My mother is wrong!

I'm not in that situation fortunately, however my ex mother in law suffered from depression and was an alcholic. She lived in a different country which made things a little easier for us. She would explode at as all and say many things she didn't mean. We would get phone calls at all hours of the day and night and if she was angry for what ever reason she would take it out on whoever was close enough. The way we worked through this situation was to re-set the boundries. Which was incredibly difficult. If we were on the phone and the abuse started we were really clear and said 'I'm not talking to you now because you are so angry and have been drinking, I will talk to you later.' And then hang up the phone and take it off the hook. It's always good to remember that what your mum is saying is because she is lashing out and is angry and doesn't know how to deal with that anger. Unfortunatley it doesn't make it easier for you to deal with. As far as you stopping drinking, well done for you... I know first hand how difficult that can be. Parents are interesting creatures, sometimes very difficult to figure out! However, you seem to be on the right track. Quitting drinking and taking care of yourself is a really positive thing for you to do. And try to keep in mind that your mother doesn't mean what she says, and as hard as it is for you try not to take that on board. Her being angry has nothing to do with you. Just try to be clear about what it is you will accept and not accept and hopefully your mum's behaviour will slowly change... Good luck, and take care.

OMG yes!Mine has more than two.My mom never thinks she's wrong,can't say she sorry for anything and has to get the last word in.My mom is so low down that when I did'nt let her see her granddaughter one day she called child services on my husband and myself.My daughter told the investigators that nothing happened and they had to drop the case but still.My own mother!We have not talked in a long while now and I tell people that I have no parents.

I don´t have any or meat somebody with that problem, but if she doesn´t support you and don´t congratulated from that goal you achieve me and all your friends in here support you and are happy from what you did. So go on there will be for sure better days.

Mothers are old and Like speaking. My wife often think her mother is wrong,They quarrel frequently, I always urge my wife to listen to her mother's speech,Understand mutually.

Dear, So sorry about ur mother's problem...My best wish for u..

My mother was misdiagnosed twice in her life. In her early teens, it was schizophrenia. In her 20's-40's, it was manic depression. After four of five severe "episodes", she was finally diagnosed with schizoeffective disorder, which basically means "it looks like bipolar disorder AND schizophrenia, but we really don't know what it is". She is a lot better on these new meds, but she was a terror during my childhood. I remember getting woke up at 3am by my mom. She had just made me pancakes and demanded that I eat them. I told her to get out of my room and leave me alone. During one episode, she threatened to kill my dad and my sis. She has yelled, screamed, kicked me out of the house (then quickly recanted), said on two different occasions that she wished I was never born, then apologized. So, I know what you're going through. Honestly, your mom needs to straighten up. She shouldn't be drinking. That nullifies the medication. She should be going to therapy, anger management classes, and reading up on how to control her condition. To be perfectly blunt, depression is no excuse for being a b|tch. We all have issues. I have depression myself, but I don't use that as an excuse for when I screw up. I am responsible for my own behavior, whether I'm "disabled" or not. The same goes for her. Just let her know that if she doesn't take responsibility for herself, you won't either and you'll cut off all communication with her. She scream, rage, say all kinds of things, but when she spends those first few months alone, she'll get the message.