Why Are Your Crying?!?!?!?!?!
By emarie
@emarie (5442)
United States
December 17, 2006 4:04pm CST
..this is a subject that used to occur in my house quite a bit. why do some people not understand why others cry??? i'm an emotional person and when i'm stressed or sad or hurting, i might just cry about it. my husband doesn't feel that crying makes any difference and doesn't help the situation and there lies no use for crying at all. i agree with him in some sense. but sometimes crying just makes you feel better. it lets you express emotions and sometimes you feel a little better after a good cry.
and to women specially, when you're hormonal (ie: mensrtal/pms or pregnant) don't you find yourself crying just a little bit more?? i know i did...and it was hard to explain it to my husband as well. how did you try to explain it to your husbands/bf????
What are your takes on this? Do you cry or are you the other person who doesn't understand crying? Please tell me what you think...
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85 responses
@emarie (5442)
• United States
17 Dec 06
i agree and i have experienced that.while young and in school i believed that crying was a sign of weakness and never cried, and if i had to cry, i didn't do it in front of anyone, i had chosen to be alone and wouldn't let anyone (other then my father) see me cry. all that emotion bottled up inside of me and thats when i broke down and tried to take my life because i felt it were better off if i weren't around.
@Mart4Life (15)
• Netherlands
18 Dec 06
I Agree with you opinion.. my mom says always something lke that.. nice opinion.
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@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
17 Dec 06
I agree with you. Crying is a great way to show emotion both good and bad and to realease stress.
I have become more of a crier since I had my daughter. I think my hormones got turned up while I was pregnant and have never recovered.
I don't think there is anything worng with crying and it is nothing to be ashamed of.
i have never come across someone who thought crying was worthless. I do know many men who do not cry but they don't fault me for crying.
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@dip_cool (411)
• India
17 Dec 06
well crying is surely a great way to feel relieved and get rid of emotions.but in some cases some people dont act that way and also fail to understand why others cry.your may be the same case.another thing may be that your husband does not like to see you cry and thats why he asks you not to cry.
@sweetieBerry (235)
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
emarie - i can totally relate.
i'm a cryer to.
but not too retarded that i cry every single time.
lol :o)
even my husband can't understand that i'm emotional at times during the month (during my period or when under a lot of stress). we've had a lot of arguments about the fact that he is just so insensitive at times .... the point is, i just want to share with him the thoughts in my head, the problems at home (bills, etc).
and i also suspect that he doesn't fully understand the kind of job that i have and i'm also on the graveyard shift so i'm cranky each time i lack sleep or when i'm hungry.
once or twice in the year, i have cried all because i can't sleep during the day and he's not helping me sleep.
@kleo_23 (104)
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
i feel the same way too. crying and also praying really helps me in times i feel so helpless that i'll be able to solve my problems in life especially when i'm uncomfortable to tell anyone about it. i'm a very emotional person and my husband often doesn't understand it. we often argued in the past about this insensitivity issue ... to the point that i almost wanted to give up on my marriage. but now that were both busy doing our jobs and other stuffs, its not a very big deal to me anymore. i just keep myself busy and i always try to convince myself that no matter how i try, men and women will never have equal reaction towards this issue. just as long as were loyal to each other, we get to pay our bills, buy the things our family needs/wants, communicate & spend quality time together, and not to expect too much from your partner on everything, accept what he is ... i think that will be all that i need to help me do away with too much crying. over-looking to problems just makes a person sick. in fact, i even consulted a psychiatrist before just to help me cope up with my depression.
too much worrying is a terrible thing. don't allow it to rule your life.
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@monsterspy (13)
• India
18 Dec 06
crying .... This is a part of everyone's life and i agree with emarie..
It is damn tough for any body to hide his/her emotions if other person fails to understand his/her feelings and crying is nothing but the outburst of emotions
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@sweetieBerry (235)
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
thanks, kleo.
yep, we're working on it. :o)
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@DevilRose (33)
• Portugal
17 Dec 06
When I read your question for the first time, without even read the full topic, I said: "Because of my memories".
