.

i am not a parent. what i have to offer is what worked on me. i got everything from mind games to a switch. some things i will mention i would not suggest you try on your children, it is just what worked for me. when it came to the way i acted, i never got time out. the mind game would start. i would have to go outside and pull the switch off the tree myself. do i get the flimsy one?... moves too fast acts like a whip. maybe the big one?... bight break and i will have to get another. hated that damn tree. took 4 years for the branches to grow out of my reach. if i said something i got smacked. we were walking in kroger (grocery store) i was not getting what i wanted and kept nagging. finally something smart came out of my mouth. as i was finishing my sentence i got the back-hand. it put me on the ground. i sat there in shock until i started to cry. over the top a little i know. i will have you know that i never back-talked my mom again. if i got bad grades, i got a warning. get them up by the next report card or stay in the house until they come up. this was great if school was still in. the first time i brought home bad grades on the final report card i got to sit my butt down in a chair and watch my friends playing outside all summer. not joking. sucked but you better believe my grades never dropped again. if i threatened to run away, i got marched upstairs to pack my bags and was sent out the front door and it was locked behind me. if i said i would call protective services, the phone was promptly put in my hand with them on the phone. every other form of discipline was the same way. the most extreme. it sounds harsh. i think i am a better person for it. my brother on the other hand was brought up with weak hand. time out, 1 or 2 day groundings, take this away take that away bs. now my parents suffer. he demands things. tells them that they will buy him this or that. destroys furniture when they are not home if he did not get what he wants. the worst manners i have ever seen. no respect for authority. has no values. i don't know if this will help or not but that is my side of the spank or no spank. i see what i have described here in other people as well. i came from the spanking era and my brother and his friends did not. you can tell.

well, i don't really agree with physical punishment unless it is really really necessary... otherwise, i would prefer to talk nicely or a discussion...

I myslef have been a very very lucky mom. when Skylar is bad time out works usually...unless hes in those moods that nothing short of Tquila would chill him out!@ lol lol kidding i would never!!anywho..i have taken his toys away and yes I have spanked him.and when i do he knows im beyong pis$ed off!! but my friend..ohh myyy she has a not so good kid in nice words..nothing phased him..spanking he laughed..toys he didnt care..it was aweful!! untill one day..he stold money from her purse..hes 9...and she caught him..she wacked him and then..u ready? she made him put his hands behiond his head..go to a corner..nose in..and get on his knees..and he had to stsya that way untill he learened...and ya know..hes is becoming a really good kid lol..but me persoanlly i pray to god my kid doesnt start that crap!

my answer is: not to spank. why? if spanking children may have trauma.

Physical discipline doesn't work for my 5yo daughter. I don't really have to put her in the corner much anymore though. I usually give her choices and I also tend to give her consequences ie if you don't eat your dinner you're not going to have desert. Of course your 2yo is probably still too young for this.

i think spanking is a good form of discipline cause a child will then learn that he should not do things that aren't good, cause through his spanking experience, he can then determine the things that are right, and the things that are bad. Counseling is also good and it uses the conscience of the child to make him feel guilty of his mistakes, however, counseling i think is not as effective as physical discipline..

well i think ur son is too young for spankin yet but ofcourse just a little bit of spanking for the good of ur child is never wrong the most important thing is that ur child learns wats right n wrong n grows up to b a good part of the community