My grandfather passed away last week? but i did not cry ?
By navinshan
@navinshan (3933)
Canada
December 14, 2006 1:46am CST
Everybody in my house cried for him, but i did not cry, but i really love him and i miss him a lot, when everyone is alive we don't bother about them, but when some one dies we really feel sorry for them , is its human nature or attitude, Are male so firm and not emotional when compared to women is this true, and are they brave to face this situations, i m not sure about this, but i really feel sorry for my grandfather since i could not see him when he left the world, and now i feel guilty that i could not see him
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
Every body grieves a loss differently...you did it your way they did it theirs...sometimes, weeks can go by and one day you will find yourself in tears...for this loss..don't be ashamed if you do...when my Grandfather passed away, it was about 2 weeks later that it seemed to hit me, I was out side walking and I just started crying, it was like it all came at once...it was a memory and something triggered it...this may happen to you as well, just don't be ashamed if it does as we all grieve at some point for a loss.
I am truly sorry for your loss, may God find you strength...
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@pinaki1971 (352)
• India
14 Dec 06
I think it was a bolt from the blue and for sudden shock you did not cry.It can happen to anybody and it is not unusual.
@sunflowergirl (3064)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Dec 06
man i am so sorry to here that...well u behaved like a man...i am sure whn ur alone and wana feel it...storng.....ull cry........c his stuff and uno....well May God bless his soul!Amin
@betterdays (225)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
We all grieve in our own way. I felt the exact same way as you with my grandfather. I couldn't cry..not because I didn't love him or not becuase he didn't try. I guess he deserved a better tear and I was just not ready. One day you will find the tear for your grandfather's life and all it stood for.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Some people could be that way, but they are hurting just like everyone else who's crying. Just because you didn't cry, it doesn't make you any less than the ones who cried. Maybe that's your way of dealing with the loss. I'm sorry for your loss.
@daggi1712 (158)
• Germany
14 Dec 06
don't worry about it.
you are in shock and it is normal not to cry. once a day the tears are coming...and they will be helpful for you.
@navinshan (3933)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
i know that moreover my grandad has been around 82 years old, may be that could be the reason for not crying
@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
15 Dec 06
I think it's normal not to cry when someone passes on 9being a family member or friend), it doesn't mean that you're not sad about it or that you're cold. Some people just handle their emotions differently than others, especially with men, as I don't think they let out their feelings by crying as much or as freely as women do. Just remember that it's OK to cry if you feel the need to, there is no shame in that.
@tommy0099 (194)
• Indonesia
15 Dec 06
I think that you don't cry because you don't have closed relation ship with your grand father and you have your own activity all day with your friend at your age.
@Mubashar1988 (1825)
• Pakistan
15 Dec 06
hmmmm... well said, u r right, infact, we should feel sorry and we do, but when we feel sorry we cry but u didn't cry, its strange