my friends mom took her phone away

If that was my daughter I would take the phone away also. It has nothing to do with her not wanting her daughter to have a boyfriend. It has to do with responsiblility and knowing how many minutes you have on your cell phone and not going over them. Once you go over the minutes it starts costing a lot of money and if the kid doesn;t have a job to pay for it then they should lose it. We are going through the same thing here. My neice has gone over her minutes and owes like $400. She does not have a job and connot afford to pay the bill. It was her and her friends who used the minutes and got the bill that hi, so why should her mom have to bail her out and pay $400 just do she can over use again next month. Besides that my sister cannot afford to pay $400 cell phone bills. If your friend really wants to keep the phone and talk to this guy then maybe she can ask him to help pay the bill. Or better yet, do what her mom said and get a job so she can suppot the phone herself. The mom is right in this case, in my opinion. Your friend needs to learn responsibility. This really has nothing to do with the mom not wanting her daughter to not have a boyfriend. Believe it or not, there are more important things in life than having a boyfriend and it is a mom's job to try and teach that to their children.

i think your friend is over-reacting. the mom wants her daughter to learn responsibility. i think if your friend was paying for the phone herself, then there would be no problem, but the mom is paying for it. of course she would have a problem paying a huge bill. when i was a teen, my sister paid my phone bills. i used to let everyone use my phone when they needed to and that ran the bill up like crazy. i got into an argument with my sister as well. but i also understood what she was feeling. parents are not made of money and having a phone is a BIG responsibility. if your friend wants a cell so badly, tell her to go and get her own, she can get a pre-paid phone, like Boost Mobile, hey even t-mobile has pre paid minutes. if its her phone, then her mother shouldn't have a problem. but your friend should get a job and pay her mother back, thats the least she can do..

her mom was right, if she was paying the bill then thats a different story. but as her mom is the one fitting the bill she has not right to get mad with her. she need to work with her mom an come to a deal about the phone.

Her Mom isn't trying to ruin her social life. She just wants her to learn responsibility for her actions. 400 bucks is alot for a phone bill. I nearly had a stroke when my cell phone bill was over 700 one time. We got my stepson one of those prepaid cellphones and a bunch of minutes. We told him that when he was out of minutes, he was out of luck unless he had the money to buy more. Imagine what life was like for teenage girls before the invention of the cellphone!

What's the issue here? The mom did the right thing. She's trying to teach her daughter that money doesn't grow on trees, and that there is more to life then talking to this guy, including paying bills. If she wants to ring up the bill like that, she needs to get a job and pay it herself. Sounds like a perfectly good solution to the problem. Jim

In one way what her mother did is wrong because though she takes away her daughter's phone there are other ways her daughter getting spoil.......she may lie to her parents and move out with that guy......she may follow other ways to deceive her parents.........so her mother should not hav done this that is yelling at her daughter......she may have talk with her daughter and sorted out the problem......she should not only care about her daughter's phone bill but also about her daughter...... In other way your friend Naomi is also wrong because she is sure that she likes that guy very much but she is not sure about the guy.......if he cant wait for her and there are chances of leaving her if she wontspeak to him then she should not believe him.......

I think your friend is very immature. The first responsibility of an adult is to pay their own bills. The guy can call her if he is really that interested. Not only would I have taken the phone, I would not give it back and I would insist she pay the bill herself. Why does she feel she can be independent and do what she wants when she still expects her mother to pay her way? Your friend needs to see what life is really like and that starts with facing your own responsibilities.

I think her mother is being fair.If your friend is old enough to work then,maybe she needs to find a part time job to help pay the bill.It's called responsiblity

If this guy really likes her, he should figure out a way to pay the mom's phone bill!

Hello, those things cost money. If you are not responsible enough to realize this and think talking to your boyfriend is more important than paying your bills, you don't deserve to have one. The mother was exactly right in what she did.

her mom will be unreasonable if naomi is the one paying for the phone bill....but it's not. if both of them really need to communicate with each other, why not ask them to use IM and webcam? that would save a lot and they can see each other too!

If it was my daughter, I would have taken away the cell phone. If her daughter is old enough to have a boyfriend, she's old enough to get a job. Let her realize that money does not grow on trees!

YOU ARE NOT 22 YOU ARE MORE LIKE 12, STOP LYING TO PEOPLE AND WASTING EVERYONES TIME, READ HER POSTS PEOPLE AND YOU WILL SEE WHAT I MEAN.

uummm, your friend actually needs to get herself a job and buy herself a cell phone. because if she buys it using her own money, she can charge her mom theft. same thing actually happened to my friend...

I think her parents are right. It would be different if she were paying the bill...but it sounds like the parents are paying the bill? Anyway...when she is more responsible then she can talk to this guy...and help pay the bills.

If the parents are paying the bill, they have the right to say who can and can't use it, and when, and how much. If she wants to get a job and pay for it, then more power to her.

she should have been more careful she deserved to have the phione taken away. she could always instant message him over the net. if he really cares a few weeks will not cause him to forget about her.

wow you posted this same exact thing on yahoo answers last month. . .same answer, her mom is not being unreasonable

Sorry, but I would take her phone away as well. Maybe Naomi should get a part time job after school and be responsible for her own bill. Then she could talk all she wants! As for the bf, if he really likes her maybe he could pay for her cell bill or find some other way to stay in contact like the internet.

My mom took my phone away when I went over. I think it is resonalbe, if your friend isn't paying the bill that she should be considerate of the fact that someone else is. If she was paying for it than that would be a different situation.