what to do with a very submissive lover?
By firefae
@firefae (22)
Philippines
December 14, 2006 3:30am CST
I'm not much of a dominant person or authoritative for that manner. I'm not even possessive but why is my boyfriend so submissive? He gets the craps out of me sometimes. He won't even try to argue despite the fact that he already doesn't like some of the stuffs that I do. He's getting boring...
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4 responses
@danny500 (145)
• United States
14 Dec 06
if you are bored, you should talk to him about it. how can he help the situation if he doesn't know that something is wrong? i think you need to give him a chance to spice things up. if it still isn't working after you talk with him, then it may be time to let him go. good luck and take care!
@nidhi_max (56)
• India
18 Dec 06
u r lucky....but communication is d key to a beautiful relationship...talk to him about it gal!!! even i had a bf who was d same...gradually i started feelin he was not possesive about me and then felt unloved...i had a breakup wid him soon...
tell him what u want!!!
@firefae (22)
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
Yeah, I'm also aware about the importance of communication but it's challenge that keeps me going. he is much into me, giving and agreeing so easily. Anyway, I already talked to him about it and i think he's doing something to solve the issue. It's one of his attitude not to let any dilemma between us be left unrequited. By the way, thanks for sharing your thoughts about this!
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
lucky for you.... thank the creator that he gave you a very good person. well good luck for both of you..
@firefae (22)
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
Perhaps I'm truly lucky... Despite of his being too submissive, I still think that he's one of the pretty fine decisions I made. I thank God for that and my great bestfriend, whom I'm about to see again this Christmas, for standing as my inspiration to take the risk of being in a relationship. I'm quite sure you know her.
@DDB_340 (13)
• United States
19 Dec 06
I read somewhere one time that if you think someone else is boring, then you yourself are the boring person.
Not saying this is you, but perhaps you should try to spice things up beyond trying to tick him off and get upset with you. You have a wonderful person there that is so understanding and forgiving.
The grass might be greener on the other side of the fence if you think you could possibly be looking elsewhere for another boyfriend. However, the grass sometimes has problems, and those problems might make be total hell physically and mentally. Appreciate your boyfriends good quality of forgiveness, it is rare in this day.
