Hostel Problem - Solution please
By 1212121212
@1212121212 (122)
India
December 25, 2006 9:42pm CST
My brother is staying in a hostel and studying. He is in his first year. He is facing the following problems:
The seniors in the hostel make him clean their room, write their records, take money from him, make him salute, does not allow him to wear clothes in which he is comfortabel, using bad language, occasional beating(not severe) etc..
We suggested that we will complain to the warden or the principal, but my brother says that his life will become even more difficult then. He doesn't allow us to speak to these boys also. He is very scared...
please suggest some subtle way through which this can be solved. Some times I get sooo angry that i feel like going and bashing up those idiots. afterall they are also students but their behaviour is so worse...
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52 responses
@thundercat (505)
• United States
26 Dec 06
Sounds like your run of the mill hazing. This is common in higher education settings and it really only stops when someone with authority steps in. Someone needs to go to someone in authority with a complaint as long as there is a structure in place for dealing with this. Where I go to school in the US there is an administrative and disciplinary procedure in place for groups that engage in hazing of new members. If there is something like this in place where your brother is studying then I suggest you bring it to the attention of those in charge, otherwise he should move because there is no reason to subject himself to that kind of treatment.
@1212121212 (122)
• India
26 Dec 06
The rules are strict in the college as such and no ragging takes place there. But in the hostel there is seriously no control. I think as you suggested moving out is the only solution. coz, if he is the only person to complain then he can't continue studying there for the rest of the years..
@learnandearn (254)
• China
26 Dec 06
These things shouldn't happened in college. Usually we just see that some kids are bullied by there schoolmates in high school. There are three solutions you may consider. First, move out of the hell place. Second, make friends with them. I know it's hard, but I think it's also possible. Last, beat those guys, and they will never touch your bro anymore. This is obvious not a good idea, but since they idiots force you to do, why not? hope you will find a good solution. Best wishes.
@1212121212 (122)
• India
27 Dec 06
He feels the best thing to do is relocate to some other place with his friends. Eventhough I don't completely agree with him, I have to go with it.
@whitematter (501)
• India
26 Dec 06
well thsi problem is not with your brother only, this is faced by all the haostlers of each and every hostel and think you brother must be adjust to do that becuase its matter of harldy a year and as soon as the next year , he will do the same to his juniors
@Blossomdcouto (19)
• India
26 Dec 06
Your brother should try to adjust since this is happening in most of the hostels. In case it is too severe then he should inform the Warden In-charge.He should also remember that he would be following the same principle for his juniors next year.
@rahulnagargoje (11)
• India
26 Dec 06
Hey dont worry.Just go to the college /hostel management and make complain about it.If they are failing to take action then make a complain in Police there is provision for anti ragging.
@1212121212 (122)
• India
26 Dec 06
It seems that the seniors have beaten up the warden itself once n no action was taken against them. if this is the case, I don't know how much effective my complaining will be.
@kishan8 (33)
• India
26 Dec 06
hey...m also staying in hostel bu at presently m in 3rd yr....i know wat kind pf problem we face in 1styear....according to me tell ur brother to be friendly with seniors...dont show any kind of attitude....try to be in limit...respect them...if he follows this seniors will understand and further they will stop ragging...and teel u frankly when ur brother will face any kinda problems those seniors only will help him...
@1212121212 (122)
• India
26 Dec 06
Not everyone rags. There are many nice seniors also. Only fewidiots do this.
@vipul20044 (5793)
• India
26 Dec 06
That is too usual buddy dont be dejected thats the hostel life
But siriously if things get way to agressive its better to complain
But as of now, its better to keep things Quiet as later or sooner they will sober down and they will be friends
if he rebels that is true, he can complain against a handful but later the whole hostel will make his life a hell
SO its ok buddy just wait for the right time and everything will be just fine
@hiteshnihalani (2121)
• India
26 Dec 06
he should become stoger to avoid them and not follow the rules of sunior...
@muralikumar2005 (622)
• India
26 Dec 06
Ragging can only go on to a certain extent. In your brother's case it seems to have gone overboard.If your brother doesn't stand up to these boys now he will never do so in later life. Rather than complain to thee warden or principal what i would suggest is for your brother to stand up to these boys
@pufitza_mison (627)
• Romania
26 Dec 06
i thinck that the first year will be hard on it but in time maybe the thincks will be rezolve...maybe he must behaive respectuous with them and maybe they will understand that they wrong.Maybe if you will be implicated in this maybe will be worst maybe they will revange on him becouse they know he is skared,maybe is better that he solve his problem to get selfcontrol.
@tricia_toh (112)
• Malaysia
26 Dec 06
Hey that's too much! I'd say, request to transfer to other hostels if possible and explain his problem to the authorities. Do not be afraid, each and everytime they threaten your brother, report to the warden. Don't make them thing they rule the place. They got no rights to treat your brother that way. Ask your brother be strong, build muscles and look tougher.
Most important, concentrate on his studies and don't let this affect his studies.
@shyam4uall (1002)
• India
26 Dec 06
I think it is common to all engineering colleges in India and everyone has to follow these misery..Laws and orders or rather anti-ragging committe set up in college all these are just useless, they are just there for name.I think if you are facing these problems for many months and the seniors are not stopping their habit I would recommend that you complain to higher authorities.These is because usually the seniors carry such acts for some days or months and then they stop it..but if it is not the case for you..then complaining is the only option left to you.
@shijjukhan (207)
• India
26 Dec 06
Hi...you ddnt mention that you are guy or gal....as guys have their own way of dealing and gals have their own...your brother is right if you complain to warden or the principal those guys certainly make your brother's life miserable..as they wiil be with him whole day he cant escape too.....
its better you talk with those guys and sort out the problem because its much more than ragging....and you have to help your brother at any cost otherwise he may get depressed .....so all the best...
@neeyor (147)
• India
26 Dec 06
well i m a second year student!!! before admission the col said me that there is no regging!!! but i didn't belived them and decided to stay out!! i was the lucky 1. all friends of mine slowly left the hostal for this same problem. if we complane the athority the again he wil bigger problem afterwords!!!
@chethu2k6 (43)
• India
26 Dec 06
Its normal when u stay in hostel.Ask ur brother to get out of that hostel and share any room with his friends taking a room on rent
@zee123372 (18)
• India
26 Dec 06
In higher studies raging is a ushual thing & more u rag they vl becom more friendly wit their seniors & it vl make u adjust wit al situation. so try 2 adjust wit tat situation. surely those seniors vl stop raging soon bcuz its just a way of intraction.
