Why do parents that can't support their one child have more?

I don't understand this myself. I have one child only, although I wouldn't mind having a second child. I just won't have another child unless I have the means to support both the way I want to, which includes private school. I would never generalize about any group of people, but I have been aware of a number of people on public assistance who have actually had additional children so they could collect more welfare, food stamps, etc, and I think it's a crying shame. The sad reality is that the people who are making the sane decision to not have children they can't take care of are most likely the better parents. The parents who are having the multiple children for whatever reason are often people who probably shouldn't have procreated at all. I don't mean to sound bad when I say this, but I do think it's a tremendous responsibility (as well as quite a blessing) and I think it needs to be taken seriously by all who undertake this great thing.

I think unawareness and lack of proper knowledge about contraceptives is the main cause. In India men still believe they willlose their manhood if they get vasectomy done and many in the interiors bellieve kids are god's gift and you should not interfere in the god's ways. Many women are scared to get operated too, sometimes women do want to get operated but their husbands or elders do not allow them to because of mythical beliefs about the whole issue. For them its just a matter of having two more hands to earn in the future.Here in India its believed a boy keeps the generation of the father going or keeps family name alive so to have one boy they do not mind having six daughters before that. WIth that female infanticide is also very rampant in the society. Baby girls are killed by covering their mouth with wet cloth or dipping them in the bowl full of milk after they are born and this is practiced till the family gets a boy born into them. SO female of the household is respected as per how many sons she has that way she never consents to go for birth control.

There are alot of people that don't think twice about their financial situations before jumping in the sack, I don't know what it is, I guess they know they are going to get help from the government so what the heck, I don't see how they do it. I can't.

so that the people paying taxes can help support them and their child/children

some time it just happens. when people have kids they got good jobs and all sudded they get laid off and its not there fult. its hard to find a good paying job these days. they do there best what they can.

i agree 100% do not have kids if u can not support them! i know way too many people who do this way too often, and some who do it because the more they have the more welfare they will get! if u have one, and realize whoa this is expensive, DO NOT HAVE ANYMORE until u r financially stable! I can not stress this enough! i have a huge issue with this because ur kids suffer not u! ur kids r the one's growing up with nothing!

yep because we have tooo mant welfare babies

Yes I guess financial stability is very important to have another child for it is the parents responsibility to give all the needs of their child so they have to plan it if they are capable to have another child.

Well, this case is horrible, spcially in my country: Here, in peru, its in the third world rank so... its poor but im not :D well, 70% of peru is really poor and the really poor familys have like 8 children... and guess what they do... THEY SEND THEM TO WORK!! Yes, its horrible to see a little child(5-8 years old) working in the streets just for getting cents...

I think a person should be more than financially ready to support a child. They should also be mentally ready, and Phsyically ready to support a child. You can have all the money in the world and easily have a break down or have physical problems that would not benefit a child one bit. But I see your point, why bring another child in this world when your not able to feed yourself, put clothes on your own back and a roof over your head, or for the child you have now. I have two children. I honestly admit my last ( and I mean last ) was one of those HELLO I'm here babies. A lot of families has these. But I wouldn't change anything in this world. My family has learned to adapt from a family of 3 to a family of 4. My husband works for the military, and when my youngest goes to school I will be looking for a job ( knock on wood ). Last time I said those words, wasn't long after I found out I was pregnant. Don't want to jinx myself this time. I know what my limit is. In the beginning, I only wanted 1 and now that I have 2. That is my final limit. Anything over that I know would be pushing it. My physical health isn't like it used to be.

of course! don't make one if you can't afford to support one. there should be family planning.

A lot of parents are incredibly irresponsible. A lot of them are just doing it so they can receive a bigger welfare check every month.

In the UK we have this as well. Some families are better off having lots of kids. They get social security, child benefits, all their rent, dentistry, school meals, clothes allowance, extra money when their kids go to college, etc paid for. Alot has to do with education, and breaking the cycle of having kids and relying on state benefits. In many areas of the UK unemployment is high, most live on benefits and as kids grow this is the only life they know, so the cycle continues. It is said that it is your right to have a child, but I tend to disagree with this. Some families need to take responsibility of their own lives and not rely on the government for handouts. If they did make it tougher for parents to claim so many benefits then maybe they would stop having more children. However, I certainly wouldn't want any child to suffer because their parents are irresponsible. This is a tough one!!

if you have decided to have a child than you should should have evry thing to serve him.

im with you, my friend..this question bugged me too...i joined this charity organization that help the poor...and it really bother me couple could actually have 5 children when they practically lives off those social welfare to give them food!

I agree with you that bringing up child is a costly affair. Sometimes another child comes by accident and in some religion this abortion is a sin. But I very strongly agree that when you have the financial capability to raise a child only then you should bring the child in this world other wise you are doing injustice to your children.

BEcause they are stupid.

Because there stupid, and the Gov. makes it easy for them by giving more and more financial aid, which comes out of my 10 thousand + in taxes i pay every year

maybe they not aware of consequences that they will through once they have lots of kids but they can't afford to have a better life for their kids. Maybe they need to attend some family planning lecture. They have a lots of kids because they are always together and have lots of time together than rich couples

unfortunatelly in my country there are alot of people who born baby after baby so that their kids support them financially. i mean they born like 10-12 kids then send them to ask for charity. i think u all know what feeling u get when u see a 2-4 year old angel coming to u and saying "can u please spare some money? i'm really hungry... please" and u give them. their parents are right around the corner and it's a matter of time till they come and get the money from their kid to buy alchool. it's really sad and i don't even wanna think what kind of life this kids live. but i'm sorry to say that these people cannot be called parents. when u become a parent u think how can u make a better world for u'r kid. provide him happiness, clothing, food, education, health care, emotional and spiritual proper development. if u cannot provide financial care for more than 1 or 2 kids, as much as u love babies, put all that love in the kids u already have, and when the time comes in u'r grandkids. u'r be a fullfilled mother.