Caring for an elderly parent
By djb876
@djb876 (93)
United States
December 18, 2006 11:51pm CST
My mother-in-law is 87, and is suffering from a variety of difficulties. She had been living alone, not eating much, lonely, and all that. We moved her to a facility with three meals a day, many people she knows, activities...a really beautiful place. But, guess what? She has gone backwards! She seems miserable in this beautiful place, wants to go back to her home. What advice can you give concerning an aging parent? We're stressed!
4 responses
@suju15 (184)
• India
19 Dec 06
See, its not always easy to uproot a plant and transplant it. Same way, if she was already living alone then may be that she is missing her own environment....may be you could talk to her and decide what is best for her. Another possibility is if you could live somewhere near her, and take care of her if the need arises, but still manage to keep your life going.
@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
19 Dec 06
Does she go to the bathroom by herself? Can she wash herself because if she can then why can't she stay with you all this is why she is depressed she wants to be near family maybe she feel her time is near and she wants to spend her last days with you all. My grandfather passed away at home with everyone there. It was easier on everyone because we all knew he was going to pass. talk with her doctors and see if she has to much longer to live if not bring her home with you make her last days happy ones.
@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
19 Dec 06
Oh no... she's regressing..
We had this happen with my grandfather, he went completely down hill once they moved him to a home..
But if she cannot be supervised, then that is the best place for her. I know its hard, but if you don't have the resources to watch her full time, then that is the only way you can keep her safe :(
