Is it okay to love someone even if you know he/she does not love you?
By madonna143
@madonna143 (1737)
Philippines
56 responses
@mansonteen (486)
• Romania
26 Dec 06
i don't think you can really chose who to love... you just do. but if the felling isn't shared you should try hard to get over it because otherwise you will suffer a lot
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
Well I know that you are right but some persons would continue to love that person even if it means getting hurt. I really sometimes do not understand this.
@jillann (779)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
It is not bad that you love someone even if he/she loves someone else as long as the person is not yet committed. But if the person is already committed or connected with someone else, you better stop your feelings and set him/her free. Just be thankful that some time in your life you were able to meet a wonderful person.
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
That's really very romantic. I had a high school crush. I remember that after high school, I called that person for three consecutive years during Christmas and birthday just to greet. I would not know if I will still be attracted if I see that person.
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
29 Dec 06
It happens all the time. 99.95 of your relationship is that way. Its aways someone doing the heavy lifting.
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@natuser28 (907)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Yes but you know it someone in the relationship love the other person more so than the other way around.
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@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
I'd really beg to disagree with your statement. In a relationship, when two people are in love, they usually share the same load. There's always compromise. One helps the other and vice versa. That is why it's called a relationship.
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@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
26 Dec 06
hehe...i think it's always the best to find someone who loves me more than i love him...so if the other person dont love me, i will not even tell him about my feeling...
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@123456_ (1052)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
You must end the relationship i think. Its not proper to continue a relationship when one is not already in love. It is a give and take commitment. It is impossible to stay if one cannot give and one cannot take. its an absurd feeling to tell you.
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
It is true that sometimes we can't help loving someone even if he or she does not feel the same way for us. This would entail a lot of hurt and frustration. So, we must not expect anything from this person.
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
To some point you are right, but what if you would be lonelier if you let go and went away from that person? Sometimes letting go is the hardest. Maybe the trick is, if some people are in this situation, you may continue to love him or her but don't expect him or her to respond to your love.
@akosi63 (331)
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
Loving someone has different level, like love for family, friends, or just love for fellowmen. I think we shouldn't end on loving someone, but put an end on expecting that someone will love you back the way you want. It is the right perspective of love. The root of it.
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
Thanks for the detailed comment. But this love that I am talking about is the romantic love for another person. To love someone romantically even is he does not feel the same way for you. Maybe, the trick is like you said, not to expect anything in return so that you would not be hurt if he or she does not respond back to you.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
Nobody ever said that it's wrong to love someone who don't love you in return. You can always give love as long as you don't allow yourself be taken advantaged of. It is important that you give yourself worth before anything else. You can never love completely if you don't love yourself first. If loving someone who doesn't love you back causes you heartache, moreso, if the person is mistreating you or hurting you intentionally, then it could be wrong for you to continue on with him/her. The love you have for him/her would remain for a while, yes, but you shouldn't stay with him/her. Love him/her from afar and be content with that.
"Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to be involved with them. Love is not a bandage to cover wounds."
One way love doesn't work. All of us desire to be loved. No one could do without someone to love them. Sooner or later the one being taken for granted will grow tired and not long, he/she will find the one for him/her. Or someone will find him/her.
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@pb08aw0168 (400)
• India
29 Dec 06
it is quite normal.. there r many people who face this situation. one must try and over come this situation
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@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
It is true that you can fall in love anywhere, anytime and even with a complete stranger. That's why if we are ever on this situation, one should not expect anything in return for this kind of love so as not to get hurt in the end.
@jayda_j927tijs (2893)
• Hong Kong
26 Dec 06
Yeah I guess,I have had a few setbacks on loving someone but who didn't return his love to me,but it's ok,as long as I'm in love with him,that's what it counts.
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
Well that sounds like that you must have loved him so much to go on loving him even though he is not in love with you. Maybe for as long as you are happy with what you are doing then I guess it is okay to go on. Right?
@frosthon (2249)
• Singapore
26 Dec 06
If you truly love somebody, of course you can continue to love them in your way even though they don't love you. Who knows, time will change the way they think about you. If you love someone, seeing them happy is the best thing for you.
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
That's truly nice. Well I also think that if you are happy and willing to love that person even though he or she is not in love with you then go on. Sometimes you can never choose whom the heart wants.
@sukiwillbe (218)
• India
26 Dec 06
No I dont believe in that.... I would say my time, my love, my affection, my caring nature are all precious... so they should be spent only for people who are worth it....
I go by the wordings which says...
"Make not someone a priority
For whom you be just an option"
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
That is good for you. But I could not say the same thing for myself and others like me. Sometimes we cannot choose the person we fall in love with. Nevertheless, still we settle for being an option for no reason. Have a nice day!
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
As i have said sometimes, you cannot choose what your heart wants. You have many other options, but the person whom you really want may be involved with someone else.
@Addicted100 (38)
• Pakistan
26 Dec 06
WELL it depends if he/she thinks your total nut job then ya end it straight away if u guys are friends or somthing then by all means go ahead give it a shot
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
You might be friends but he/she might be involved with someone else. Would you still go for it and risk the friendship?