In fact, we may cry because of memoreies, good or bad, no matter what, what it is important, it is the fact that memories are our history.
I use to cry because of my past, when I remember my past, that time for even gone, all that I lived, and what I may not lived and losed. I cry when I remember my lovely ones, that are no longer part of the living. I also cry when I remember friends that may be lost...
However, I have a little trickle, in order to avoid others question: I cry for my one, without tears. By doing that, no one knows that I'm crying and no one ask me why.
@banta78 (4326)
• India
18 Dec 06
I think one should cry if one feels helpless and angry or upset and shouldn't allow those feelings be bottled up inside it is better to let your emotions loose and express how you feel. even it be crying because that way you feel relieved, relaxed and it will help you get over it. I don't agree that men shouldn't cry either as we all are humans and men can also get emotional and be allowed to express it and shouldn't feel guilty about it. Keeping your feelings bottled up will impact one badly as one get depressed, and might harm the person concerned. One shouldn't worry what people have to say because they don't have anything better top do.
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@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
I cry allot now but growing up I always kept it bottled up and wouldn't let anyone see me cry. Which did more harm to me than good...
My partner hates seeing me cry " what are you crying for" he will say even when we fight and he upsets me I try so hard not to but I can't and walk away coz he makes me feel worse about it " shut up stop crying he says so I get more upset....
Men and women are so different when it comes to dealing with things so they just don't understand...
@mikecoolguy17 (240)
• United States
18 Dec 06
my girlfriend will jsut randomly cry if shes stressed out, worried about something, or PMSing. its so cute.
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
18 Dec 06
I used to cry a lot but my husband would always give me a hug and ask if there was something bothering me. Sometimes, it would just be nostalgia, thinking of all the good times I had when I was younger and had my parents and brothers and sisters around me. I can't remember now when it was the last time I cried. I may have almost shed a tear when my daughter got married two years ago. I think I managed to hold them back. I don't feel I have anything to cry about at present or maybe I am just growing out of it. I shall have to wait and see.
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@djsinner1 (113)
• Pakistan
18 Dec 06
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One Sentence is Enough to Break a Heart……
One Second is Enough to Fall in Love……
and One Misunderstanding is Sufficient to Break Friendship.
Friendship is the Rainbow Between two Hearts.
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@princess777 (30)
• South Africa
18 Dec 06
I cry! When i'm happy, sad, frustrated, when i look at a beautifull sunset...
@faithlord_20 (4)
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
There's no wrong in crying, i believe that crying lessen the pain ,it helps ease the pain. Men are taught to be strong that's why most of them are afraid to cry.
@calvin222 (1606)
• India
18 Dec 06
I am crying coz nobody dont like me no more. i have no friends. my marriage is on the rocks. and the credit card companies are out to get me, the dog ran over my car, and little tootsie has mumps.
@hottamale (116)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I know i am an emotional person and cry when i am stressed or sad. My dad however is the complete opposite. He will show his anger but no tears for him. I think it gets on his nerves when people cry because he doesn't understand that not everyone can hold it in. Some people are sooooo different!
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@hottamale (116)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I do cry pretty easily when I am upset or stressed! I know that my dad doesn't show his emotions on his sleeve unless he's angry he'll let you know. But crying, he does not understand. I think it actually annoys him when people cry lol. Some people are just total opposites
@Chiriac (286)
• Romania
18 Dec 06
In nearly all cultures, crying is seen as a specific act associated with tears trickling down the cheeks and accompanied by characteristic sobbing sounds. Emotional triggers are most often anger and grief, but crying can also be triggered by sadness, joy, fear, humor, frustration, or other strongly-experienced emotions.So it is bad nad it is good to cry.;)
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@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
18 Dec 06
I am not an overly emotional person, but my DH is...when he cries, I don't know what to say but I am there for him,...
