Mother-in-Laws

lol, i would get her a calendar and write on all the birthdates 'must call ___ for birthday' maybe she would get the hint. It is very sad that she only rings when she wants something, and perhaps your hubby should be the one to say something to her as it is his mother after all.

It doesn't matter if you currently are not getting along. It does not appear as if this is a love/hate relationship. I say to maintain this woman in your children's lives, you have to be the bigger person and extend the olive branch. Christmas is on Monday this year and most people will have off that weekend before. Give up a few hours and go visit her. It will mean alot to her and take a nice flower arrangement or potted plant and maybe some homemade cookies. It will give her something to admire when you leave and will bring a smile to her lips each time she waters it. Everyone is so quick to give gift cards, they are over done and their is no personal thought put into the gift. What about lottery scratch off tickets, inexpensive and if she wins, she will be thrilled.

Are you fighting with her? But seems like you were treating her well when she was hospitalized. I don't think hatred and loath should exist within a family. Don't prolong it and you should think positively when handling this kind of conflict. Mayb she has some kind of prejudice on you, but the fact, she is your husband mother. Sometimes, the elder might have been stubborn, but we as younger generation should be tolerate & be thankful to them. (Imagine, without her, you won't meet your hubby). Imagine also when you are getting old, and your son-in-law or daugther-in-law is doing nasty thing or thing you do not favour to you. (it could be right thing to do, but just that you might not like it). So be kind to the elders, you won't have much time with them. Value and appreciate their contributions, and look at things positively. If you think an appropriate gift to her will make her happy, then you should do it. If you think it will make her angry then, ask your hubby to send it.

I believe that it must make yes, therefore thus will show that you it is superior. It gives a perfume....

send her candles

My mum seldom call me too but I make a point to call and visit her instead. Maybe as they age, they expect us to play a more active role in taking care of them and not the reverse. I can tell you are a very kind-hearted person. Why not bake her something and bring it to her personally. No matter how she treats your family now, she was once a caregiver to your husband.

since you're asking this question, you might be feel bad if you won't send her a gift. it's just that there's this gap between you two which hinders you to do so. but since she's your mother in law, atleast, give her something as a sign of your respect. that in a way, you still look up to her as your second mother.

Why not send a charity present, you know, the ones where you sponsor a child in a developing country or pay for a well to be dug or trees planted. That way you are doing it in her name, but she isnt personally getting the benefit. She can't be cross because sombody will dount that it is a good thing to do, but you know she hasnt personally benefited from it. Might send a subtle message about not being selfish!

LOVE YOU'R ENEMY AS YOUR SELF DONT YOU READ A BIBLE?

well, i think your mother-in-laws wants to use you only when she wants your help and nobody is available with her. so stay away from her!!

Yes you should have to because this is christmas. Forget about what she done to you givw a mercy to her, because she is your Mother-in-Laws. Visit her place when christmas day. spend sometime there and give gift that trally touch her heart. I dont know what to give to touch her heart think and give something you guess it good be best for her.

Just because it is Christmas, you are not required to buy this person a gift. There are many gifts or ways to express the fact that you are thinking of her apart from purchasing expensive gifts. You could have the children create drawings for her, send her a family photo in a card, or maybe even a phone card so that she could call more often.

i would suggest you send her a family photo beautifully framed...maybe picture of ur kids playing or something that can touch her heart and maybe make her realise how selfish she has been over the years...

yes u should buy her a nice gift for christmas..

I would send her something small maybe a framed family photo or a candle or something like that.she is still your mother in law even though she dont bother with your family its christmas time.

sorry im single

It would be a very loving and Christian think to send her a token. It doesn't have to be something expensive, just an acknowledgement. The Bible says to honor one's father and mother and you should do that even if she is not close to you.

Your lucky!!! I wish my mother in law wasn't so involved. She can't stand me but always wants to see my kids and get btwn my husband and i by causing trouble.:(

i love my mother-in-law

I imagine that this desire appeared in its good heart as something! you must make yes, therefore somebody has that to yield so that a good relation again either, and if you feel that it would be good, then... that she is you to make something good so that this relaçao again comes back to be beautiful. I find that he would have to order FLOWERS.