My daughter hates her sister - need advice please!!

If you analyze the situation, you may see a pattern that will help you know how to deal with it. You will also then be more aware of when it is likely to occur and can try and intercede before rather than after it happens. Watch as your five-year-old approaches his sister and quickly remind him "Remember to act nicely. Make sure to give your child praise and encouragement when she behaves appropriately. i wish you the best of luck.

ACTIONS SPEAK LOuDER THAN WORDS. -REMEMBER THIS AND CONVINCE YOUR ELDER DAUGHTER THAT YOU LOVE HER MORE THAN EVER.--there must be a demonstrative display of affection-she is a child afterall . Just because she looks like an adult beside her 18 month old sister, dont forget that she is very young. 2. she did not want a sister-- she was thrust on her.do not expect mature understanding and the need for sharing from her right now when her emotions are already tender. win her over first-- for the next few months, give her exclusive attention , and ask her to participate in your activities. convince her that you cant do without her help- praise her to the skies even if she does the most insignificant of helpful deeds-"what would I have done without your help? this little one can only give me trouble. thank God I have you for help" this should be your littany --for the tiniest of things--like filling and bringing some water in a bottle,fetching a powder puff or a hand-towel--anything.DONT SEND HER TO GRANDMA. "what would you do without her "? would you send the younger one to grandma/ i am sure you would not. Deal with her carefully and see that you don't burden her with responsibilities of GOOD BEHAVIOUR. even if she does not co-operate in helping you try to cajole her.otherwise, leave her for some time. soon she will get her school lessons and imagine how it would be. you must take extra effort with her rightt now because she will get out of hand in adoloscence . handle her with kid gloves now and soon she will eat out of your hand. sharing with sibling can come later. the more you insist , the more adamant she would become.see that her daddy at least gives her exclusive attention. you have to convince her that she is the apple of your eye and instruct the younger one to listen to her sister-- she may not understand but it may give the elder one a greater sense of importance.

It sounds to me like there is jealousy there You have already explained to her so that one is out of the Question Do you spend quality time with her when the little one is in bed? Do you give her lots of Hugs? When you hug the little one, hug her to Also who does she mix with at Nursery or School are they nasty or is someone being nasty to her There are many things that this could boil down to You need to see when she does it, what happend before then, or who was she with That is all I can suggest at the moment

My children are 5 years apart and they fight like cats and dogs on minute and love each other the next. I think that they will grow to get along with each, it will just take time and patience. You need to make sure that everyday you spend a little alone time with your 5 year old to let her know that while she does have to share her mom and dad, you have enough love to spread between them. I wouldn't worry too much yet. Let her realize that her trips to Grandma's house are something special that she gets to do on her own and that her sister can't do them yet. Help her see that she will get to teach her little sister things that she isn't yet able to do. If she feels that she is responsible for the teaching of her little sister, it may help her come to accept her more. It worked for us. Good luck.

Have you read the book Siblings Without Rivalry? It's got a lot of good advice, and at the very least will make you feel you're not alone in dealing with this. It can be hard on anyone having a toddler around, and especially an older child who had you all to herself for so long. Does her sister break her toys, mess up her art projects, or drastically change the way you used to do things with your older daughter? I would try playing up the aspect that as the older child, your daughter has a lot of privileges that the baby does not, and being a big kid can be a lot of fun. Maybe when your toddler naps you can do something special with your older child, a craft project or read a book, have a snack together and just talk. Let her know that raising the baby is a team effort, and that she's an important part of that team and you really need her help and value it. I'm sure you're probably doing this already. A lot of this, in my opinion, is just age related and a storm you'll have to weather until your baby gets through the toddler years and your older one matures a bit. This too shall pass, and you'll get through it to face the next challenge :-)

its al jus a kiddish fight.. ask them to live separate they wont.. understood

Shes probably just jealous, even though u share ur time between them both, its still less time she had with you before her little sister was here.Our friends have 2 boys, 3 & 1.The 3 yr old is always bashing on the little one, but hes starting to get him back.Itll take time, but i wish u the best of luck.Im sure theyll become best friends when they're older!!!!!!!

