What's the best way to cut off a friendship?
By ModelMom
@ModelMom (129)
United States
December 17, 2006 10:32pm CST
I dont know if you can really call this a friendship since we havent known each other for long, but I met a girl a few months ago and we started to talk about a lot of things we have in common. I thought she might be a cool person to hang out with since I dont have a lot of friends in town, but lately she has been calling and leaving very odd messages on my phone several times a day. She tells me way too much personal stuff and it is freaking me out. I rather cut ties right away but dont know what the best way to do so without hurting her feelings would be....any advice?
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@gscs1838 (1536)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 06
the best way to end any relationship is honesty. tell her that you do not feel that you should be friends any longer, and why.
you just have to slowly pull away. if you can the best thing is to talk to them say you have grown apart or whatever reason...but that can be hard. So start being busy when they want to do something, stop answering/returning their calls and she will get the hint. Spend more time with friends that you like to be around.
it's hard to quit a friendship but sometimes necessary if they person is real negative and pulls you down.
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@vksagar82 (10)
• India
18 Dec 06
yes even i feel that u should be honest.. never lie or hide anything... it just ends up in more and more lies. honesty is the best policy
@medooley (1873)
• United States
18 Dec 06
This is really good advise. But I think that it is missing one thing. If she doesn't get the hint you have to be even more honest with her. Tell her she freaks you out and you want nothing more to do with her. Some times you have to get staight to the point with people. Good luck!
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@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 06
1st u have to meet her and ask her nicely why she is doing all of that...after that you can tell her how u feel regsrding her "open".if she still doing that after you both talk then you have to speak cleary how its bothers you.I think she doing that becoz she feels that she could trust you and you are bestfriend for her,maybe she doesnt have a bestfriend before,
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@bonnielass (484)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I agree that she must feel she trusts you. If it upsets you sit down and talk to her about it. If she doesn't stop then tell her the friendship as it is doesn't make you very comfortable. If she still doesn't get it just walk away. You have tried 2 times already. I wouldn't go as far as to hurt her feelings telling her she is a freak though. That just isn't right.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
18 Dec 06
it's nice of you to atleast give your friendship a shot. it's a good try. however, since you're not happy anymore with what's going on, you should be brave enough to tell her the truth. or maybe, you can tell her about things you don't like about her.. about what's she's doing recently. then maybe, she's open to change and if so, you're friendship can be retained. well, honesty hurts. but it's good to be true. it pays a lot of relief. and is she's not willing to be a better friend to you, feel free to let her go.
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@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
18 Dec 06
It's hard to give an advice when I don't know, what kind of person she is, and what kind of odd messages you got? And what kind of personal stuff is it? Does she tell you juicy details of her love life, or is complaining about lack of everything, incl. money? There is an old joke: if you want to get rid of a friend, lend him money...lol. And how old is she actually? If she is just a young girl, perhaps she does not know what is suitable, and what isn't. Then you have to talk seriously with her and give her the reasons, why you can not accept such kind of behavior.
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@micheller (1365)
• United States
18 Dec 06
just tell her that you don't have much time for friends right now because you are really busy and have alot of things you need to catch up on. or you can just be honest with her and tell her how you really feel. tell her that you think she is giving you a little to much of her personal info and you do not feel comfortable with it. it's always best to be honest with someone.
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@leopardxtasy (2426)
• United States
18 Dec 06
the only way i end a friendship is by not talking to them anymore eventually they will get the hint
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@cooldude8889 (2609)
• Singapore
18 Dec 06
What kind of odd messages did she send to you?If you want to cut off a friendship,the best way is just to ignore her.For about 3 months and she will pester you no further.
@ecpunzalan (401)
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
well either way you will be hurting her feelings so might as well tell her the truth that you are not comfortable about her leaving you messages like that. might as well loose her that way then just not talking to her at all..
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@mgoefry (40)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 06
why would you want to cut off a friendship?
i recommended you go on with that friendship. maybe she also dont have friends to share her feelings.
be a good friend dude. dont freak out. maybe both of you meant to be together. or maybe she's like you as her best friend, not more that that, the person she can lean to.
friendship is a ship that shall never sink.
value it while you still can.
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@datsme24 (259)
• India
18 Dec 06
talk 2 her frankly n set limits of ur frndship n make understand d limits n y u need them show her n help her recognise d thin line between frndship n a realtion n teach her to respect it if she really is ur frnd she ll understand it.n dunt cut off d frndship may b u mean a world 2 someone.
n its alwayz gud if u cn make someone smile make sum1's day...
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
18 Dec 06
There is never a good way to cut off a friendship, just do it and get it over with.
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@vinod_sailes (214)
• India
18 Dec 06
Your predicament is on account of a girl who loves or is attracted or wishes to be a friend of yours but you are not interested in her. To remove her out of your way, just sending messages of the first next to her and praise the second girl to the extent that she feels jealous and deserts you straight away.
Of course, you must not hurt her feelings.
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@djsinner1 (113)
• Pakistan
18 Dec 06
well i dont know much about it..!!!!!!!~~~~ i guess you need some one else's responce
@nufoundglory (1353)
• Serbia And Montenegro
18 Dec 06
[mgoefry:
why would you want to cut off a friendship?]
AGREE. Why on earth would u want to cut off a friendship when she's just trying to tell you her more personal stuff?
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@mistreated79 (40)
• Singapore
18 Dec 06
She's sticky and annoying
Cut her out just like that if confronting her doesn't help
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