OMG I did it......and I feel HORRIBLE

Stop drinking. Period. People always do this stupid crap, setting themselves up for their own defeat. Do you think he'll forgive you if he finds out? You should probably tell him. Do you think he cheats on you? He may. Learn that if you Love someone you don't put yourself in the situation to betray them and yourself. Your a parent too. Set the example. Stop drinking. Ditch the friends that would lead you astray as well. That's life. YOU have to sacrifice for Love or you'll keep f-ing up again and again. So tell him, and no matter what the result, be smarter from now on.

You should be upfront and honest with him. Thats what a good marriage is about. Honesty. if you dont tell him its essentially lying to him and lying is more dihanoest than doing it. You should have known better. You knew very well what you were doing and what it could lead to. Take responsibility for your mistake and own up to it. Heres a question: What would you have him do?

Eek! Are you thinking about telling him the truth about what happened? I think you should definitely be honest with him...he DOES deserve to know... But also let him know how much your love him and everything else you mentioned here in this post! :) You also have to realize he may have a hard time trusting you again...

with the amount of drinking you claim your fiance does in one of your other discussions, he will probably forgive you if you tell him. But, if you both do a lot of drinking then maybe you should seek counseling before getting married. Two heavy drinkers married together enable each other, and unfortunately one of the problems is that it's usually not only themselves that people who drink too much to think reasonably while drinking injure, but other innocent bystanders.

You are engaged, already have a daughter and you cheated on your fiance? I'm sitting here trying to figure out how to say what I wanna say without being mean or judgmental. I know I don't know you, but you sound young. Did you cheat on him with your Ex or a random guy? As a mother to 4 and 6 year-old girls, I have a personal thing about going out drinking when maybe you should be home with your child. Going out and having fun is fine and makes for a great break but you should try not to put yourself in that kind of a situation. You knew that though I'm sure so 'nuff said, right? :) Looking back at my experience, I have been with my husband for about 8 years now and we have been married for 6. Not recently, but after my 1st daughter was born I had many guys trying to get with me at work but because I loved my hubby so much I had this almost natural instinct to just not care about other guys, something which I still have. My guy fulfills me so much that I don't even drool over celebrities? Like, Brad who?? Please. (seriously) So maybe this was a sign that you haven't found THE perfect guy for you or you are still in love with your ex (if it was with your ex). Anyway, it has been done. I would only tell your fiance if he and your ex have a good chance of running into each other or if you both run in the same circle of friends. If your fiance is a great guy than it might be best not to hurt him and even though this sounds horrible, think of it like you guys aren't actually married yet. Whatever you do now and in the future, make sure you put your daughter's best interest first. Just be a good role model for her. Best of luck!

A marriage should NEVER be built on a lie. Sooner or later the truth ALWAYS comes out. Sit your fiance down and tell him the truth. If you don't the guilt you feel now will only worsen if you never tell. Maybe he will forgive you. But I am sure he will not trust you for a while even if he does. You will HAVE to earn that trust back which quite honestly may take a very long time.

I think you should be honest with your fiance and tell him what happened, unless you could live with the guilt, I personally couldn't. I hope you can work things out.

I think you should refrain from drinking and I also think you should becareful who your friends are who let you do this type thing and get some that really like you and help you avoid problems If he finds out he will probably be upset so you should refrain from future acts of this kind

Beg for mercy - it's your only recourse. You cheated on him. Do whatever is required for restitution, but make sure he forgives you and the issue is not carried forward.

You need to ask yourself this question.....do you really love your fiance as much as you think you do. There may be some underlying reason for your unfaithfulness.

Sometimes things like this happen and there is nothing you can do about it. Mistakes happen. If there is no underlying cause for this (cold feet, having second thoughts, actually dont like him etc) then I dont think you should tell him. It was a once off and as long as you can forgive yourself (you were tipsy, it was a mistake and accident) then I think you shouldn't jeapordise something so wonderful. Saying that he may be the forgiving type and you might be able to tell him if he is reasonable and will forgive you. However the stigma of the cheater may linger :\

It would be better to come right out and tell him. Something like that can not be kept secret for long. He will eventually find out. You will also be living with that guilt the rest of your life. You say you love him more then anything else in the world,except your daughter. Then why would you do something like that? I know you said you were tipsy and all, but stil. Good luck and I hope you learned from your mistakes.

hy,and happy new year... its a very....hmm...dont know how to call it...its an awful situation!!! why you did it?that was not nice...you dont have to feel bad for this...it happend it happend..thats it ...but you shouldent. you know what can you do now?so you can feel bether? just think like this...i pnly have one fugging life...that it...i did it i did it...maby he did it two...

Do not give that much importance to this incident.such incident do happen sometimes and we all have to forget it.perhaps the circumstances after the party made you do it.my sicere advise is just forget it and ensure that this does not happen again in your life.

Well, I do believe you said very recently that you and your fiance' didn't seem to have a very passionate physical life anymore. Or at least you seemed to feel something was missing. And now this on top of feeling that way. Maybe you should really start looking hard at this relationship BEFORE you get married. Could it be that you simply love him as a very good friend, and not as a romantic partner? Either way, this seems that there are problems here that need to be addressed before you put that ring on.

Well first of all...you can't love your fiance as much as you think you did..because you cheated on him...I honestly don't know what you should do...but starting a relationship on dishonesty and betrayal is not the way to have a lasting marriage...

well you made a huge mistake that should of never happened.well you should come clean and be honest with your fiance.after all honesty is a big part in a relationship he is probably going to be mad.but if he finds out from someone else then god only knows what will happen.maybe you can work it out.but,i would come clean with him instead of taking the chance of him finding out some other way.good luck.p.s.that is why we should never get drunk it can lead to things like this.

This is a horrible thing.. a mistake, obviously. I'm sorry this happened to you, as obviously you sound quite upset, and feel ashamed for what you did. He might be extremely upset about this, but I personally believe that it's better to tell him. I know I couldn't NOT tell. That's just me.. There's only one way of knowing how he will feel, and how strong your relationship really is, and IMO, that's to be honest and tell him.

I dont understand what r u talking about. Its difficult to understand if you are male/female...

i don't get it.. Are you a man or a woman? I'm confused..