Help with diabetic husband plz

I have type 1 diabetes and I was diagnosed when I was 13 years old. when you have high blood sugar (and he probably does since he doesnt take his pills) you get headaches and you start to yell at everyone for no reason. I used to do that a lot when I didnt understand how to control my bloodsugar. I used to get angry when my mom or my dad would try to help me by tellng me what to eat and what not to eat. I would suggest changing your eating habits too. When there is bad food (nutrition-wise) in teh house like candy bars and fast food, I would eat it because everyone else was allowed to eat it too. I felt like I shouldnt have to change how I was and that if my family got to eat all of those foods then i could eat them too. If he keeps his blood sugar level under 200 and over about 100 he should be fine. If that doesnt work you can try scare tactics and tell him that i he keeps going the way hes going he can be reduced to taking 3-4 insulin shots a day or having a limb amputated :-/

It sounds as if your husband is very angry about being a diabetic. It is a serious disease and a new diabetic has to make a lot of lifestyle changes such as diet, exercise, testing sugar levels and recording them, keeping frequent doctor's appointments, taking medications, and yes, putting up with family members who are only trying to help. It's natural that he takes his anger out on you first; unfortunately that's what we do- we lash out at those who are closest to us. Anger is part of the process of acceptance, but maybe he needs some help with this, as it's been almost a year. Have the two of you been referred to any kind of diabetes teaching program or classes? This would really help, as he would be hearing from someone besides you how important his diet, blood sugar testing, and medications are- and what could happen if he doesn't follow medical advice. Offer to go to the classes with him for support. Most men hate this idea, but short-term mental health counselling might also be to his benefit. He may get mad at the suggestion, but he obviously needs some help getting a grip on this and accepting the changes that he has to make. Good Luck! Try to keep him away from the Christmas Cookies!

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My mom was/is diabetic. Long story, but she ended up gaining a bunch of weight from surgeries and illnesses she'd had, which in turn caused the diabetes. It's since gone, she ended up having that gastric bypass surgery for the weight, diabetes went away with the weight. Now, what I've learned, they know what they're supposed to do and eat and what not. If they choose to ignore that, from anger over the disease or whatever reason, it's on them. You can talk till your blue in the face, but they won't listen. I even went so far as to go into my mom's doctors office and tell him she's not doing what she's supposed to, and she was really really pissed lol. I'd give him one final speech, tell him you 're only doing/saying stuff becuase you love him and don't want to see him get worse or die. (At the rate he's going, he will end up on insulin shots, and tell him that-my mom started out on the pills as well.) But you're done playing dietician, nurse, and mommy to him over this, and he's on his own. If he wants chocolate cake, then eat it. He doesn't want to bother checking his sugar level, fine don't. And as hard as it may be, don't question him or tell him what he should or shouldn't be doing anymore. He'll get himself a real shock one day that'll make him open his eyes. It always happens. It'll probably end up being when he has to go on insulin shots. Just try and cook healthy, keep the foods out of the house he's not supposed to have(and not sure if you know this, but breads aren't good for them-starches convert into sugar). Good luck!

Controlling your blood sugar is essential to feeling healthy and avoiding long-term complications of diabetes. Some people are able to control their blood sugar with diet and exercise alone. Others may need to use insulin or other medications in addition to lifestyle changes. In either case, monitoring your blood sugar is a key part of your treatment program. A healthy diet and exercise should be placed as a priority for diabetes treatment. Second, you might also try some of the diabetes treatment using alternative medicine. Third, follow your doctor's prescriptions. And last, pancreas or islet cell transplantation may be an option for people whose kidneys are failing or who aren't responding to other treatments.

jewel, what your husband is going through right now is very normal. Many people, when diagnosed with a health condition like diabetes, are angry. Angry, indignant, depressed, and more. It's a life altering event and it can be very difficult to adjust to it. Give him time. And remember that although you can cook healthy foods for him and be supportive, no one can take control of his health but him. I understand you're trying to help but he doesn't need you to remind him. He knows he's supposed to take his medication and eat properly and check his blood sugar. Right now he chooses not to. Cook healthy food for him, make it easier for him to eat right and take his medication but let him do it or not do it. You can set his pills out where he will see them or perhaps even set one down next to his plate if he takes them before eating. I know it's hard to sit by and do nothing but his non-compliance isn't going to improve because you remind him. He either will take charge of his health or he won't. He'll more than likely come around on his own but he might not. Some diabetics never accept it and refuse to take care of themselves. Here's a tidbit that gets the attention of many men - Diabetes can and often does cause erectile dysfunction. You might drop that bug in his ear and see if he responds well to it. You know, just kind of subtly mention it. :)

I think, he is just being kiddish. He should know, that he needs to get well and should also make an effort in this direction; and that you are just helping him to that. Tell him that . . .

