A lying child

when i was in my 4th grade i used to steal from home and spend it on my friends.My dad came to know about this but he didnt react(he told me later much later when i got big) to this issue immediately.Instead he started to spend more time with me, we became best friends and to this date he knows all my secrets.I dont have a child so dont know anything about raising one. But if you can try and be his friend by taking him into confidence then i guess half of the problem will be solved.

My daughter went through a lying stage. I played reverse psychology. When she told the truth I told her I didn't believe her. How am I supposed to believe her when she lies so much. Tell your son that if he keeps lying, pretty soon no one will ever believe anything he says, even when he is telling the truth. Perhaps read him the story of the boy who cried wolf. My two daughters are constantly saying, "No, I didn't. She did." Who am I supposed to believe? I just punish them both (send them to their rooms) or don't listen to them at all. They get really riled if I take sides (and who could blame them), so I them I don't know who to believe so (depending on the circumstances and the lie) they both get punished or I just don't do anything at all. If you ignore him (again, depending on what the seriousness of the lie is), perhaps he will start telling the truth.

my son is also 5 years old. He went through a lying stage. Also went through a stage where he would "pocket" toys from other peoples houses, and then later tell me they said he could have it or borrow it. You just have to be really stern with him. Take something away from him that is really important to him. With my son I took away the tv privelages and video games. He quickly reverted, so that tactic worked for him.

forgive and forget, and pray.

How old is your son? My oldest son went through this from about ages 6-8. We did many of the same things you have done -- especially the "you get in more trouble for lying" argument. What seemed to work for us was taking away a toy for every lie. And then emphasizing that if he tells the truth there will be little or no punishment for whatever it is he's lying about. For example, when my son broke a window in our basement, he lied about it and was punished for the lie. The next time he did something and fessed up to it, I didn't punish him. Now obviously he can't go around breaking windows and such and expect to go unpunished. But for us,teaching him to tell the truth was the most important thing. Also, have you tried rewarding him when he tells the truth? We spent a lot of time punishing the lies, but when we switched to rewarding the truth, the lies pretty much stopped.

why just punish to dicipline your child haaa....???? why you not growth him with your welfare with your love...not punishem thje answer of all your problem exactly with your son...they just growing up you don't want your son be a immature because you are growth him in just your home....

Maybe he is seeking a male role model can you sign him up for big brothers program? Is he involved with his real dad? Alot of issues stem from the fact that they dont have the same gender role model parent. good luck and godbless ;)

what i did was telling him that a monster will grab and pull his tooth if he lied again.I wonder if this work on ur son.It does work on my scary lil nephew..He rarely lied eversince i told him so.lol.arent kids r just plain innocent and cute?haha

why don't you get books on child psychology and study the steps a child goes through in her/his life. and see if your kid went throught them and at what stage your kid is. There you can also learn how to treat him and why they act the way they act.

Keep consistant, and keep praying. Keep explaining, and then set by example proof that lying isn't good.

You make your 8 year-old scrub the floors? :| "I don't wanna work on Maggie's farm no more!" Sorry, but that's terrible. I'd keep trying to talk some sense into him, but do 8 year-olds actually listen to what you say? Most kids zip back and forth so fast, they can't possibly be listening. If that isn't working, try a visit to a child therapist, maybe you can get some help.

task that the better thing after all what it has made is fargli to understand that it it is however close without too many questions then automatically will understand of usual works

take something away which he loves as a punishment. it is more effective than a stern talk or if you shout at him

so it's a bad habit

All children have this reaction. Don't worry much. But I have to say only this one: I would make him tell the truth when something has just happened. If this isn't possible, then find out why he is keeping asking so badly for your attention. Something is behind all this behaviour.

Try make him understand without scolding... Teach him in a playing manner, that will help a lot. Thanks

i used to nbe that boy.so my mum did the same things that u did then when that did not work she started to tell me lies .this was to make me realise what it feels to be on the other end of a lie and it worked.maybe u should try that out!

Well, first of all, what you've done is right. But still it's not working, try to reverse psychology everthing. Or you may also want to try that once he lied to you, don't make it hard too much it to him by not giving punishment, let him understand that whenever he lied on to something, you won't get mad because you're happy the way he tells the truth. You know, kids intend to lie because they knew that if you find out the truth you'll get mad, if he lied, there's chances of gett'n away with it or be caught which is somewhat likely with if he got caught.

How about telling him the story of The Boy Who Cried Wolf? Ask him too, what he would suggest should be done if he were the mother and you are the son who habitually lies? This way you engage him in your problem and it might just help to make him think. Always give him your reassurance that you love him very much so you are helping him to grow up to be good. Your son might be just craving for attention. Good luck!

u know children r like soft sand, u can turn them into marble structures or just floors. i would just recokmend that u spend more time with ur child as a friend rather than a mother. writing punishments or cleaning floors won't help u either. when he commits a mistake help him feel the responsibilty rather than punishing him. its better u do a mistake & help him understand whats wrong & write. i hope u got the point.