My Husband is Being Stalked by a Woman! What can we do?

Yes a restraining order is th first best thing. the next is to make sure your numbers are unlisten. ask the phone company if you could change your numbers because someone is stalking you. keep documents recording all the times she interfers with your life. if possible try to get recordings of phone calls and keep them on file as well as dates of when she harrases your husband. this would be useful in a trial, or a case aganst her. also, get alarm systems, on the car and your house. so should couldn't get into your husbands truck anymore. once the restraining order is in place, she will be arrested every time she comes in contact with you, depending on what the judge will set the limit to. good luck, and just be careful. stalkers are scary. hopfully the police in your contry take it seriously.

I think you should contact the police and put a restraining order against her. She sounds like a complete freak so you might want to purchase some mace. This is a good reason for people not to cheat!

You poor thing! Hugs to you. How long have you and your husband been married? I would be afraid of this woman. Stalkers are always scary, because they have to have mental/emotional problems or they wouldn't be stalking in the first place. I'd demand to go back to the U.S. If your husband prefers to stay in Nicaragua with this woman, then go alone. I don't feel any sympathy for your husband, because his promiscuity has brought this problem on both of you, and you don't deserve it.

I think you should involve the authorities so that if something continues they will have a record of harassment and may put a stop to it. Merry Christmas!!

Sounds like a fatal attraction situation to me. Here are a few sites that may help protect you on an every day level while you let the law do their thing. I for one do not believe a restraining order can do much for protection. I work in the field of law every day and I see how things are done. I know the laws are different in Nicaragua than the US, but ultimately all nations have laws of protection. These laws of protection are just pieces of paper and do not hold much when it comes to actually protecting yourself and your family. There are certain things that should be done by you to try to stay away from a criminal/stlaker. I can not stress enough on how important it is for you and your husband to take precautionary measures while the law is processing its papers. I hope these sites help. They are about stalking in the US but they can be applied to anyone anywhere! http://www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs14-stk.htm http://www.stalkingvictims.com/survival/survival.htm

How did she get the phone numbers, personal info about the hospital visit (and keys to get in), etc? Someone is giving her this info/stuff. You need to keep track of what your husband is doing, maybe even hire a PI to watch him. I just can't imagine how for the life of me that she would be able to compile all this information and get kyes and whatnot without his assistance.

I did read this yesterday caribe but didn't want to make a response till I thought it through. Firstly I am thinking of you in this really awful period of your life. This is the definition of stalking that was given to us a few years ago when a former neighbour was stalking us - and this was only because we were selling our property but not to him. This was in Australia but might help you with points that you can keep records for. "Stalking" is a crime of harassment. Generally, a person commits the offense of stalking if he/she makes a credible threat to another person and, in connection with the threat, repeatedly follows that person or repeatedly makes any form of communication with that person or a member of that person's immediate family, whether or not a conversation ensues. A "credible threat" is considered to be one that would cause a reasonable person to be in fear for the person's life or safety, or the safety of his/her immediate family. If the stalking occurs by virtue of repeated communications, it is not necessary that the communications be made simultaneously with the threat to be considered "in connection" with the threat. They might occur before, during, or after the threat is made, so long as the communication is related to, a part of, or in furtherance of the credible threat. Stalking may also be deemed to occur when a person repeatedly makes obscene comments or gestures to another person with the intent to harass them, either personally or by telephone and includes acts done in public as well as those directed to someone in the privacy of their home. If the police say that they cannot help, then perhaps you should be talking to a good Solicitor/Lawyer. If necessary go to another town to see one so that everyone doesn't know all of your business. You have received some really good advice here from many others so I won't repeat all of it except to say that you should keep a record of all calls she makes to you and/or your husband. Also get security cameras and try to have them discreetly installed in and around your security fence. Also talk to your husband about drawing up some sort of legal document relating to the properties that you own, so that in the event of anything happening to your marriage all property reverts to you and from you to your children, with nothing to your husband. This document should be drawn up by a Solicitor/Lawyer, so there can be no comeback later on. Then the documents should be sent to the USA for sakekeeping, just as a security/safety precaution. Your husband might not be keen on this idea of course, but explain why you think this is necessary, i.e. she might leave you both alone once she realises that there is no financial benefit for her as he has nothing. I wouldn't get anyone to check on what your husband is doing because that would be playing right into her hands. You are working through a difficult time, and will have to rebuilt the trust, so it is best not to have your husband think that you suspect he is still involved with this woman. Also when he goes to meetings, is there any chance that you can go with him or alternatively pick him up after the meeting. This woman is dangerous unfortunately and so you do need to take all steps to protect yourself and your husband. Is there any chance that both of you can go to the USA, or somewhere else away from your home, for a holiday for a few weeks? If you could do that and get someone to look after the house, maybe this other woman would cool down a little. Also it would be good for you and your husband to have some time away from the stress this other woman is putting you and your marriage under. Good luck caribe and I hope that things work out a little better for you sooner rather than later.

