Is it a blow to a man's pride if his woman makes more than him?
By missinghim
@missinghim (1339)
United States
December 23, 2006 11:55am CST
My aunt says that it's the reason behind her marriage going sour. She claims that her husband couldn't stand that she made more money than he did. I make a little more than my bf, but he doesn't seem to mind at all. So what do you think? Is it a blow to a man's ego if he's not really the bread winner of the home?
10 responses
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
23 Dec 06
At one point in time I was making more thand mine and he was happy for me and everything.I guess some men are different.
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
23 Dec 06
In the long run yes. Because men are told at a very young age that they are the providers, the keepers and the protectors of the family. I never heard anyone tell their little son "oh I hope you find a girl whose in control, makes alot of money and able to take care of you." It always the other way around.
@missinghim (1339)
• United States
27 Dec 06
But does money = power in a relationship? I was under the impression that in order for a relationship to work there has to be a lot of give and take "what's yours is mine & what's mine is yours".
@kpfingaz (1027)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
26 Dec 06
I don't mind if my girl makes more money than I do. As a matter of fact she does and I am grateful that betweeen us we have more money. Men who think like that are just scared that they just aren't good enough.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I think it's more of a control issue.I make good money..but if I did have a woman that made more than me cool...unless she held it over my head.I don't have a woman so I don't have that problem.Men are control freaks.I know I am cuz of my personality and my job possition.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Depends on the man and rather or not he is secure with whom he is. I made like 8 dollars more than my husband when we lived in California and it didn't bother him at all. What is his is mine and what is mine is his. It all went into the same account. I never tossed money up in his face nor he in mine.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
24 Dec 06
Why should he complain, if he has a job and the both have a job. it's both of there money. Some men would be happy and there probaly bragging to there friends. about how much their mate makes.
@jillybeans (536)
• United States
26 Dec 06
I think it's an issue if the man is insecure with himself.If he is truly secure with himself, he would be happy that she is successful.
@gadituzair (985)
• Pakistan
23 Dec 06
Yeah i agree with you,but,a man can or cannot live like this,it actually depends on the person you are living with, but i am sure this is not a general rule and may vary from person to person
@nicholaivalentine (17)
• Philippines
23 Dec 06
well, you can't call him the man of the house if the woman is the one giving him money ryt?? then he is not the HEAD of the family.
