If you were madly in love with someone, and were convinced they were the one....

@emisle (3822)
Ireland
December 26, 2006 6:14pm CST
would you marry them and spend your life with them if you wanted children but they didn't under any circumstances, or vice vearsa?
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
27 Dec 06
Wow, that is one tough question...I really, really want children, but if i was certain, without a doubt, that this man was the one and that we'd never separate..then i'd marry him. Because if he was the one, it means i wouldn't find any other "one", just a guy to have kids with. Of course, i'd probably love him, in some way, but who says we'd be together forever? Who says we wouldn't be fighting all the time, which would not be good for those kids. It is a tough choice though.
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
27 Dec 06
I think it's one of those q's you just can't decide until you're in that position.
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@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
27 Dec 06
no I don't like blind love at all it comes out of immaturity.
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
3 Jan 07
i don't understand, what do you mean by 'immaturity'?
• United States
27 Dec 06
I am not sure on that one. My girlfriend was dating a guy for 6 years and he was 100 percent not getting married and not having kids. So she left him. Now a year later she is happily dating a guy who wants both of those things. So I think I would find someone else. You have to do what makes you happy and I may regret someday not having kids if I was with someone who didn't want them
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
27 Dec 06
I agree, it would cause constant problems.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Dec 06
Hi Emisle That is a tough Question to ask lol But yes I would still marry him as Love is the main thing to me everything else will either happen or not but I am being loved and cared for and I am with the Man that I love so yes I would marry him
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
27 Dec 06
well i asked it because i've always wondered about that! And everyone is going to do something different..:)
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@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I think the issue here is why would they be the one if you want kids and they don't? I'm sorry but "The One" must want children as well.
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
27 Dec 06
So i'm guessing you'd keep searching!
• India
4 Jan 07
Yes! I will marry any case. even she met any accident and lost the power to see. Thouchwood this will not happen. What I mean all about if you love someone do not left at any cost 'whatever the reaion bihind' you can adopt a child. this is the best solution. I will with her at anycost/anywere. what do you say?
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
4 Jan 07
i think it's a very tough choice as it's definitely life changing.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
3 Jan 07
I wouldn't stay with them even if we love each other. I got to have children. That's important to me.
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
4 Jan 07
depends on my age... if I am 20, will keep serching....I am not planning kids, so it wouldn't matter....
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
4 Jan 07
that's a good point, it also depends on where you are in your life.
• Philippines
3 Jan 07
I got married because I love the person not because of anything else...
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
3 Jan 07
people are a bit divied on this, but than again, it would be a boring world if everyone was the same!
@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
3 Jan 07
Well (using the word "you" hypothetically here), you could break up with them, but who says that whoever you meet next is going to be able to have children anyway, or whether you'd be able to have them yourself? All you'd be doing is passing up positive love for a chance.
@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
4 Jan 07
That's true alright, but some women may resent their partners for not giving them a child.