I'm so sorry to learn of your troubles caribe. Some thing you might consider along with all the other advise and that would be to have all your asset tied up in such a way that if something did happen to you your husband would not get any thing since 2 it looks like her purpose. is riches. Fix it so he would get nothing then she will show her true colors Good luck. I'LL bepraying for you

i think the only way is to move to a place when she will never find out. Good luck

This is awful. I have an experience that doesn't go as deep as yours but I'll share. My husband and I separated a few years ago. He was seeing a woman in this time. When my husband an I reunited, she continued to call him and email for months. I eventually had enough as my husband wasn't recipricating. He would show me the emails and texts. I found out where she worked (I drove for an hour) and confronted her about it with a lot of class (I think) She rang my husband straight after I saw her and he also told her to leave him alone. She hasn't had contact since. We did move to another state though and changed phone numbers etc. I haven't heard from her since and this was 6 months ago. Good luck to you. My thoughts are with you.

Well in the end it's partly your husband's fault for making her feel he was interested in her. Also, maybe if she's still stalking him maybe he didn't completely end the affair and is trying to see her once in a while but she wants more. Remember, he had the affair in the first place, so you can't trust what he tells you. If he is concerned for his safety though he should go to the authorities, if he doesn't, well I'd say there's a reason he doesn't want to, like something is still going on between them.

I too have been in a swimilar situaton. i was with a man for 4 years and moved with him to his country. I found out he had an affair and I decided to forgive and move on. the woman would not leave us alone and that was the end of it. i couldn´t handle it since i got no time to think and actually try to forgive. I think you should report her for harrassnment to the police, get a restrainingorder for both u and your husband - maybe that will cool her off. I do not understand how she got the number he just got himself though....

There are stalking laws in most states, and if he has witnesses in the police officers who had to remove her from this truck. I would file a restraining order against her.

What a terrible situation you are in. I agree with all of the other commentators who said go to the police. This could get even worse if you do not. Best wishes and I hope it works out for you!

you and ur husband should report her to the police, because however what she did has threaten you life and your husband life.ask you friend who know about the law on how to repost this kind of case.because seems to me that she could be put u and ur family in danger.it'll be better to stop her before she act far further and hurt people physically.

I haven't had time to read all the responses, Caribe, but the ones you have had so far look to be very helpful. I am so glad that you agreed to stay with your husband (I hope, not just because it's your money), in spite of the affair. It sounds to me as if he is genuinely contrite (as he should be, of course). It did occur to me, reading your story and what you subsequently added that the affair may not have been entirely your husband's fault. This woman seems to be exceptionally determined and it's very likely that she has been all along. It sometimes takes a very strong man indeed not to fall into the traps that such people set. It certainly seems that you must take legal advice and, as someone suggested, record every detail of this woman's harassment. If it's possible to get a restraining order on her then that would certainly be the next step. If she broke it, then she ought to go to prison - but I am judging things by how they would happen in the UK. I do wish you (both) all the best and hope that this very trying situation is quickly resolved for you so that you can go on with your life.

I would have a restraining order put on the crazy woman! and tell your husband to let her know he is done with her and wants NOTHING to do with her at all. and she better stop her "stalking moves" or she will be dealing with the police. I dont know what country your in,but most countries have laws about stalking people. hope you can solve your problem soon!

sorry to hear that I would file a restraining order against her. i dont know how she getting your hubby cell phone number but thats not right. what do the police say to do. make sure you get a restraining order as soon as you can to keep her away after you get it if she come there you and your hubby she will go to jail. i hope you get her of your back. has she done this to any one else you know of.

you need to hire a private detective to find out exactly what your husband has been up to and to find out all about this women, then get the police involved. I don't know why you haven't done so already. This woman could be dangerous so take care.

Hugs to you.. I also agree with all others... Getting a restraining order is a good and a safe option