How to handle Domestic Violence

@sherinek (3320)
United States
September 22, 2006 2:03am CST
What is your opinion
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
25 Oct 06
Are you talking about if it happens to you or are you talking about if you know of it happening say to a neighbor? If you are the victim, don't put up with it. No matter what it takes, get out of the situation. Leave or get a restraining order to keep him away from you. Do whatever it takes to protect yourself. If it's someone else and you know they are a victim and won't help themselves, report the abuse yourself.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
25 Oct 06
My God, no, its not me. Thanks for your concern. So many women face domestic violance in my country and dont want to leave their hubbies due to various reasons, and I wanted to know how people in other countries handle such situations.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I was once such a woman and I do understand how hard it can be to leave your husband. When I was facing it, I was dependent on my husband for an income and I was ashamed to let my family know what was going on. In my head, I thought they would think less of me. No one in my family had ever been divorced and that didn't help the way I felt. When I became fearful that he was going to hurt our children as well, I finally got up the courage to leave. Somehow women have to made to understand that it's not their fault. Abusive men make them feel that everything is their fault! It's awful to be in that situation. There has to be more publicity telling women what to do if they are being abused and how to go about safely leaving. There needs to be more programs to help these women.
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@sherinek (3320)
• United States
25 Oct 06
Thanks a lot for sharing LovingIt. If you feel like, I wish to know how you did it and how you managed your life after that and as I sense you are, how successful you are now.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
25 Sep 06
Very rarely we see such a thing in decent family. Money could be criteria for such violence. It triggers off in a different way. People who care for decency and dignity and respect for neighbour's peace will not get indulged in violence in their own house. In someplaces in India, the elders of the village interfere and advise the people who are involved in the violence and try to settle the issues. Then calm prevails.
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• United States
25 Oct 06
Domestic Violence happens in all kinds of families. Decent, respectable, wealthy, and all nationalities. There is many reasons for it happening. People are too fast to judge other people before finding out how and what they can do to help. All people involved with domestic violence needs counseling (Group as well as one on one). The victim needs the counseling in order to become strong enough to leave and do better for themselves, and the children sure needs it in order to become productive part of society.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
25 Oct 06
Riced, its a very good comment. Thanks a lot.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I agree Riced. Excellent response. I'm putting a plus by that comment. You said it well.
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@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I think the woman should leave the house and go someplace safe and secret, like a shelter.
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@oscarc (864)
• India
22 Sep 06
It should never reach such a situation in the first place...and if it does...call up the cops and let them handle the situation..
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• United States
25 Oct 06
Alot of the time even when the police are called they will not do anything or they will wait around just long enough for the victim to get a few things together and leave with no wheere to go.
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@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
19 Nov 06
There is and can be no excuse for domestic violence. So, anyone caught in that web needs to get out - fast and far. Also advise the police what is/has happened, so you have that added protection.
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• United States
25 Oct 06
get out!!!!!!!!
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@amiksinha (1960)
• India
22 Sep 06
with non violence
@Aali311 (6112)
• United States
22 Sep 06
Get out of the situation before it's too late. It's very unhealthy to be in an abusive relationship.
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@mjtenorio (237)
• United States
22 Sep 06
Get out & Get far far away
@ddsully (1062)
• United States
25 Oct 06
get out and get help
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• Nigeria
19 Nov 06
Handling domestis violence requires skill. Be patient and find out the thing that really cause violence and deal with it carefully. Try to be loving and tender no matter waht. In that way, you would putting a nice impresion.