Gay 'Lifestyle'

I agree, i have yet to meet someone who 'chose' to be gay, that argument is bogus.

I think you mean that you think it's "psychological" not "physiological". Huge difference. I tried to choose to be heterosexual. It didn't work because I'm not.

No, some people are born with the blue print to be gay.

I think that can be more of a choice than sexuality though. Some people are wired so to speak, so that they're more prone to it. But you need outside influences. Or by not eating, your brain just starts getting messed up and you can get trapped. But initially you have to make that choice not to eat. I am a recovering anorexic. It's not like I one day said, "Today I'll be anorexic." But I did one day say, "My mom has been calling me fat forever, other people are skinny, I want to be skinny, I am going on a diet." Then I said to myself that I was fat and worthless. I lost weight. I kept losing. And it was a cycle. But a cycle that I at least subconsciously had a choice to start. And I had a choice to get help as well. While it is somewhat something you'll live with the rest of your life, most days I never even think about it aside from when there are discussions or possibly when people are discussing weight loss.

Mine? It is algae under a microscope at 100x magnification.

what is the picture you use? I was trying to look but cant see what it is? Is it a spider by any chance?

Kindly tell me what 'mannerisms' I have because I'm gay.

Well...I do spit after I smoke. Is that gay? Oh! Oh! I gesticulate a lot. Is that gay? I have a Boston accent, is that gay? I raise my eyebrows a lot. Is that a gay mannerism? Is there a handbook I could consult? Or a memo? Anything?

Hahahahahaha! You know, teh ghay manerizzims! ;} ~Wyrdsister

I believed I was heterosexual for years because I wanted to be. Then I settled on believing that maybe I was just asexual. All the while I was attracted to women and strongly did not want to be. Now I'm very very very glad I'm a lesbian instead of asexual! But I obviously didn't choose it.

no wonder you could not become hetrosexual because you looked for the answers and the ways at the wrong place. Science dont have any prove that we are born in that way, it is consumptions made and peoples opinions. This all depends on what your beliefs is and nobody will change your mind if your belief is this.

not4me, do you say we are animals? I am so glad the abuse factor came up. As you can read in my first comment I said there might be things that influenced you to become gay and that might be one. I did not say it was a choice to be molested either but there are ways to deal with those incidents but that is another topic. Start a discussion like that and I will leave you my comments.

Maybe Christians can only discuss issues with other Christians. If Christians get a negotive connotation, I think they've earned it. Christians try to slam their religion down your throat and convert you. Gays exist peacefully and don't go around converting people because it isn't a choice so that can't be done. Hmm... who do I want to hang out with? I think gay people. :) I've never had a Christian friend that couldn't stop bugging me to convert because they wanted me to go to heaven.

What does my religion have to do with anything? This isn't a religious discussion. Religion has no bearing on the definition of the word lifestyle. That's what's being discussed here.

Can I ask you something? What does that have to do with anything? It's amazing to me how much emphasis people put on the word "Christian." I've come to find that most people who claim to be Christians, are actually some of the most hypocritical, biggoted, closed minded people I've met. All because they throw this word "Christian" in front of them as if it means something because they go to church. It really doesn't. The way I see it, being Christian is more of an attitude, really. Do you think Christ wants people using his name (calling themselves Christians) while going around blasting others for their sins? Calling them evil-doers? I don't. I'm a straight person, by the way. I went to church, and even to a religious private school for 10 years. But I don't call myself a Christian, because more and more it just has a negative connotation for me. It's like Catholics sinning it up during the week and then going to confession on Sundays. Big whoop!! That suddenly saves you? You're going to heaven now? Then you're right back out the door to sleep around on your wife, tell lies and do whatever the hell else you do that constitutes sinning (according to the 10 commandments), but you still call yourself a Christian. How messed up is that?!

No what?

Sorry about the missing words but this subject really pisses me off!

No, I didn't choose to be like this. In fact, I spent years trying to be heterosexual. It's not a lifestyle. Did you read my post?

I get so tired of hearing people say that gays choose to be gay....are they ever going to learn or do we that know, have to just keep repeating this..."gays are born that way!"

Social conditions influence gender roles at least slightly for just about everyone. But that's different than having say, a female lifestyle.

Thank you very much! I'm a freelance writer! :D

i'm sure she did

I agree her writing is very impressive! I hope she got the message I sent saying so.

Being is far from a choice. Why would choose something that is so widely hated? As far as being a lifestyle. I don't so. Do people seriously think that gay men/women wake up one morning yawn and then say,"I think I'll be Gay. I'm bored with being straight"? Give me a @#$% break!

I've never had a person be able to answer those question acceptably. They just fall back on 'everybody starts out heterosexual!'. Which is bull. People are just ignorant.

It is a good point, sorry... I was just trying to make sure I understood it correctly. I hope people try to understand my posts and if not, do not live in fear to question my posts because I'm here to learn and I want others to give some input. I mean, don't get all mad about things like little spelling slips, but I'm sure someone is going to have an issue with something I post eventually (and a lot of people have tried to clarify, because in general, I'm not always good at that). Sorry if I offended you, please keep posting!

You are right, Thanks for pointing that out. I thought I had a good point. It takes someone to be able to take how you look at something and apply what there saying to it. And Thanks for explaining nicely to many people argue it makes you not want to post your opinion. Reason I do is to better myself. So thanks! Want to fix my term of Gay Lifestyle too?

No Offense thank you for adding me as a friend. I'm here to learn too.