I have one quick question for people who think child abortion should be banned.

It's hard to say. On the one hand, if someone isn't ready to have a child, or can't support it than is it fair to put them through the pregnancy with the risk that if they keep the child they will blame it if they are not happy? And if they put it in a home, will the child be happy? But from the child's point of view, is it fair that they aren't even given a chance? I myself am not going to judge someone for having an abortion, as long as they're not using it as a form of birth control. This debate is always going to cause friction between people, and even countries. In Ireland it's illegal to have an abortion, so people have to go to England.

I was told that my mom wanted to have an abortion.. but my dad was against it (perhaps because he was Catholic, and perhaps because he had an ex girlfriend who actually went thru with an abortion, and it really hurt him). So here I am. I'm not perfect by any means, but I'm living life. And I have two kids that wouldn't have been here otherwise. There are definitely people (I'm talking about children) living hell on earth. And it's not their fault. It's because of OTHER people that they are suffering. Some people are very fortunate, though. Despite being born to parents who don't want them, and who "give them up" for adoption, they are able to be placed in loving homes. Not "perfect" homes, but loving homes. And they CAN (in many cases) become very productive, happy adults. I'm very sorry about your cousin, by the way. that's horrible. :(

To be against abortion does not mean you're for overpopulation or child-rape and torture.It means that yout hink everyone should be more responsible, the impending parents,the child-help organizations and those who can just help in general.If everyone stepped up then maybe the balance wouldnt be such a careless mess.Why was your cousin at an orphanage is she obviously had family who kept long-time tabs on her?

Beats being killed for your nothing more than your mom's convenience. ;~D

This post will have some very emotional responses I am sure. I dont think child abortion should be banned, but I think there should be a greater focus on the results of unwanted pregnancies that result in a child going into government 'care'.

all_n_one i dont agree with you. As I cant see any realtion to the child abortion and child adoption. But your point is highly accepted.I dont vote for abortion unless you know that you are going to give birth an abnormal baby otherwise its a criminal offence.

If you are not killed before you are born, no matter what the circumstances of your life, there is always hope. I would rather be given the opportunity to experience life. Good or bad.

I get tired of the whole "there are plenty of people out there that will adopt" response. That is just not true. If people would do their research then they would know that, like you said, most of the "homes" are horrible and treat kids badly. That, again you are correct, most people only want to adopt babies but not the older kids. All the "pro-life" people care about is stopping someone from getting an abortion. What they don't realize is that that child might be going to something a lot worse, and may wish that they were never born. One other thing people forget. By LAW, it's not a child until it's born. If the law changes then it's murder. But it's not now.

at least they still have a chance being alive. they have no chance if they have been aborded

we don't know for sure what will happen to a child after it is born but we do after an abortion. those kids on adoption home are just a percentage of the kids born. what's happening to them is not right but life is not fair for all of us.

I don't think abortion should be banned. Women should be free to choose to do it or not.

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There is a saying that sums it up' Two wrongs do not make a right." You have the means to complain, to your congressmen, to your governor so that these children go to decent homes, and get apprentice programs so they can make money and learn a trade is a good idea. Why not have the schools or the business people go to the homes and have some of the older children take apprentice programs, like work after school, etc. Aborting the babies that some creep gave them is punishing these children over again. As for adopting older children, it is not as easy as one thinks. People seem to think that any one can adopt, and that is why so many adoptive kids turn out bad, because the state assumes that if you are forty and he is fifty=two, you can take any child who is damaged, and turn him around so he becomes a decent citizen. In fact, the standards should be stricter than for new borns, and they would be better adopted into families where there are already children.

Is it child adoption you meant or abortion? When parents are not in a position to look after themselves, leave aside kids, then I belive abortion is best, but at an early stage. Otherwise I feel it is a sin to bring such kids into this world and leave them to the mercy of people. Yes, adoption should be allowed so as to make the childs life better. Again adoption should be given with great care, the child should not be made an unpaid servant. If I had the money, I would definitely adopt because I can understand the life they must be living in adoption homes. Actually those who run these homes must be brutally punished if found guilty of harrasment. Only if somebody would make me a President or Prime Minister, lol.

I would do what i could to help.

I think we need to fix all that is wrong with society before we condemn parts of it we need to see it as a whole and fix it

If aborted then a child is killed before even he can hope, the right to live is terminated,so abortion is not the right thing to do.I know some children who are from orphanages and created a good life around them, so why not give them a chance.

all_n_one I totally agree with you..I am an adopted child (well adult now) and I can honestly say that for most of my life I had wished I'd been aborted and ahve attempted to take my life more than once....being adopted isnt always a good thing....my life has been hell at the very hands of the ppl who swore to a judge to protect me and provide for me etc....the only thing they protected was their dirty little secret from getting out.....I know of kids who have been raised in foster home to foster home and were never adopted...and sadly many foster homes arent the greatest places either..... As for abortion...I stand by my choice to abort and have nver regretted it....I wasnt raped, i wasnt beaten or in an abusive relationship, I was 29 when I had it and it was the best decision I could have made....bottomline as much as we had planned to carry to term and have the baby (my husband and I) life threw us a curveball and it ended up I had to abort in the best interest of myself and my family and our mental well being...... Ppl who have never BEEN in a situation where a tough decision like that has to be made, really have no standing IMO....because if you have never been there first hand, you'll never truly understand and you can only assume...

Unfortunately, the rabid pro-lifers will never listen to arguments like these. They'll say 'all life is precious!' and ignore the fact that there are some children who would have been better off never born in the first place. The kids who don't live more than a few years of pain, the babies who are dumped in a trashcan or flushed down a toilet after birth... isn't it better to have a doctor induced miscarriage than to be born and then snuffed out painfully when the child is fully aware?

it's such a wrong doing.