How do you forgive?

You cant forget what happened in school, but you can move past it. I had a rough childhood and I have forgiven anyone involved in the situations that happened. It was hard for me to do, but when I became a christian I knew I had to try. I still feel the pain every now and then, but it doesnt eat at me like it did years ago. I am reading a book now and just read this last night. "The key in this tangled and emotionally charged process of forgiveness and restoration is that each person forgives the other completely, not because anyone asks but because Christ forgave is. Forgiveness protects your integrity and your heart." That is just one quote of many in this book, but I think it makes the point. I my opinion you need to find it in your heart to forgive her so that you can move on eand be the better person. Hope this helps. God Bless

I read a book once that stated forgiveness isn't about forgetting. It's about letting go the need for an apology or justice. It's about not needing to have them admit they did something wrong. Being able to move past that even though you still remember the bad stuff. I don't know what I'd do if I'd been in that situation. I was horribly picked on in school by many kids. I haven't seen them in over twenty years but what they did to me is still part of my life. I'd like to think I could put it behind me but I think I would have the need to tell them off, at least once. Then maybe I could move past it.