Well, here's my 2 cents!

its always there since her sis is younger and u guys love her more or give her more importance, so start giving more importance to ur elder daughter too....

maybe she is not yet prepared to have a little sister,,did you explained to her when your still conceiving the llttle one about the coming of another one?? all you have to do is to act it out..explaining to her wont get anywhere if she feels she have been left out..msut exert more effort i think..sleeping over to grandmas is no good i think your just giving her a more reason to hate her little sister more..why not give her some responsibilities on the little one? just give it a try maybe making her a part of the group will make her simmer down

She'll never admit to this but I think it's a little bit of jealousy brewing in your eldest's broken heart.She's probably been struggling since the separation of her parents and now--when she was just getting used to that change -- another one comes along . She's been your only baby girl for most of her life.....now your loving care has to be shared. It's going to take time for her to adjust. And slowly, she is since she's speaking to you once again. Just show her that she has in no way been replaced by the baby.

I think that if you give them both enough attention it will be solved. I noticed the same by a friend of me. His brother and sister are both same age but allways fighting because the girl gets more things and more attention

i hate too my 2 sisters

Im a father of 02 sons. One 3 yr old and other 1 yr old. My elder son recieved a lot of attention from all of us becoz he was the ist child in our family. Consequently, he was loved a lot by his grandparents as well. However, when my younger son was born, i clearly saw a sort of change in my eldor son's behaviour. He became very touchy. So immidiately, i n my wife decided that the younger one is too small to feel anything, but we must give more time to the elder son...And so we did. Whenever im playing or praising my younger one, i keep an eye on the elder one and the moment i feel that he is feeling gealous, i immidiately start praising and playing with im, totally ignoring the young one, as i know that the young one is too small to notice. It has paid off and my elder son likes his younger brother so much that he even starts yelling at me if the yonger one is crying and im not paying attention. U also try this. Ur elder daughter requires more attention than the younger one. She deserves it bcoz she is used to such a treatment from ur side, right from the beginning of her life.

My children have a big age gap too (6 years) and we had to deal with the same thing. This is totally normal. She has been an only child for the previous 5 years, so this is a huge adjustment for her. She is probably blaming her sissy for the lack of attention she gets, compared to before. It doesn't help when everyone fawns over the new baby either (Grandparents, Aunts... even strangers). Sometimes the older sibling feels left out, less important and/or not good enough. Do you try including her in the care of her little sister? She can help with plenty at that age and it will help her feel included, needed, and like a big girl too. Your five year old needs quality time with both or either parent WITHOUT baby sister around. She will need to be continually reminded that she is your 'baby girl' and that you love her more than anything. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that you are making her feel this way but that the situation can do so. Babies are very time-consuming... she was used to consuming your time and getting all of your attention before her sister came along.

Your older daughter wants attention, so give her some attention.

she is jealous maybe because she thinks you have more attentions for the little..she will change i am sure..

explain your kid why you need to share your love. Tell her to be nice, and you can be very nice to first kid. Dont feel Bad because i say this. Why dont you show it to psychiatrist? this is not something bad, just show it to them so that, she might learn something. I have seen people hating their sister, but not like this. Especially kid has to be very happy with its sister or brother. dont take it as an offense, i would love to see your child loving her sister. This situation is going be painful for everybody. So nice talks with her might help.

In this whole .situation u didnt tell us y she hate her.. u said she openly admit it. she hates. her. but. the reason behind it .. is not been disclosed by u . ....

I think your older kid need attention from you and your husband, and also love and care that she got like past. She is small kid and I can understand how sad when she lots her love , care, attention from you. You have to talk and tell you will more priority to her and after that we all have to take care her baby sister. Give this job to your elder kid. In that way she will like this nad like also sister. And don't only kiss and pet young kid infornt of elder one. She will become more jelous and she will angry with you also. Give a kisses for both and love both so she will behave normal way.