Does your husband have any overt symptoms from his diabetes? Things like really bad leg cramps, severe foot pain, altered vision, blood shot eyes, too high heart beat, and just in general feeling bad? I know I did. Eating right and exercise makes all these symptoms go away but can not undue diabetic damage he has already done to his body. So, he needs to start eating right and exercising right away before the damage gets worse. The pain from the symptoms is the bodies' way of letting you know something is wrong. If the alleviation of his pain is not enough to cause him to do what he needs to do, your husband is literally too dumb to live. Explain these things to him one time and one time only. If he does not listen, choose more wisely for your next husband. This advice is not cold hearted. It is objective, pragmatic, and realistic. It is from a diabetic.

You did not mention which type of diabetic your husband was Type 1 insulin dependant or Type 2 tablet & diet related. (Presuming Type 2) My husband is Type 2 diabetic with the X syndrome. Meaning there is a layer of fat around his pancreas. Having lost his grandma to diabeties Type 1 (days before they wanted to amputate her legs). He had his own incentive to get better. When he 1st started, since he needs his coffee to start the day I would do his 1st blood sugar test of a morning.. Amazing how quickly he would take over doing it himself after having me draw blood on him of a morning... lol Anyway I am off subject. To remind hubbie of his tablets we have a tablet holder with days of the week & times of day. Every Sunday he refills it for the week ahead. Maybe instead of saying what he cannot eat... offer him foods he can eat. Being a diabetic does not mean boring foods. If you do not have a diabetic in the family it does feel you are different it is an education process. More information you have on the condition the easier it is to live with it.. Good luck tell your husband he is not alone, and this is a journey in life he does not have to take on his owe. The internet was our best friend when we were diagnosed.

he will eventually get over it explain to him that you only care and are worried about him because if his sugar gets to high he could go into a diabetic coma which would not be good your not trying to tell him what to do you just care so you are looking out for him.

Yes, mad too, but you have to support him and help. Find in the net some diabetes associations for help.

I'm diabetic too, type 2. It's also called adult onset diabetes and non-insulin dependent diabetes. I have a family history of diabetes (father's side). I'm a little overweight and when I started to lose weight dramatically (20 lbs. in six weeks)I was alarmed and went to see my doctor. I was given a blood sugar test and my blood sugar was 12 (normal range would be 5.5 - 6.5). I was given gliclazide (taken before meals) and metformin (taken after meals); I was told to exercise regularly and to cut down on sweets and carbohydrates. It's been two years and so far I'm okay (or so I hope). I try to follow my doctor's orders although lately I haven't been exercising as much as I should. Diabetes is a serious disease and can have many complications. You must make your husband realize that so he would remember to take his pills; encourage him to exercise; and give him low-carb, low-sugar diet. Eventually he would be comfortable with it and hopefully, control his diabetes. You just need to be patient and understanding with him.

hi.. there are already many herbal products to consume.have you tried anyone from biiter gourd or biotter melon? or ampalaya? It is known to lower the sugar level. Also just excercise regularly and control diet.

he has 2 hAve self control.

if you go on the internet and type free diabetic stuff and go into as many of the sites as possible. they will send stuff to you like literature and even free mitors. you maybe able to find all you need and then some. i come from a long line of diabetics. its hard at first but stay on him and good luck. and he should get over the bulk of his madness in time.

Diabetes and its companion health issues are one of the causes for erectile disfunction. This usually gets the guys to pay attention to the seriousness of the situation.

