Gay son

i believe you are what you are and will be what you will be. i don't think as much as you may like to, you can change the way some one turns out. In this day and age, I don't think being gay is the same taboo that it used to be so if it happened to your children it would be so bad as it would in our parents generation. don't worry...what will be will be:) you will love them whatever and they will love you too.

I would be very upset if one of my children were to tell me they were gay. We have raised them very carefully and so I don't think it's likely to happen. I would take the child to our pastor and pray for them that they would get over their confusion. I beleive it can be treated medically now.

My sons are little right now, I thought about that also, I don't think I will try to change them, I love them more than life itself, I guess I would just have to accept who they are, there really isn't anything much I could do at that point.

I guess I live a double standard in a way. I have a really good friend who is gay, and I love him dearly. He actually taught me how to overcome any fears of gays. But I am a mother too, of a 7 year old son, and a 4 year old daughter. I would definitely still love them if that was their decision, but be horrified at the same time. Every parent wants their child to be "normal," and I think sadly, if one of your children turns out gay, you feel you have failed them somewhere. It would take a long time for the news to settle with me, but I would have to accept the fact that if they were happy and that is who they turned out to be, I would have no choice but to be ok with it.

If you try to change their sexuality, they will feel bad of what they are!

I would suggest that treat them as usual.Dont make them feel horrible.You must accept who they was and dont judge them that they are wrong.Tell them that you still love who they were and expose them about safety.

Being gay is not a lifestyle as mentioned before. Some are just meant to be that way. If my kids turned out gay, I honestly wouldn't care. I may feel differently later on but I am not sure how much I would care about being a grandmother. I mean I would love it yes, but if it never happens I would be okay with it too. As long as my kids respect me and my husband and turn out to be good people. Gay, or straight, who cares! Let them be good and healthy.

I agree, I would worry about it. And not because I would look down on them or be ashamed, but because I would fear for what their life would be like. They would have a hard life full of judgment and horrible people lashing out at them. Also, as a religious person, I would be concerned for their afterlife.

i say try and talk to them about it. take them someplace (when they are a little older) to places like, were they meet females. or take them, like you said, someplace where someone would talk to them.

I have a son and I have thought about how I would feel if he were when he grown up. I don't really know how I would feel. I think at first I would be upset but I wouldn't try to change him. I dont think I could handle it if he were fem. gay I think that would be to much. I think I could handle the him being after I get over the shock but I couldn't handle him acting all girly. Dont get me wrong I have gay friends and it's nothing wrong with it but I think it's differnet when it hits home.

You should not worry too much how they would turn out. Just raise them the best you can in line with your morals and I am sure they will grow up to be responsible and sensible men.

The kind of person I am, I would try any means to keep them from being gay!

you'll just have to accept whatever they are.

Let me give you my opinion. Yes, the fear of the unknown is scarier than things you already know. If you are afraid your kids will turn out to be gays, maybe you should expose them to the disadvantages of being gay from as early age as possible. Try to show as many bad examples from being a gay. Make an effort to know somebody who is gay but has already shifted to normal life. Try to learn what are the worst things that might happen to a gay. For example, being discriminated in the society, getting vulnerable to HIV and AIDS, STD, getting physical and mental side effects.. and many other possibilities. It is in the hope that your kids will be scared to enter the world of gays if they already know the negative impact is much more greater than the positive impact. Good luck and I hope my suggestion will help you. Have a nice day.

First of all my Advise is don't even think that far ahead and like that If they do turn out Gay then be it and I suggest you support them no matter what Let People say what they want, you have to let them live their Life how they want to Ok so they are black males nobodies Buisness they are human and a Person, a Person with their own Rights, yes I know there are still People out there who have an Attitude to that and I am sorry about that, but honest do not worry about it now and when the time comes and one of them should be Gay support them do not disown them or give them a Lecture still love them like you always have done That is what I would do

I know a gay black guy who's a card! Everyone loves him and he's outwardly gay. I guess it's a matter of how you raise them to be. If they're self confident and are just them then they will be fine. If they're not as strong willed then they will be teased and bothered I'm sure. In most cases it's a matter of how you present yourself that allows or disallows others to make fun of you or pick on you. As for your love, I guess we never know until we're faced with it but I would guess that while you may be hurt, upset and all but in the end be fine with loving him just the same.

I would raise them right.

i have a friend, and his parents have tried all facets to try and 'turn him straight' and all it has done is completely shatter the family appart and totally ruin their relationship with their son..i think if one of your sons should come out gay and you realise that this is such a hard life to live then you should realise how much courage it has taken them to come out in this world and you should be the first person so accept them and give them as much support as they need...

I understand your concern is only for the well being of your children, however if they are gay than that is just as certain, just as permanent as their being african american. trying to turn them straight would be like trying to change the color of their skin. If your kids are gay, then love them for who they are, and support them as they do battle with an ugly and intolerant world.

thats sad