I just saw this report on TV tonight. You might be interested. There has been diabetes in my relatives all over the family tree, both on my mother's and father's side. I get tested regularly but so far have been blessed not to have this show in my system. Article follows. _____________________________________________________ Scientists make diabetes breakthrough in mice http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20061214/Dosch_diabetes_061214/20061215?hub=Health Updated Fri. Dec. 15 2006 8:56 AM ET Canadian Press TORONTO -- It's long been accepted wisdom that Type 1 diabetes occurs after a severe miscue by the immune system causes insulin-producing cells in the pancreas to be destroyed. Now Canadian-led research suggests immune cells aren't the only culprits in developing the disease -- the nervous system also plays a pivotal role. With Type 1 diabetes, the destruction of the islet cells in the pancreas leaves the body without insulin to regulate the metabolism of blood glucose, or sugar. The disease, which affects about 200,000 Canadians, can lead to severe complications even with daily insulin injections, including blindness, limb amputation and kidney failure. In studies of laboratory mice specially bred to make them susceptible to Type 1 diabetes, researchers at the Hospital for Sick Children and the University of Calgary discovered that a control circuit exists between insulin-producing cells and their associated sensory, or pain-related, nerves. It turns out that this control circuit is necessary to retain the health and normal function of islet cells, said principal investigator Dr. Michael Dosch, an immunologist at Sick Kids Hospital."What we really have discovered is that the immune system is under much closer control by the nervous system than we thought, that this control to a large extent involves sensory nerves,'' said Dosch, explaining that such nerves are the same kind that signal the brain to send out pain messages when an ankle is broken or a finger is burned on a hot stove. As part of their studies, the scientists knocked out specific pain-related nerve cells in newborn lab mice. These nerve cells secrete a chemical called "substance P,'' which is known to amplify pain signals as well as boosting inflammation. The mice were "perfectly fine . . . except that instead of getting diabetes 90 per cent (of the time), they got none or very little,'' said Dosch. "Not only did they not get diabetes, but their pancreas was clean -- there was no inflammation, no nasties that make the disease in the pancreas.''"That was the real wow.'' In other words, a dysfunctional immune response is not the only thing needed to get diabetes -- the nerve cells are also critical, he said. In another experiment, the researchers injected substance P into mice whose islet cells were already inflamed and on the way to being destroyed. By the next day, the inflammation in the animals' pancreatic islets had disappeared."That was our first shock. To make an islet clean that's fully inflamed, that's hard,'' said Dosch."The blood glucose normalizes overnight and it stays low for weeks to months -- this is with a single shot,'' he enthused. "We now have four-month-old mice that are non-diabetic that used to be diabetic'' -- a period equivalent to six to eight years in humans. While the team isn't about to start injecting humans with substance P, they are planning a study of people with a family history of type 1 diabetes to test for abnormalities in pain sensitivity, which could point to a higher risk for developing the disease. Diabetics often suffer from peripheral neuropathy, a condition in the extremities experienced as numbness or as pain described as burning or "pins and needles.'' The research suggests that neuropathy is not merely a result of diabetes but could be related to the nervous system's role in the whole disease process, Dosch hypothesized. The sensitivity study is just the first step, he said. "The ultimate goal is to see if substance P would work. If we find that indeed humans and (diabetes-prone) mice are comparable in this respect, then we will be very quick into clinical trials because it's not a toxic trial, it's easy to do.''"In families with the disease where we have good tools, we can identify kids that are at risk and are in progression to disease development. We could step in early and prevent the whole thing from going to completion into overt diabetes. And that would be a great thing.'' Commenting on the paper, which appears in Friday's edition of the scientific journal Cell, immunologist Terry Delovitch said the work illustrates the importance of not viewing one system of the body in isolation."It's an excellent example of system biology, where different systems interact and cross-regulate each other's activity,'' said Delovitch, a specialist in the immune system and diabetes at the Robarts Research Institute."If you're a patient with diabetes, one of the last places to think of a possible cure to come from would be the nervous system,'' he said Thursday from London, Ont. "It provides now the hope to the population that a component of one system can bring a very positive, potentially preventive effect to a disease in the other system.''"And so new approaches for therapy are going to be even more abundant and provide more hope for treatment of these diseases.'' In a commentary accompanying the study, Helene Bour-Jordan and Jeffrey Bluestone of the University of California, San Francisco, Diabetes Center, questioned the researchers' conclusion that the nervous system can alter inflammation and "indirectly affect'' the development of autoimmunity."An equally plausible possibility is that an autoimmune component targeting the nervous system directly influences the development of autoreactive responses against pancreatic islets,'' they write, noting that additional studies are needed to confirm which system is the primary catalyst.

Please tell your husband he is not alone, and this is a journey in life he does not have to take on his owe, Thank you

All daibrtic persons are like you have discribed they pertened that they perfect and take medicines just for the sake of taking them,t am also daibetic and just behave like your hasband.

first bring sugar free (doesn't contain more glucose in it), sugar to home. secondly show him how peoples will suffer from diabetics , and tell him if he continues like his itself u may have chances of losing a leg or any part if a small wound happens. don't scare him , just teach him. drink him with lot a wheat juice.